https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 16:14:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2597153 Tue, 02 Aug 2016 14:04:54 +0000 PinkElephant 2597153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Popping back in to say "thank you" to everyone who responded. Will have to try out some of these ideas and see how we go - DH and I are also thinking that DD1's bedtime may just need to be pushed back a bit, particularly while she's not in school.</p> <p>@hummusgirl: Somehow I didn't think about unlocking the door when we go to bed - that would be a good middle ground if we end up needing to go that route. I already lock the door to the basement &amp; exits of the home.</p> <p>@MrsSRS: @MrsRoo: There currently aren't curtains - it's a two way street, and I like to be able to peek in on her as well :). I'm considering adding curtains, and yes, I think she'd definitely be influenced by having her view blocked/her room made totally dark. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593293 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 22:37:17 +0000 hummusgirl 2593293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is our biggest issue. He will come out 10+ times sometimes! And we've been totally inconsistent in how we deal with it. Tonight he came out twice and then the third time (when he came downstairs to tell us he wants to buy yogurt pretzels the next time we're at the store...), I gave him a choice - either go back to bed all by himself or I would take him but I'd lock him in. He cried but wanted me to tuck him in, so I did, and then locked the door (we have these: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Child-Proof-Deluxe-Door-Lock/dp/B012BR4TGA)" rel="nofollow">https://www.amazon.com/Child-Proof-Deluxe-Door-Lock/dp/B012BR4TGA)</a>. I told him I would unlock it when I went to bed so he could come to our room in the morning, and I did about 30 minutes later so no concerns of him being stuck there all night. He cried for about a minute but was passed out after that. We're going to really try to stick to this consequence moving forward since it seems effective, tonight at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593284 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 22:21:50 +0000 MrsRoo 2593284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: the first time is the pass.<br /> Hmmm, it's tough coming up with reasonable consequences at night. Is there a light that comes into her room that you could turn off if she uses her pass? That's what is ultimately behind my DDs thing with the door, there's a hallway light that comes into her room when it's open, so when we shut her door, we are making her room darker than she would like.<br /> I like what @MrsSRS: suggested with the kisses. My DD is very treat motivated, I could see that working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593257 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 21:30:18 +0000 MrsSRS 2593257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a bit different, but I've heard of putting three hershey kisses on top of the doorframe or somewhere in sight and out of reach, and removing one each time they come out. In the morning they get to eat what's left.</p> <p>Does she like being able to see through her doors? Maybe close the curtains halfway the first time then all the way? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593250 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 21:17:08 +0000 PinkElephant 2593250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRoo: That's a good one! So is the first warning the time the pass gets used up, or the time after that?</p> <p>Unfortunately I don't think DD would care, because she has (glass paneled) french doors on her room that are always cracked open. </p> <p>I have wondered about putting a baby gate on her door to use in the same way as shutting the door, but DH said he thinks it's unsafe, and I tend to agree (she can't come get us in an emergency). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593247 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 21:13:51 +0000 MrsRoo 2593247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she gets out of bed once, warning. Next time she's out of bed the door gets shut halfway, then all the way. I think she's only gotten the door shut all the way maybe 2 times. Shutting the door is a huge deal to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-use-the-bedtime-pass-method#post-2593246 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 21:09:39 +0000 PinkElephant 2593246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you use the "bedtime pass" method for getting a child to stay in bed at bedtime, what is the consequence for getting out of bed again after a child has used their "bedtime pass"?</p> <p>I'm considering using this method with my four year old, who is really having trouble staying in bed at bedtime. But I think for it to work, there needs to be some sort of consequence for getting out of bed repeatedly - and I'm having trouble coming up with a good one. It seems like most things I could do (take away a toy, take away the opportunity for a treat/screentime, etc.) wouldn't be implemented til the next day, and don't really relate to the the behavior I'm trying to eliminate.</p> <p>Would love to hear what works for you!</p> <p>For those interested, part of the reason it's such a problem is that she shares a room with her two year old sister...her getting out of bed is sometimes distracting to her sister. I also don't want the two year old to learn that it's ok to get out of bed since she may be moving out of a crib to a bed soon-ish. </p>