https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 12:12:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662421 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 05:40:03 +0000 rawrasaur 662421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I love kids and would eventually consider alternative routes if it got to that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662408 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 03:54:28 +0000 SugarplumsMom 662408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said I would have eventually adopted, but I never looked into the logistics of it. I don't see it happening without DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662407 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 03:53:50 +0000 Weagle 662407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I've always wanted to be a mother, but I wouldn't have pursued it without being married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662400 Sat, 23 Mar 2013 02:26:48 +0000 lomom 662400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. I wouldn't bring a child into this world without a mom and dad and a strong family foundation. there are kids that turn out wonderfully when raised by a single parent, but it's really important to me for my kids to have two involved, loving parents who are able to provide. It's how I was raised and it's what I want for my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662291 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 22:08:14 +0000 rybybeach 662291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Perhaps one not anymore than that. Being a mom is one of the best things that has happened to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662147 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 20:22:52 +0000 78h2o 662147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cowgirl: Same here... if I wasn't married by 37, I would probably have done it alone in one way or another (adoption or AI). There's nothing I ever wanted more than to be a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo/page/2#post-662072 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 19:33:35 +0000 MsMamaBear 662072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I didn't even really WANT kids until I met him.LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-662068 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 19:31:08 +0000 pastemoo 662068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I had already planned it--I think that's when Gcd stepped in and handed me my husband... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-662023 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 19:03:16 +0000 Cole 662023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met really young and have been together for a long time so I never really thought much about it but I think that at some point I would have pursued adoption. The tricky part for me is income, I don't know how that would have worked out, so many of my life decisions have involved my now dh that it is really hard to tell what path I would have taken in life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661977 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 18:27:29 +0000 HLK208 661977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! I could do it without DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661967 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 18:19:46 +0000 Grace 661967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really want kids until I met DH and he started talking about our future family, so no. Plus, I could hardly keep my own head above water, so financially, it would be ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661930 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:45:41 +0000 mrsmenow 661930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a parent before I met DH so yes:)</p> <p>I don't think DH would have really wanted to have kids if he weren't with someone that already had one or really wanted one. I think he would have been ok not being a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661928 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:44:51 +0000 DigAPony 661928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I always thought I would have pursued a sperm bank option if I were still single in my mid 30s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661925 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:43:14 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 661925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I gave myself until age 35 to find and marry the right person. I grew up with around alot of career driven women who missed out on having kids and husband. I didn't want that for me. Even if I didn't fall in love I wanted a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661922 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:42:27 +0000 Anagram 661922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yup! I already decided before I met DH that I would start saving up my $$ for adoption when I turned 35 (decided that when I was 30). I just didn't want to "settle" for a guy just because I wanted kids, and I saw a couple of friends do just that.</p> <p>I figured I'd rather be a single parent (planned) than an unhappily married parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661912 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:36:46 +0000 crunch 661912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was single, yes. I always thought that if for some reason I wasn't married by a certain age I would ask a good guy friend to "donate" his sperm. Knowing what I know now with my LO I would say helllll no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661895 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 17:22:44 +0000 MamaMoose 661895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So tough to say. I have always always wanted to be a mother. But now that I know first hand how much work it is I just don't think I could do it alone. I thank God every day that I have my husband as my partner in all aspects of life but especially parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661829 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:31:49 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 661829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes. i think my age cut off would have been 37. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661827 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:28:10 +0000 MrsH 661827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661807 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:11:37 +0000 sera_87 661807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't want kids before DH and would definitely NEVER have them solo. I'd lose my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661800 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 16:03:19 +0000 cyndistar3 661800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Considering I didn't want kids until I fond out I was pregnant, probably not </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661792 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:57:35 +0000 BSB 661792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would but my baby fever didn't start until after we were married. Before getting married, I was really iffy on having kids. Getting older has definitely made me want to have kids... well, then there's the infertility problem that has made it worse, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661786 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:54:23 +0000 Trailmix 661786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely, I've always wanted kids but I think I would've gone the foster-to-adopt route with a slightly older child. Still would like to do that down the road, actually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661777 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:52:16 +0000 Mrs. Bee 661777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't think so now that i know how tough it is. i can't imagine doing it solo. but then again i can't imagine not having kids! i don't think i could do it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661773 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:51:05 +0000 SweetMamaM 661773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I probably would have, but I would probably have looked into solo parent adoption of an older child. I definitely want to have a bio kid with my husband, but I'm not sure I would want to go through the medical complexity of pregnancy and birth on my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661759 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:46:07 +0000 kiddosc 661759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know that I would have. An old roomate of mine has a one year old that she had through artificial insemination and she is looking into having her second. I find the whole process very interesting and she is such a strong woman. I don't know if I would have been strong enough, I depend on help from DH a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661753 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:44:23 +0000 BKCaribBaby 661753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I grew up with a single mother. While she is/was amazing, I watched first hand how hard it can be to raise a child (even one) without a partner. It was not something I wanted for myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661749 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:43:44 +0000 Beebug 661749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, would have more animals and be a crazy animal lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661745 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:42:40 +0000 CottonCandy 661745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know, that really is a great question! I am thinking no, only because like @artbee said, kids weren't that much of a priority to me until I got married to my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-never-met-your-so-would-you-have-had-kids-solo#post-661740 Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:42:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 661740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even have a desire for children until I met Mr. Jacks. Besides, I have tons of kids at work where I can get my fix. I think I would have been happily childless... but that wasn't in the plans for me and I love my life more than I could have ever possibly imagined! </p>