https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 03:47:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-190835 Fri, 15 Jun 2012 00:48:27 +0000 ChuckNorris 190835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the friend. I am usually sober driver; way before my now-husband and I were even engaged, rarely would I ever drink...this has worked to my advantage with TTC =) Most likely, I would ask her if she was maybe after ovulation, or if she was late or something. But definitely privately =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185993 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:56:20 +0000 birdofafeather 185993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wouldn't ask, but i would wonder! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185867 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 14:00:07 +0000 Modern Daisy 185867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even if it was a close friend who had already been open with me about TTC, I wouldn't ask. I think it's wrong to out someone regardless of the situation. It's such an exciting thing to announce, why would you want to steal the thunder? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185820 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 13:27:37 +0000 kayakgirl73 185820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't ask. Unfortunately my husband did out a friend's wife this way. Luckily she wasn't too upset, but he felt really baby afterwards. He sometimes has foot in mouth disease. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185693 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:16:21 +0000 banana 185693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely wait unless it's a really close friend of mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185678 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 12:08:08 +0000 Running Elley 185678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything. I'd definitely wonder though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185624 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 11:31:19 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 185624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done it before... but to a really close friend, and 1 on 1... not in front of people. Both times, I was right. ha! She was pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185614 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 11:24:39 +0000 DillonLion 185614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't, because there are plenty of people who abstain for a variety of reasons (TTC, pregnancy, illness, etc.). </p> <p>There was plenty of times I went out without drinking, and I would be annoyed if anyone assumed I was pregnant. I just don't like to drink that much. I like to socialize, and most people prefer to do that in a setting that involves alcohol, so I've wound up being in that environment without drinking constantly throughout my adult life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185608 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 11:21:45 +0000 kml636 185608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's best not to ask, since I have been in many uncomfortable situations like that and after a miscarriage, most people thankfully know better than to ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185436 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 09:29:00 +0000 LuLu Mom 185436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would depend on how close of a friend it was, if it was one of my good friends I would probably pull her aside and ask her, but never in front of a group. I hated that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185430 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 09:25:44 +0000 Adira 185430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely wait until they broke the news to me. Now that I'm on the TTC-train, I know what it's like to have people who know you're trying ask if you're pregnant when you're not, and I'd hate to do that to someone else. I figure if they want me to know, they'll tell me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185392 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 09:07:51 +0000 MsLipGloss 185392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! If she wanted me to know, she would tell me. DH and I didn't tell anyone we were expecting until 8 weeks, and even then it was only our parents. We started to tell close family and friends at 12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185379 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 09:04:12 +0000 purrpletulips 185379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope-I actually stopped drinking about two months before we started TTC the first time. Second time I didn't think too much about it though. However we kept TTC to ourselves both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185371 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 08:59:37 +0000 mrsjyw 185371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I don't like asking intrusive questions and now that I'm in the preggo shoes myself, if I wasn't saying something about it myself - I wouldn't want my friends to ask me. There's a reason I wouldn't have spoken up about it, so I'm in the boat that I wouldn't ask, but I probably wouldn't have noticed either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185369 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 08:55:08 +0000 mamimami 185369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait, what's a party?</p> <p>But seriously, drawing on my social experience BEFORE becoming a mom, I am not that observant I guess, I don't think I'd notice. But if I did, and it were a really really really good friend who I think would react well, I'd ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-185365 Mon, 11 Jun 2012 08:52:33 +0000 Alivoo01 185365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was close to her, I'd ask her in private. If I wasn't close, I'd ask the hubby or some of my girlfriends what they think, but wouldn't ask the girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184969 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 20:12:19 +0000 Boogs 184969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait, if she was I wouldn't want to ruin her surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184967 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 20:11:08 +0000 sulli301 184967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait, maybe they are waiting to tell until they've told family or are past the first trimester or first doctors visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184848 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 18:32:00 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 184848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would wait...after our experience with IF, i've pretty much resorted to not asking first unless the woman is having her baby in front of me! ha!<br /> if it was a friend, it's certainly different, but i still think i'd wait until she said something first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184630 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 11:41:50 +0000 BSB 184630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely wonder but no I would not say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184602 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 11:11:04 +0000 mrs. bird 184602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were a really close friend, which I'm going to assume if you know they're TTC, I'd wait til no one could overhear us and say something along the lines of, 'i noticed you're not drinking, anything you wanna tell me??' and if she wants to spill she can &amp; if not drop it &amp; not straight up ask. </p> <p>I hate when people ask me things that make me feel like I need to lie in my answer, so I wouldn't want her to feel like she needed to lie and say she wasn't if they'd decided they weren't ready to share yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184588 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 10:44:58 +0000 eeh 184588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wouldn't ask. I probably wouldn't think too much of it though because we're not big drinkers and our friends aren't either so it's no uncommon to go out and not drink. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184584 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 10:39:53 +0000 Smurfette 184584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I keep my mouth shut every time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184578 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 10:35:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 184578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not! We went out with a couple who we knew were trying, and when the wife told me about the mocktail she had ordered (before we got there, so she didn't have to say anything at all) I was pretty sure that she was pregnant and would tell us that night, but I definitely didn't ask. Accidentally checked out her belly while we were talking, though. I was mortified when my husband asked her husband if she was pregnant though! Luckily they were planning to tell us that night anyway.<br /> I'm in the camp that they will tell us when they are ready. My sisters are the only exception, but I know we will all tell each other as soon as we can anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184563 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 10:24:33 +0000 PBandBaseball 184563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything. I am sure it's hard trying to keep it a secret until the time is right to share &amp; I wouldn't want to make it tougher on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184544 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 10:09:52 +0000 SleepyMonkey 184544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>only if she were a close friend, and while we were alone. otherwise, i'd pretend i didn't notice at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184532 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 09:46:50 +0000 Lindsay05 184532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait. I got that question from a close friend at a wedding and I was 6 wks pregnant. Honestly if I want you to know I would tell you otherwise shrug it off and get on with your night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184470 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 07:44:15 +0000 hilsy85 184470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would because I'm nosy. But when this was me (I was the friend not drinking at a party) NO ONE asked--I was really surprised! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184467 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 07:41:15 +0000 mediagirl 184467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What @mamamoose said. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-knew-a-friend-was-ttc-and-wasnt-drinking-at-a-party-would-you-ask-her-if-she-was-pregnant#post-184458 Sun, 10 Jun 2012 07:24:49 +0000 MamaMoose 184458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was a very close friend I would in private. But I would never ask in front of a group of people. I've had that happen to me a couple times and it is not cool. </p>