https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 13:48:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1595154 Sat, 26 Apr 2014 20:06:40 +0000 cyndistar3 1595154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned lo at 21 months even though she wasn't ready, I was bad and gave in too I know it's so hard to deny that adorable little pleading face... I cried a few times. What ended up working for me was consistently trying to redirect her attention elsewhere when she asked. Its been almost 2 months now and she still pokes and asks but she doesn't throw a fit anymore. Good luck, I know its tough but you can do it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1595148 Sat, 26 Apr 2014 20:00:12 +0000 travelgirl1 1595148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: Aw, thank you. She's still really struggling to be honest, it's been three weeks tomorrow since we weaned (although a week since I let her suckle) and she still asks for it many times a day, sometimes she looks so, so sad about it. I feel terrible about it but there is just no way around it really, I had to do it. And yes, she IS a daredevil, ha ha. She has developed an insane teenage attitude lately too, that girl has a mischievous sparkle in her eye like no other. We should get the babies together soon, I promise A won't lead L astray and teach him how to climb the walls, ha ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1594727 Sat, 26 Apr 2014 13:31:49 +0000 californiadreams 1594727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: i just saw this thread now :( I don't have much advice, but i was sad to read it has been so hard for you ...... i hope things turn around soon and that you and A are able to cope better....and that you get a BFP soon so this is all worth it :)</p> <p>and i can't believe she can climb out of the crib already!! crazy! L is nowhere near being able to do that. Such a daredevil she is, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580130 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:47:23 +0000 MsLipGloss 1580130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: And, fwiw, she will still be your little buddy/shadow. I thought weaning would somehow change the connection we had . . . but it didn't. Not even one little bit. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580113 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:37:10 +0000 travelgirl1 1580113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: :heart: Thank you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580110 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:35:37 +0000 MsLipGloss 1580110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: It's really hard (it was for us at least)! I finally weaned LO at 15 months, and that was after being down to one mini pre-bedtime session and a few random sessions on the weekends. I honestly think it was harder for me (to say no) than it was for her (even though she put on a good show!). Just hang in there . . . it will get better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580107 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:31:52 +0000 travelgirl1 1580107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I know. You're right. I was bad yesterday. My thinking was that if there was no milk there, maybe it wouldn't interfere with hormones and therefore she could still get the comfort but that's not the case. I'm going to be a lot more consistent from now on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580103 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:26:29 +0000 MsLipGloss 1580103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The best thing you can do for her is to be consistent in not letting her nurse. Period. It's like ripping off a band-aid . . . the last thing anyone wants is to rip one off only to have it replaced by another . . . lather, rinse, and repeat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-weaned-before-loyou-were-ready-how-did-you-both-cope#post-1580096 Mon, 21 Apr 2014 07:23:10 +0000 travelgirl1 1580096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned LO two weeks ago at 17 months. Neither of us were ready for it, but I had to do it to start fertility treatments.</p> <p>LO has been SO upset, scratching at my chest, crying for "more" etc, but it's getting worse not better. Her naps (I suspect she's actually going through the 18 month sleep regression too, sob) have gone to pieces and she is inconsolable. To add to it, she can now climb out of both the pack and play she naps in during the week where we nanny, and her crib, so she just can't calm down enough to lie down and try to sleep. I think I'm going to put a sleep sack on her for naps to try and combat the climbing but even so, she gets hysterical with crying for boob. My milk has dried up now but yesterday I let her suckle anyway and she calmed down within a second, so I'm sure boob is what she wants. I feel so horrendously guilty, but I am having cycle monitoring at a fertility clinic and for the first time since A was born, this cycle is looking great. The doctor has told me even letting her suckle will interfere with my hormones, which could be the reason why even though my folli and lining are both looking great, my LH hasn't surged yet. So I just can't let her suckle. </p> <p>What can I do to make it easier for her? She isn't interested in a lovey, but seems to like to sleep with her straw cup of water. I would love, love, LOVE any advice. Thanks so much! </p>