https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:40:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1606309 Thu, 01 May 2014 16:15:52 +0000 Running Elley 1606309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been really conscious of this since DD was born. They usually both nap at the same time in the afternoons but when we're home for DD's morning nap (which I really try to make happen pretty often) DS and I spend time doing stuff that he wants. I don't do chores or anything during that time...just spend time with him. Lately we've been spending it outside in the garden. I really enjoy that time too. With DD it's actually harder since, at least when DS is awake, I try to include her in whatever we're doing (reading books, sitting in the bumbo with a toy while we work on puzzles, etc). Bedtime is usually "our" time. I nurse her and lay with her and sing and it's just us. I really enjoy that too.</p> <p>The plan is to make sure that they each get one on one time as they get older too. I can't wait to take them on little "dates" with just one of them and I! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1606259 Thu, 01 May 2014 15:56:28 +0000 BoogieBea 1606259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: @Weagle: it's amazing how a little bonding time affects your relationship with LO. They will also respect you more as an authority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1606016 Thu, 01 May 2014 14:30:00 +0000 Weagle 1606016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BoogieBea: @Mrs. High Heels: LO became a HUGE daddy's girl after weaning, so I'm already a little sad that there's no mommy preference - even occasionally! It makes me sad to think that she may want even less to do with me once #2 arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1606012 Thu, 01 May 2014 14:27:47 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1606012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: @BoogieBea: Same! That was us the entire first year when I was still nursing... so DH and DD formed a strong bond. They first started bonding when I was pregnant too because that's when DH started taking care of all the baths and bedtime routines so that my pregnant self could rest. </p> <p>After we weaned, we switched back so DH puts the baby down now while I handle DD again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605991 Thu, 01 May 2014 14:15:41 +0000 mrbee 1605991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BoogieBea: I've been carving out time in the evening to go on walks to the supermarket with my eldest... he really loves it, and we really reconnect when we get that quality time in there!</p> <p>Plus he loves to carry groceries home for me... I usually get a bag and put one thing in there so he can "help out"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605985 Thu, 01 May 2014 14:13:33 +0000 BoogieBea 1605985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: that's what happened with us. So now my older one is a lot closer to my husband and younger is closer to me. It's such a treat when I get to hang out with my older one alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605954 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:58:48 +0000 Dandelion 1605954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a whole lot. I can spend lots of time with M, but it's tricky with DS right now. But, we do bed time together and once in a while play a game together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605948 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:56:48 +0000 Weagle 1605948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll need to be more intentional about this when #2 comes in September. I already know that our default will be for me to be on mostly baby duty, while DH does things with LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605755 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:11:01 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1605755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel like it's something I need to go out of my way to do. Our main one on one times are pre bed or nap. Baby gets to hang out with me when my older one is at preschool, older one when the baby is napping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605738 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:09:07 +0000 Bao 1605738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes but not nearly enough </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605731 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:07:52 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1605731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something I hope to try to accomplish too once we get to two. I really want to make are each kid gets some time with mom and dad one on one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605707 Thu, 01 May 2014 13:01:11 +0000 autumnlove 1605707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of us takes LO to gymnastics and the other hangs with the baby at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605674 Thu, 01 May 2014 12:54:50 +0000 Maysprout 1605674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do, my baby is even more clingy than my first LO was so it is a little tricky but I do make sure to go on 'dates' with my first LO so DH and baby can get some bonding time too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605636 Thu, 01 May 2014 12:49:11 +0000 meganmp 1605636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do. We'll split them up, and I'll take one to the store or something. I love it:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605554 Thu, 01 May 2014 12:33:42 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1605554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, our childcare and work situation makes that possible because DD goes to preschool full-time, while my MIL watches DS at home. Since both of us have wah days, I always try to make sure I get some quality time with DS during the week. Then when DD comes home from school, I handle her bedtime routine so I get quality time with her every night. We spend weekends together as a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-have-more-than-1-child-are-you-able-to-spend-one-on-one-time-with-each#post-1605262 Thu, 01 May 2014 11:43:16 +0000 BoogieBea 1605262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter has swim class twice a week usually. This week is an off week. I just realized that I really enjoy this one on one time with her. Even though, we're in a class, it's one of few moments where she gets my undivided attention. I get one on one time with my son when he has a no school day. Otherwise, we spend most weekends as a whole family. I think it's important to have some quality alone time with each kid. I want to better more deliberate about it.</p> <p>Are you able to spend alone time with each child? </p>