https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 21 Jun 2026 20:40:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275831 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 10:38:47 +0000 Foodnerd81 1275831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only thing that worked for us was CIO, but she never got hysterical. I think CIO works great for some babies and parents, but I couldn't do it if she was hysterical, like you said. It doesn't sound like it is a good option for your LO. </p> <p>I will say C has been able to resettle herself since we started putting her down awake, so it's worth it even if you do the No Cry options that take weeks, you know? I hear you should expect it to get worse before it gets better :( </p> <p>Good luck. Not sleeping sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275826 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 10:38:35 +0000 buffalove 1275826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont remember DS being able to do "drowsy but awake" until 10-12 months, but he always transferred well when asleep so that's what we did. A bedtime bottle has always been out last step in the routine, and he always fell asleep and stayed asleep upon transfer. I loved our snuggle time and have no regrets.<br /> At 16.5 months he will now go in drowsy but awake. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275803 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 10:33:03 +0000 Alivoo01 1275803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is the same way. What's worked for us is nursing till he's content, then putting him down and talking to him ("mommy loves you. it's time to go night night. etc"). if he's smiling and calm, we'll turn off the lights and be out of sight. he usually fusses a bit with some brief crying out, but will settle down and put himself to sleep eventually. usually within 5 minutes. Now if I can only get him to STAY asleep.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275556 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:33:51 +0000 MsLipGloss 1275556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We weren't able to do *drowsy but awake* until recently . . . maybe the past month or so? LO is 15 months. And at 9 months, your options are going to be limited to *behavior modification* rather than *sleep training* . . . Do What Works! If that's nursing/rocking to sleep for now, then do that. As long as it works and is sustainable for your family, go with it. Screw what the books say about what you *should* be doing . . . It won't last forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275549 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:32:09 +0000 Silva 1275549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We stayed in the room. Did some patting and sushing, agreed to pick her up if she became hysterical. It never got past a whine. We did this for a week, and then tried leaving her. She fussed for 15 minutes the first night we left her (after a week of being in the room). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275533 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:27:18 +0000 Revel 1275533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been trying No Cry Sleep Solution to break the nurse to sleep habit with my six month old. I think we're starting to see some results after about a week and a half. I was having the same problem you describe, where she would wail as soon as she hit the crib if she wasn't in a deep sleep. I've been unlatching her progressively sooner and doing a pick up put down until she settles. I've found if I can get her at the right time she will just relax right into the crib. It is imperfect at this point, but I didn't want to do straight CIO. I have been letting her cry a little if she calms when I put my hand on her in the crib, and this seems to be helping too. I could never settle her without picking her up until I started No Cry Sleep Solution, so I think some of the tactics are working. </p> <p>We're not at a point of laying her down fully awake, but hopefully we'll get there. Everything I'm told about no cry sleep training is that you need to be prepared for it to take weeks, not a few nights. That said, the sleep we are getting now is far better than it was 10 days ago, it's just not as good as she was doing before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275528 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:26:43 +0000 hilsy85 1275528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: I definitely think being consistent is key--pick a method and stick to it for 1-2 weeks. If it's not working, then re-evaluate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275519 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:23:52 +0000 travellingbee 1275519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I'd be totally fine with "some crying". But it doesn't seem to end and it isn't crying. He is screaming and won't lay back down. It doesn't seem to matter at all if we are in the room or not, sitting next to him, talking to him, patting him. If he is in the crib, he is screaming. Sigh. I'm about to give up. I don't know what to do. We've tried both of those (sleep lady and pu/pd) but maybe we need to commit to it a little more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275488 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:10:39 +0000 hilsy85 1275488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We couldn't do drowsy but awake. We had to do awake awake--so we made book the last step of the routine, not nursing. It DID take some crying for him to go to sleep the first few times, but if you're not comfortable with leaving the room, can you do the sleep lady shuffle (gradually moving further away) or the pick up/put down method from no cry sleep solution? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-transitioned-to-drowsy-but-awake-at-bedtime#post-1275486 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 09:08:52 +0000 travellingbee 1275486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a major issue with sleeping with our 9 month old. Quick background: LO used to sleep OK until back to back to back ear infections where he wouldn't sleep unless held. Now he wakes up many times a night and won't go back in his crib. Everything I read says we need to get him going down drowsy but awake in his crib, rather than rocking or nursing. So we have tried with no success. He freaks out if he is even slightly awake. Other than CIO, how did you make this work?</p> <p>(I REALLY do not want this to be a CIO debate. I am not entirely opposed in general but we have tried multiple times and he sits up and will scream indefinitely. Last night was our final attempt and he screamed--not cried-- for 1 1/2 hours. I just can't do it. I sat sobbing. We need another solution.) </p>