https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 21:44:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063526 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 22:25:27 +0000 jhd 2063526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love being home with LO. It's been awesome so far.</p> <p>The only negative is that I'm not very good at taking time for myself. But last week I started going to the gym early before LO wakes and that has helped. I hope I can keep it up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063474 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 21:41:55 +0000 Mrs. Pink 2063474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still relatively new to being a SAHM, I lost my job in December, and Caroline is 14.5 months old... so the entire first year I worked... but surprisingly I managed to be around for a lot of firsts!</p> <p>the best part of staying home now is seeing pretty much every little change- like when she giggled at a funny part on TV today-- for the first time. Normally she blank stares... or in the case of Frozen/Bubble Guppies, dances and sings. But never laughed, until this afternoon. </p> <p>the worst/least favorite is that I pretty much don't get a break... or a day off... and I work 24/7. That part isn't as much fun when I don't feel well, or on days where I literally can't go to the bathroom without hearing screams and crying.... </p> <p>it's worth it 99.9% of the time LOL that .01% is usually the days where I call my husband at work for a good 10 minute rant and have some chocolate then we're back at it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063154 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 17:39:14 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2063154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: haha my dh wouldn't wake up either unless I nudged him and told him he was awake ;) we've done this since the beginning and I still have to wake him up every time. He doesn't mind though. It's special time for them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063135 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 17:28:16 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2063135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: oh I've asked but he's so used to sleeping through her noise he often doesn't hear her and I don't have the heart to wake him....lol that's totally my fault because he would do it if I followed through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063131 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 17:25:58 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2063131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: have you ever asked dh to do mornings for you on the weekends? It is super loud in the house and I don't really sleep much, but laying in bed on Saturday listening to them have breakfast and sleep is so sweet to me. :) Plus, extra rest! LO is an early riser, so it's really nice to get a day or two where I can sleep until 7:30 or 8! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063117 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 17:17:53 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2063117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love it! I enjoy feeling close to LO. I just spent an hour in gorgeous 70+ degree weather walking around the yard holding my sweet girls hand and playing. I love being able to keep my house at least acceptable without feeling like I'm drowning. I love that I usually have time, energy and motivation to work out everyday without having to stay up later or sacrifice any time with LO (I'm sure that will change when LO 2 shows up). I love seeing her learn and grow. And I love being in control of our days.</p> <p>My least favorite part is that since I'm the primary care giver, I basically take care of all her needs on the weekends too. I don't get to sleep In a little or take off when something seems fun. DH is a great dad and husband but everything pretty much falls on me 98% of the time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063074 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 17:01:23 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2063074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My favorite part is getting to be with my child and soon children. I love the closeness and the ability to watch him grow and learn every step of the way. It can be hard work but I really do value and feel passionate about what I do. I never felt fulfilled by any of the jobs I worked. So maybe this is my calling or one of them. I also love that we can design our own schedule together. If its a beautiful out we can move our day outside. The flexibility and lack of an office environment is nice. I don't enjoy life behind a desk. When the kids are in school and more independent I hope to find something to do that I love or like and is a bit different than the office grind. </p> <p>My least favorite parts are not having my own paycheck, never feeling like I ever get time off, my husband acting like he is my supervisor, lack of household balance and my husbands inability to understand how hard I work, having almost no time to myself. When my son is sick or just having an off day or god forbid I am sick too it's just so hard to ever get rest.</p> <p>I still wouldn't trade it but its not easy. I know working is also very hard. I am pregnant and I can at least put a DVD on for my son and lay down but I know so many working moms who can't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2063034 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 16:44:49 +0000 illumina 2063034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Best thing: not having to go to work! It's pretty cool to (for the most part) decide what we're going to do every day...go to the beach, the park, hang out with friends, go shopping...all stuff I enjoy, with my little sidekick.</p> <p>Worst thing: not feeling like I appreciate her as much as DH does...like often he'll say "wow, isn't she just amazing?" after he's spent like 30 minutes doing bath and bed whilst I'm still tearing my hair out and trying to compose myself after a stressful day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062989 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 16:22:53 +0000 looch 2062989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My favorite thing was not being tied to a schedule, made for a very fluid, relaxed life. Baby got sick? No problem, reschedule. I used to get the "sunday yucks (remember those from grade school?)" and I was finally free of them.</p> <p>My least favorite thing was not being tied to a schedule, though, and it ultimately broke me and I returned to work. I cancelled a lot of plans, had plans cancelled on me, etc and it contributed to my social anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062979 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 16:14:25 +0000 pui 2062979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My favorite part is being able to live a "slower" life, even if it doesn't always feel slower lol. It's a more easy-going life than I had when I was working. I love being able to spend my days with my baby.</p> <p>The hardest part is not having any time where I can just be off. DD still wakes up pretty frequently at night, so evenings still feel like I'm "on" all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062964 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 16:06:59 +0000 jedeve 2062964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ginabean3: ugh I have the same thought. I always think "my mom worked so hard we could have all these opportunities that she didn't have. But I am a stay at home mom too so what was the point?" And I 100% realize that isn't fair or logical, but I still think it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062858 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 15:18:37 +0000 Ginabean3 2062858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite: being with LO all the time and knowing what she is doing, learning, etc. Doing fun things with her.