https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 05:37:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970368 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:33:19 +0000 Sunshine1810 1970368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say that I am so very sorry for your loss. :heart: You and your family are in my thoughts. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970322 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:19:02 +0000 MK0180 1970322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970307 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:11:26 +0000 Kimberlybee 1970307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace to your mom and may her memories help carry you and your dad through this hard time. :heart: :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970303 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:08:22 +0000 MrsKoala 1970303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970302 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:08:02 +0000 loopedd 1970302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, so sorry to hear this news :sad: I hope you and the family are coping the best that you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970301 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:07:53 +0000 MaryM 1970301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: Even if he says no now, I suggest inviting him later when things are starting to settle down.</p> <p>Or even ask him to come and "help" you. Even if you don't need the help. It might make him feel good to be needed. </p> <p>If you need anything feel free to wall me. My father's death wasn't unexpected (he had brain cancer), but in the overall scheme of things I know how much it sucks to lose a parent.</p> <p>And something another boardie said to me about loss (in a MC forum) that I think is really useful...Respect the Funk. </p> <p>You're going to get into funks and you're going to be tempted to push those feelings down and ignore them in an effort to move on. Don't be afraid to feel the funk and wallow in it a bit so you can move past it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970291 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 10:02:38 +0000 catlady 1970291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom a few years ago and was worried about similar things for my dad. We knew it was coming, but she passed sooner than we expected and it was very hard. In the early days, I tried to help as much as possible where I could - going through her things, helping him design her headstone, etc. My dad does best when he is busy and planning something, so we planned a vacation as a family (me, DH, my dad, and my brother) and we started a tradition of celebrating my mom's birthday with a dinner and the day she died with a brunch. I encouraged my dad to stay close to my mom's family since his family is not local, and they have really helped support him too. These days I try to make sure my dad gets lots of opportunities to hang out with LO, since I know she brings him alot of joy. </p> <p>I think just being there is the most important thing, whether it is being physically present or just calling alot, and then as time goes by, making sure he is getting out, seeing people, doing activities, etc.</p> <p>Hugs, and make sure to take care of yourself too. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970254 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 09:36:04 +0000 chanada 1970254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.</p> <p>I don't have the exact same experience as you, but I did lose my mom when I was in high school. At the time I wasn't in a position to fully support my dad as I might be able to now. He has since remarried and now separated. Both my sister and I live out of province so he lives alone with my little half brother who is graduating from high school.</p> <p>He has siblings and my grandma there that he has meals with weekly and during weeknights he has been occupying his time involved in his church, choir and small group. </p> <p>It sounds like your dad also has a good community there to support him. I have also invited my dad to visit us since we moved but he never did. However I think he does appreciate the Skype calls we do with him especially with LO and it's nice to keep inviting him even if he does not visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970215 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 08:59:26 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1970215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I wish he would come stay with us. I offered, but I don't think he will take us up on it. I may ask again though... or at least plan on going down every other week or so. It is going to be hard once January gets here though, because I am nearing the end of this pregnancy and I am considered high risk and can't be away from home. :( Maybe I can talk him into coming to visit even if he doesn't stay... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970180 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 08:31:33 +0000 Greentea 1970180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I am very sorry for your loss. It has been two months since my dad passed. </p> <p>Just do the best you can. Can your dad stay with you for awhile? Can you visit often? That sounds like a very difficult transition for him. I would just do my best to include him and think of him as often as possible (calls, letters, but in person contact #1!) I am so sorry. Because it is the holidays, can he stay with you or another loved one?</p> <p>It is hard when everyone goes back to their lives. I have had to really reach out to others. I would do your best to continue to reach out to him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970179 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 08:30:58 +0000 JennyG 1970179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice, but I am so sorry for you and your family. I hope you find peace and support with each other during this difficult time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970175 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 08:26:06 +0000 Mamaof2 1970175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear of your loss - sending lots of hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970158 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 07:39:37 +0000 travelgirl1 1970158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for your loss. Big hugs, you and your family are in my thoughts :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970152 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 07:19:07 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1970152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Forgive me for not tagging everyone individually, but thank you so so much for the kind words and prayers &lt;3 I love this community so much &lt;3 </p> <p>I am definitely going to spend as much time there possible. Dad lives in a very small gated community in the middle of the country (he and my mom built a lake house there when Dad retired). It is small, but everyone knows each other and they are checking in on him frequently. All of our