https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 16:34:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631422 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 22:26:57 +0000 sapphire 2631422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. We both read "No Bad Kids" and then discussed it before implementing any changes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631281 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 18:39:58 +0000 youboots 2631281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but she's only 19 months old- so it's still mostly theoretical </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631252 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 17:26:10 +0000 PawPrints 2631252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes yes yes yes. We have a ton of conversations about it. I feel like he and I are both constantly striving to get better at it. There are some aspects of our chosen parenting approach that don't come naturally to either of us, so we are always having discussions about what we can do better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631107 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 14:12:00 +0000 catomd00 2631107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we both do. It's what comes most natural but we both slip at times. When that happens we usually just remind each other to use a different approach, or the other parent steps in and takes over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631061 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:43:29 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2631061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, we both parent this way. We each have our strengths and weaknesses with it, but usually one of us will notice the other struggling and step in to help get things back on track. I've done the bulk of the "research" (because I like to gather information and because I'm in the early childhood field), but my husband has read/sought out articles before. We talk a fair amount about tactics and what we think works/doesn't work/should change. I think my husband is comfortable with gentle parenting, just as a part of his personality. The only time we stray are times of high-stress (and then our own parent's bad habits rear their ugly heads!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631058 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:42:32 +0000 catlady 2631058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH's natural parenting technique is probably what is considered "positive parenting." I am the one who reads parenting books and I think I've read the positive parenting one (honestly, I've read so many at this point that I forget), but either way, I feel like both of us have really just fallen into this style of parenting unintentionally. We do discuss parenting techniques occasionally (mostly if I've read an interesting book or article) but we are lucky that we have also mostly been in sync naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631049 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:32:04 +0000 winniebee 2631049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not as much as I do. And you can see the difference in how they react when he does not employ these methods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631035 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:25:04 +0000 Silva 2631035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, yes. He has occasionally threatened time out, but I think it's only actually happened like twice. She's a really well behaved kid and typically we just need to pull her aside and talk with her a little.</p> <p>ETA: he doesn't read parenting books, but will read shorter articles or sections of books. We discuss parenting very often </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631028 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:20:52 +0000 snowjewelz 2631028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aim for this... While I am more "natural" at it and "better" at it (because I'm the one that reads about it and do the research, etc), this def isn't something DH defaults to so I just have to remind him and when it's working, I make sure he is noticing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631020 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:14:19 +0000 Cole 2631020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do, we don't discuss it a ton but for us it really helped that I was a nanny for a long time so I'd come home and say "wow, this worked really well" or "they want me to handle it this way but I'd rather do X" etc. It was a good, hypothetical way to get us on the same page. Now it's mostly "this worked well today" or "I'm trying to avoid X for this reason." He's really good about feedback and will typically defer to my opinion or will tweak it slightly for himself. It helps that I've been modeling it for so many years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-positiverespectful-parenting-techniques#post-2631015 Mon, 03 Oct 2016 13:10:01 +0000 yellowbird 2631015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spinoff from another thread on positive parenting. If you use these techniques (no time outs, your child is a whole person whose emotions are valid, no yelling, etc etc.), does your SO actively use these techniques as well? Do you discuss parenting techniques together? Does he/she do their own thing? </p>