</p> <p>Least favorite: doubting myself....sometimes I think to myself, "I went to college, got a graduate degree, and am I just wasting everything to stay at home?" (I did work for 10 years before having her though). But then I know if I was to work I might regret not being here for LO..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062849 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 15:13:45 +0000 HLK208 2062849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: ohhhh gosh! Being sick and taking care of LO's is so hard. We have yet another cold here and I was up for most of the night holding N while she slept but trying not to wake her when I coughed. Ugh. Miserable!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062709 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 13:46:04 +0000 littlejoy 2062709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I WAH (with a nanny here a few days per week), so I feel like I have the perspective of SAH. </p> <p>I love that our schedule is pretty flexible, and that I get to see milestones and have fun with LO. </p> <p>I hate that if she's sick, it's almost automatic that I'll be the one who has to sacrifice work that day. It's really challenging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062675 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 13:31:08 +0000 twodoghouse 2062675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I have that exact same problem. DH is equally obsessed with A and B so I don't think he minds, but when I'm around other adults, I feel like an idiot. I'm so engrossed in them and what's going on in their lives, that I can pretty much only talk about my kids or what happened on the Today show. Also, I only talk to 9 month olds all day, so I don't really know how to have an adult conversation anymore. I referred to myself as "mommy" in the third person at a baby shower the other day... Awesome.</p> <p>The best is that I have the funniest, cutest little people ever and genuinely enjoy being around them all day! I love seeing them grow and learn new things all day. And I secretly love that I am their favorite person, even if I pretend that it's so inconvenient or whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062626 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 13:14:17 +0000 Mae 2062626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite: Just hanging with LO all day. </p> <p>Least Favorite(s): Sometimes feeling like I have nothing interesting to say to my husband. All I do is watch our baby so when I want to have an adult convo about something OTHER than her I struggle. I need to work on this for sure. Also fear of not getting another job/lack of money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062541 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 12:43:28 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2062541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorites: being able to be there for everything...and being able to be flexible with his sleep. He is a super active kid and is also very high sleep needs. If he had been in daycare and had been forced into a 1 nap schedule at 12 months we would have had a very hard time. I also like that I can easily keep him home if he starts to get sick. It's easier for me to keep him healthy, which in turn makes our days smoother and less tantrum filled. I also love that I can keep up with the household responsibilities so that dh's time off work can be family time. We all get more of a break that way. </p> <p>Least favorite: I really really miss having co-workers and being surrounded by people all day. I have a very hard time being home all the time, and the last year it has been really difficult to get out and spend time with people. I also miss doing things that were mentally challenging...sitting and playing with trucks with lo is fun for me for about 5 minutes but then I feel pretty done. I think this will get easier as the kids get older and can be engaged in more complex activities, but the early years have been tough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062511 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 12:29:26 +0000 cookiemomster 2062511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm not sure I get to play since I technically work part time, but my shift is from 8pm-1am so after she's asleep. I love that I get to be here for everything- just today she said the word moon and I know she doesn't know what it means, but was repeating it (we were reading a book) I feel like that's a huge moment I'm so glad I get to see.</p> <p>Even the tiring or challenging times I honestly don't mind, so I don't really have a least favorite. I'd say my back issues cause the biggest problems when I'm alone with her all day and she needs holding a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062465 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 12:07:14 +0000 mrskc 2062465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite: spending lots of time with my kids. Seeing all their milestones. Flexibility in our schedule. Although my kids keep me super busy, I have a little extra time for my own hobbies. </p> <p>Least favorite: feeling like i never get a break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062463 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 12:05:30 +0000 artsyfartsy 2062463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a temporary SAHM. I love that I get to do everything with T. I get to decide what we'll do today, rock him to sleep, and just get to spend time with him. I get to make sure he eats what I want him to eat and gets enough naps. </p> <p>My least favorite part is that I spend all day in my jammies usually talking to a 12 month old. It gets very mind numbing at times. We try and go to the library and have baby gym on Thursdays, but still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062459 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 12:02:17 +0000 Peasinapod 2062459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a sahm until October when my mat leave is done. </p> <p>Favourite part: being there for my daughter 24/7 not having anxiety about how she is doing.</p> <p>Least favourite: I miss my work friends, and some days even my work! I guess that's a good sign since I plan to go back once my mat leave is done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062449 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 11:57:15 +0000 jedeve 2062449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite - that I have control over what my kids taught. From teaching LO1 how to identify birds, to doing LO2's PT, to disciplining in a way that's best for our family. </p> <p>That and the flexibility it gives us. Only one schedule to work around for vacations. More relaxing evenings. Freer weekends.</p> <p>Least - geez. I think my biggest fear is that society doesn't respect me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062345 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 11:08:39 +0000 pinkcupcake 2062345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Favorite- not missing any milestones, spending every minute with my kiddo, and having flexibility to do whatever we want during the day </p> <p>Least favorite- constant nagging fear that I'll never be employable again :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-sah#post-2062338 Tue, 10 Feb 2015 11:05:26 +0000 coopsmama 2062338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...what's your favorite and least favorite part of your role??</p> <p>My favorite part is probably the fact that I have gotten to see all of my LO's first milestones just because I'm always with them and also the fact that I get to nap every so often while my kids take their afternoon nap. </p> <p>My least favorite part is the fact that I have NO sick days. I feel horrible today and am home with my two as usual whereas my DH gets to come home when he's sick and be taken care of all day. :crying: </p> <p>What about you? :happy: </p>