extended family and close family friends are 10 hours away, so he is actually going to go visit there after the service this weekend. He has lots of short term support, but most of the friends in the community are really mom's friends, since she was the social butterfly. They all love my dad too, but he isn't one to be incredibly social on his own. I am a little worried about what happens when the shock wears off and everyone gets back to their normal lives...I am afraid that all of the things he used to enjoy doing he will feel guilty doing/enjoying without my mom. </p> <p>Thank you so much for all of the advice. I am so sorry to those of you who have also lost loved ones. It isn't something I ever anticipated dealing with at such a young age (Mom was only 54) and I am still feeling pretty numb about the whole thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970134 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 06:29:49 +0000 ValentineMommy 1970134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss! &lt;3 Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970101 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 02:20:59 +0000 lamariniere 1970101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I lost my mom unexpectedly almost 8 years ago. My parents had divorced a number of years earlier (neither remarried), but had remained friendly. My dad definitely went through a grieving period. When mom passed away I was at a strange point in my life, so I ended up moving back in with my dad for about 2 months before leaving to literally start my life over. My dad isn't really the emotional type, at least not out loud, but I think it was nice for him to have me around. I would try to visit as often as you can in the first few months, or could you invite him to come visit you? Do you have siblings that could do the same? I think one if the main things aside from the actual death and grieving is the loneliness that follows. Does he have a close family or social circle near him that he can lean on? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970077 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 00:48:28 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1970077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm more sorry than I can ever say. I don't have perspective or advice but wanted to sendin you huge hugs during this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent/page/2#post-1970074 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 00:41:34 +0000 ChitownRo 1970074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I'm so very sorry for your loss https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970060 Thu, 04 Dec 2014 00:01:38 +0000 pregnantbee 1970060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970056 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 23:51:52 +0000 Blueberry 1970056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your family is in my thoughts. I'm so sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970048 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 23:41:38 +0000 Pancakes 1970048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970043 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 23:31:47 +0000 MaryM 1970043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am really sorry. I lost my dad 6 years ago, and fil the next year. No matter the circumstances, it's tough on the other parent (I think my mother is coping better than mil...even though mil was divorced and remarried).</p> <p>I would see if you can spend as much time with him as possible for a bit. I did a ton of driving right after my dad passed (mom is also 2 hours away). But it was worth it because I worried when I wasn't there</p> <p>If family asks what they can do, if he has close siblings or cousins, suggest they not just come for the funeral, but schedule some time to visit later. Some of my dads cousins did that for my mom and it meant so much more. It's not like we really got to spend quality time with people at the wake...and it was good to have something to look forward to later.</p> <p>My parents did a lot together at their church, and I'm really glad mom has continued to be involved that way. She's started traveling with friends from those groups and doing really fun thing.</p> <p>But don't forget about yourself and what you need. DH and I weren't married yet when dad died, and he wasn't sure if we'd make it (he told me later). I retreat into my head when I'm depressed and sort of shut down. He didn't know how to help me. </p> <p>I highly suggest therapy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970032 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 23:08:02 +0000 Jellyfish 1970032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you find some peace and comfort in the days ahead. Your dad is very lucky to have such a loving daughter. I hope together you will get through this difficult time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970028 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 23:04:32 +0000 Pepper 1970028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I'm so sorry to hear this. Sending you a huge, huge hug. I lost my mom last October, and my dad and mom had been together for 32 years and were also inseparable. It helped my dad to hear from me and see me as much as possible. I know you aren't nearby, but phone calls also helped. My dad used to call my mom multiple times a day, and after she died, he would still have overwhelming urges to call her, which would upset him so much. </p> <p>It's still an ongoing process for all of us. I spent a lot of time listening and offering support, which I know he appreciated (and still appreciates). It's hard though, because as much as I wanted to help my dad, I needed support, too. So just make sure you have someone to help you through this time as well. If you ever need someone to talk to, I've been there, so please don't hesitate to write on my wall. Keeping you in my thoughts. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970009 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:45:59 +0000 ALV91711 1970009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1970005 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:42:40 +0000 MrsRcCar 1970005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1969988 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:31:01 +0000 mrs scrapbook 1969988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1969987 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:29:58 +0000 Bea 1969987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry! Praying for you an your family. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1969986 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:29:43 +0000 NurseDMB 1969986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have much advice because my dad passed away when I was only 11, but I think the best thing for your dad right now is just spending time with him and being there for each other.</p> <p>My thoughts are with you and your family &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-lost-a-parent#post-1969981 Wed, 03 Dec 2014 22:26:33 +0000 Ree723 1969981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Big hugs to you. :heart: </p>