https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 21:25:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784665 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 20:13:09 +0000 babypugs 2784665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Two hours?????? That is impressive! Yeh I'm always like...I'm tired, make it snappy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784664 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 20:11:38 +0000 babypugs 2784664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Ha! Well, I always tell my husband that he'd get better quality of he was willing to sacrifice quantity....I guess it's a trade-off. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784477 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 12:45:44 +0000 snowjewelz 2784477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babypugs: My husband shall never know you exist, lol. </p> <p>@avivoca: I can't really remember, but it's been a while for us too. I know it's when DD2 started waking a few times before I even go to bed. And I have negative drive, if that is possible!</p> <p>@travellingbee: Marathon sessions... What are those?! I just don't have energy for that anymore haha! </p> <p>I didn't vote b/c it varies so much. I've had a tough time since we had DD2. I'd say if I'm in a good place, at least once a week is no problem (or even more), but DH &amp; I had agreed to help me work on getting me better first (happier, more down time, etc) so sex is currently kinda off the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784421 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 10:54:01 +0000 Mamatimes3 2784421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works a shift schedule so we're about 2-3 times a month. Each of us would like more but with his schedule and 3 kids, it doesn't happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784420 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 10:50:10 +0000 Adira 2784420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're about twice a week, although that was over the summer when we were both relatively healthy. And it's also possible because our youngest is almost 3 now, so we have a bit more time for each other.</p> <p>Now that it's cold season, I suspect we'll go down to once a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784417 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 10:46:07 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2784417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: lol. Totally!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784396 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 09:53:58 +0000 avivoca 2784396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's been three months. It's depressing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784384 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 09:24:51 +0000 josina 2784384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are usually once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less. My libido has definitely suffered, I'm blaming the birth control pills... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784383 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 09:23:40 +0000 periwinklebee 2784383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: 2 hours :shocked: wow, that is some serious endurance! I think that has to count for at least 3 or 4 x. </p> <p>I'm currently third tri, so yeah, the next time my pregnancy app informs me that my sex drive has never been higher, I might need to toss my phone out the window :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784372 Mon, 06 Nov 2017 07:42:49 +0000 Ajsmommy 2784372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need to be better with this. We are 1-2 a month usually but since DS it's more 1 every few months. I am still pumping and bf'ing and honestly I just don't feel into it!! DS is almost 9 mos so hopefully i'll get back into it. I feel bad for DH but not that bad. I try to explain it to him but, eh, he's a man.. he doesn't get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784354 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 22:28:13 +0000 birdofafeather 2784354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: two hours?! i would die. we're a "hit it and quit it" kinda couple 9 times out of 10. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784352 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 21:58:53 +0000 youboots 2784352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes 2x in a day sometimes not for a few weeks. We are good communicators so it works for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784350 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 21:41:23 +0000 Ina85 2784350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Babypugs: we're pretty much every other day and my husband is always mentioning how we need to be having more sex! He wants it at least 2 x's/day, I tell him all the time that he's a sex addict, crazy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784342 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 21:01:52 +0000 travellingbee 2784342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babypugs: I don’t know how y’all find the time! That’s sounds exhausting!</p> <p>I think maybe some people don’t have marathon sessions... I can’t commit 2 hours a day to DTD. I’ve got laundry and lunches and work. And most importantly sleep! If we ever had quickies it’d be easier but that never seems to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784339 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 20:52:17 +0000 babypugs 2784339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: @arosebyany: Right?? I keep telling him to ask his friends so that he can get his reality checked! If it were up to me I'd vote twice a week, but he'd pick daily, so this is a decent compromise for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784337 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 20:48:54 +0000 Mae 2784337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between #1 and #2 it was anywhere from 2 times/week to 2 times/month. I'm still not released for action after #2 but I expect it'll take us a while to get back into the swing of things (esp because #2 is still in our room, and will be until 6 months probably). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784334 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 20:39:04 +0000 winniebee 2784334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I still be considered post partum?! Baby is 4m old.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784331 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:57:56 +0000 arosebyany 2784331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babypugs: 😂😂😂😂 bless his soul 😂😂😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784330 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:56:46 +0000 arosebyany 2784330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before DS, multiple times a day 😂😂. Since DS 3 times a month. Poor DH but my libido when right out the window with birth and two years later it still isn't back. I've read that lack of D3 and iron can cause low libido after birth. So I'm working on consistantly taking both to see if that helps. Sometimes I try to fake it, but I must not be very good because DH doesn't buy it. 😳 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784326 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:49:59 +0000 erinbaderin 2784326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, this is a big stress in my life - both of us have a fairly low drive but going for weeks stresses me out because I feel like we should be having more sex, so I’ve instituted Sexy Mondays, which isn’t fail proof (two kids, lots of colds) but has helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784325 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:39:45 +0000 travellingbee 2784325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babypugs: um? 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784323 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:23:02 +0000 babypugs 2784323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Typically every other day. My husband swears that's on the low end. He is crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784322 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 19:04:05 +0000 Portboston 2784322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Id say 3x a week. Sometimes more but not usually less. It’s been a HUGE problem in our relationship. We’ve been working on it for years through counseling and it’s done some major damage to our relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784316 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 18:03:35 +0000 crazydoglady 2784316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: Basically the story of my life. I tell DH that it just doesn't occur to me most of the time. I think I have a really low drive due to taking an SSRI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784315 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 17:46:32 +0000 travellingbee 2784315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we would more but one of us is always sick. That’s our biggest problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784314 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 17:43:04 +0000 skinnycow 2784314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted once per week but it really varies. When we get in a groove it's 2-3x per week but we get in ruts where it's more like once every few weeks... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784311 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 16:57:43 +0000 cyndistar3 2784311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It varies, sometimes it's nearly every day, sometimes it is once a week or every few weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784309 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 16:38:30 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2784309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was about weekly. We've dropped to 2-3x/mo. I, unfortunately, have zero drive &amp; dh feels bad initiating all the time. It's a big problem &amp; I feel so guilty for not missing sex. I do worry about damaging our relationship, so I need to really try harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784308 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 16:22:34 +0000 Purpledaisy 2784308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something that we need to work on... once every couple of months :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-children-and-are-not-ttc#post-2784305 Sun, 05 Nov 2017 15:39:37 +0000 cascademom 2784305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once a week, scheduled. Anything beyond that is considered bonus yeah! Scheduling it has helped our communication dramatically. </p>