https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 09:34:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2653171 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 14:21:46 +0000 KayKay 2653171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@happybaker: i'm getting close to #3 (36w!), and although i suppose my feelings could change once he is here, i'm fine being done after this. neither of us have really ever considered 4 (we were a 2-3...), and while i'm sure i'll occasionally feel pangs of sadness to never be pregnant/have a newborn again, i'm also finding myself more excited for the fun things you get to do as your kids are out of the baby/toddler/preschooler stage (e.g., travel without carseats!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2653057 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 11:27:15 +0000 Cherrybee 2653057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HappyBaker: I will just have to wait for grandchildren :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2653049 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 11:21:04 +0000 HappyBaker 2653049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Yup that's exactly what I mean! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2653048 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 11:20:18 +0000 Cherrybee 2653048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HappyBaker: I've been wondering this, too. Like.... when people are done, do they really feel it? We are officially done at two.... and I don't feel it at all; I feel like my third child is missing and will always be missing. I feel sad every time I retire a piece of baby clothing and can't bring myself to donate the boxes yet. But we *are* done because it's the right decision for us financially and, true, I'm looking forward to the baby stage of our lives being over. But, oh, my youngest child who will never be! I wonder if, perhaps, I would feel this for hypothetical baby #4 and #5 if we gave into it?! Am I just mourning the end of my childbearing years? Or is someone actually missing? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2653039 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 11:01:08 +0000 winniebee 2653039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are pregnant with our third right now. We always said 2, maybe 3. I really couldn't mentally handle 4 kids and I'll be almost 37 at birth if this pregnancy works out. Feeling old and tired and definitely done with 3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652903 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 07:49:27 +0000 bushelandapeck 2652903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No 3rd baby yet, as I am still waffling. DH is totally on board for a third (he's 1 of 3) and I feel like I could go either way. I'm 1 of 2 and the two we have really keep me on my toes, as it is. That being said, I haven't given away any of the baby stuff and it depends on how the day is going as to whether or not I feel our family is complete ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652898 Wed, 16 Nov 2016 07:10:43 +0000 tequiero21 2652898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we always thought we would be done at three. We always talked about three. Our first two were twins, so it was SO hard. We didn't bond quickly - at least six months. I love them to death, but it definitely isn't the same as the intense love I have for my third kid. Like right off the bat. We bonded day 1. My hubby and I love our third SO much, we feel we can have one more. I'm pregnant with my fourth and I know 100% I AM DONE!!!!! I never had difficult pregnancies knock on wood, but I'm hating hating hating this nausea and I'm too old to be dealing with this again lol. I will get my tubes tied. I did give away all my baby clothes :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652819 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 20:42:38 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2652819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel done at three. DH is currently waffling on four. I'm ready.<br /> Just as you said, I picture more of us at future events. I'm not ready to be done with baby days. I love having newborns.</p> <p>I hope that feeling goes away after four. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652811 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 20:21:09 +0000 HappyBaker 2652811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: I'm so glad 3 is going great for you!</p> <p>@lilteacherbee: That is totally how I feel about a 3rd, that someone is still "missing" from our family. When I picture us at say, my daughter's wedding, I think there should more than just the 4 of us in the photos!</p> <p>Glad to hear some with 3 actually do feel done and at peace with that! :-) Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652749 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 17:40:46 +0000 PinkElephant 2652749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD3 is one month today, and right now, I feel finished. But yeah....I'm open to revisiting the idea in a few years (3-4, as opposed to 1-2) if DH is really itching for a fourth and we are in the right place financially, emotionally, and logistically. I'm finding the logistics of three challenging right now, sobid need at least two if not three kids to be in school before I'd even entertain the idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652734 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 16:10:54 +0000 ShootingStar 2652734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: If it makes you feel better, I felt like someone was missing before L was born, and now I feel 100% that our family is complete. I LOVE that super snuggly baby days, especially the first couple weeks when they're so tiny and you're still running on adrenaline. But that time is so short. I'm reveling in the little baby stuff now, but I'm also ready to move on. Ready to have my kids play together and start doing stuff as a family that we can only do with bigger kids. Basically, I'm ready to leave the baby phase of our lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652719 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 15:26:50 +0000 whiskers 2652719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO3 is only 4 weeks old, so I may not be over the hump enough to say for sure, but I really feel like we are complete. Mentally, physically, financially, etc. we are just at our limit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652710 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 15:05:22 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2652710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo3 is only 3 months and we are for sure done. But I also have no energy. I've said the only way we would go for four is if we had a major lifestyle shift (lottery, free daycare etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652678 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 14:12:38 +0000 lilteacherbee 2652678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: haha that scares me 😳 </p> <p>I'm wondering this, too. We never waffled on three because that's always how many I've wanted. After my first two were born, I still felt like someone was "missing." I'm 15 weeks with #3 and I feel like I'll be done after this and I'm at peace that this one is our last. The problem is that I always have major baby fever when the baby is like 3-6 months old and immediately want another. I'm really hoping that doesn't happen this time because I realistically don't feel like we could handle more than three (financially, mentally, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652672 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 14:09:03 +0000 skipra 2652672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Now that we have 3 and the transition from 2-3 was so much easier than I expected, I would love just one more if we are lucky enough and DH is on board, of course. I thought for sure we were done with three. I was ready to get my tubes tied while I was pregnant, lol. Now I can't imagine giving away all the baby stuff and never having another tiny baby to love and snuggle. It doesn't help that the big brothers just love him so much and my oldest is already asking for another baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-waffled-about-a-3rd-baby#post-2652670 Tue, 15 Nov 2016 14:04:38 +0000 HappyBaker 2652670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted a big family (which to me means 3-4 kids), but once I had my second I was SO DONE and positive we would stop at two. I even gave away all my maternity clothes and baby items as he grew out of them. </p> <p>Now that DS is almost 2 years old, I have completely changed my mind and want a third child again with all my being. DH and I go back and forth with who is most on board with baby #3, but I'm thinking we will probably end up going for it.</p> <p>My question though, is if you have 3 or more, do you ever REALLY feel done for good? I thought for sure I was done, and then once he stopped being a baby couldn't imagine never going through the tiny baby stage again. I'm wondering if you just keep going through that no matter how many kids you have, and if your family every truly really feels complete / done. </p>