https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 07:38:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2396030 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 15:42:33 +0000 MrsKoala 2396030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having siblings helped a lot since I knew that I would never be truly alone in terms of having someone to play with or really just someone close to my age that knows me really well. I think that consistency was nice to have when there wasn't a lot of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2396004 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 15:28:09 +0000 Eko 2396004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up with 3 siblings in the house and I don't think it made it easier at all. I moved in the 2nd grade, 4th, and 6th grade, then the summer before high school. I think that in elementary school it doesn't make a difference but when I moved in 6th grade (within the same town) where that starts middle school my older siblings stayed in their school and I went to a different one. Then when we moved before high school my oldest sibling was a senior and commuted so he could stay and my other sibling I never got along with. It made no difference having siblings. It still sucked. </p> <p>If we need to relocate it'll happen before LO reaches middle school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395907 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 14:43:21 +0000 stratosphere 2395907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I moved every 2-4 years my entire life until adulthood. It sucked. I am one of six kids. It still sucked. Perhaps it would have been worse without siblings, but I can' t say that having them made it OK. </p> <p>I will do everything in my power to allow my LO to grow up and go to school in the same place once she starts school. It is just so incredibly painful to uproot kids in their formative years, siblings or no. Perhaps it made me stronger, and more outgoing and more adaptable. But it was miserable, to be perfectly honest, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. </p> <p>If there is any possible way to allow your LO to go to one high school and not move during those years, that is critical. Me and my little sister are the only ones who got to go to one high school for all four years, as luck would have it. We are also the only ones in my family of six kids that are relatively well adjusted and "successful," to be honest. I think the fact that we were less traumatized by having four years of high school at one school was HUGELY important to that stability that allowed us to achieve. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395890 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 14:35:49 +0000 BandDmommy 2395890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved every 3 years and I did fine with it. My dad was military. DH moved 4 times and had 2 brothers, they did not do well with it. I don't think siblings matter as much as the child themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395872 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 14:22:10 +0000 Mae 2395872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't move a lot but both my husband and also my ex long-term bf did. Both had sisters. Both handled it very differently. One of them learned to be pretty charming and sort of meld in anywhere and get along with everyone, he said because he was just so used to being the new kid. The other got in a lot of fights and became somewhat shy because he got tired of trying to fit in different places. </p> <p>Point being, I think innate personality matters more than siblings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395827 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 13:51:43 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2395827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it could have helped, but my younger sister is 4.5 years younger so we were never in the same school anyway and had a relatively short period of playing together (between when she was a baby and I became a teenager). My half siblings didn't live with us. It's hard to say, but I can definitely say that I never felt like I had someone in my corner, so to speak, and it has definitely carried on into adulthood and influenced my own choices and family planning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395748 Mon, 21 Dec 2015 12:34:18 +0000 Torchwood 2395748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: @Greentea: Thank you for your input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395299 Sun, 20 Dec 2015 23:33:46 +0000 Greentea 2395299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved a LOT. I think having siblings probably helped... ours was unfortunately connected to domestic violence, and I can say with certainty that having my siblings through that was extremely important (not that you are counting on that of course!!)</p> <p>My two older sisters were closer in age, so they were always in the same schools and activities. When we were older and moved to a small town I WAS DEFINITELY glad to have them and they felt the same way, and we all benefited from one another. It was a small town where most people were related and everyone grew up there... we were fish out of water together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395277 Sun, 20 Dec 2015 22:18:19 +0000 avivoca 2395277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think having my sister helped. We moved several times and it was good to have a constant. We are pretty close though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-moved-a-lot-growing-up#post-2395266 Sun, 20 Dec 2015 22:08:19 +0000 Torchwood 2395266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How did siblings (or the lack thereof) effect things, if at all? I was an only (mostly- I have two half siblings but they're 16 and 13 and I never lived with them), and moving was hard because I left all my friends. I feel like it would have been a little easier if I'd at least had someone to play with. But siblings don't necessarily get along/play together, so who really knows?</p> <p>DH mentioned last week that he's no longer 100% certain about being one and done. I think with our history we won't change our minds, but I've been thinking about it. We'll always move a lot with DH's job, so I wonder if it's be easier on L if she had a little brother or sister. Not that that would be a deciding factor at ALL, but just something to take into account. </p>