https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 11:47:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2066030 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 10:38:12 +0000 Smurfette 2066030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: I agree. Put them in undies at least. Heck my LO likes to take her clothes off, but we are home and she wears a diaper. but when she is potty trained, she will wear undies at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2066016 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 10:31:01 +0000 Mama Bird 2066016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: that's really strange, I'd think after that incident they would at least put the little boy in diapers? It doesn't seem like he's ready to be out of them, or maybe he was just having a bad day but should have something on just in case.</p> <p>I'm not sure I'd be bothered by no clothes because they're still pretty little, but it seems very unsanitary. Can't they at least wear undies? I'd be really uncomfortable letting anytime sit on our furniture naked - we clean it and wash the covers, but you can only clean it so much, our couch and some other furniture were victims of pee, poopsplosions and spit up in DS's baby days, and we sometimes sit down in outdoor clothes which could have all kinds of germs on them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065736 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:38:00 +0000 Smurfette 2065736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: well we haven't had a get together at someone's house after the pooping time. The next time was at their house and their kids were running naked still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065730 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:35:22 +0000 meredithNYC 2065730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: oh my God, no!!! And the parents haven't learned their lesson? I would be sooo embarrassed if my kid pooped on someone's furniture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065707 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:26:44 +0000 Smurfette 2065707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: @erinpye: I used the Dad as an example because my friend (Mom of the naked kids) said the Dad was over for the playdate and she couldn't believe that he was so uncomfortable with it and made a couple comments. My point here, was she doesn't know his (or if it was a Mom's) background so letting my kids get naked in front of a stranger would not happen.<br /> @meredithNYC: the 3 yr old got naked at another friend's house and pooped all over the floor and then peed on the couch. So wrong....... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065690 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 08:13:25 +0000 MrsTiz 2065690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they were in diapers/undies that's one thing. If they were 3 and under and butt naked I'd suggest they at least but something on to cover their bits. At 5.. that is so inappropriate. At 5 you know you shouldn't be naked in front of non-family members. Gross. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065627 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 07:30:34 +0000 meredithNYC 2065627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a little weird that the oldest is five. But like, three and younger? Wouldn't faze me at all, though we don't generally do naked time at our house (we live in CT and it's too cold for that shit, lol).</p> <p>Now the naked wrestling? Would make me uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065586 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 06:28:34 +0000 ValentineMommy 2065586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they were like 2 or under it wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't say anything. But 3 and 5??? FIVE?? I mean, no. That's weird and I would feel uncomfortable. I'd probably say something, as awkward as that would be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065583 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 06:22:58 +0000 macintosh 2065583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would bother me at that age. I feel like they should know when it's appropriate or not at others have said, it's not just about protecting then from adults, but kids sometimes abuse other kids. It's a sad reality.</p> <p>This reminds me of a visit to my DH's old house and roommates a few years ago. The old roommates were having a party on the front porch. The yard was fenced in and overlooked a busy intersection and was right near an EL stop. One roommate's 3 year old son came outside completely bottomless (and shoeless). He started wandering around in the front of the house, in full view of all the strangers on the street! It made me so upset - not to mention the mom was drinking and barely paying attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065551 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 01:45:43 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2065551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No biggie. I think our society is far too conservative about nudity. It might feel a bit strange to me I will admit but I don't think the parents should have to justify how their kids act in their home so long as they aren't expecting your kids to do the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065540 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 01:00:00 +0000 erinpye 2065540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: yeah that confused me too- why is it a child's issue to control men's thoughts by clothing herself? And a perv is a perv regardless of how a child dresses, if that's what the whole dad thing even means. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065536 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 00:56:12 +0000 lemondrop 2065536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, not really a big deal to me. As long as they are potty trained, it wouldn't concern me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065531 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 00:42:40 +0000 HabesBabe 2065531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd laugh. I don't see what the dad of other kids is like having anything to do with it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065472 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 23:14:03 +0000 luckypenny 2065472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: agreed. </p> <p>My daughter takes her pants off (leaves undies on) the second she gets home from school. The other day she was playing with a neighbor and got naked. They were changing in and out if dress up clothes by themselves and they ran out naked a few times. We just laughed. But they are 2.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065469 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 23:12:38 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2065469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wouldn't bug me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065430 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 22:08:24 +0000 Kemma 2065430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was toddlers / preschoolers I wouldn't be bothered, nor of it was hot and the kids were outside with the hose but otherwise I think clothes are the way to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065404 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 21:41:47 +0000 jedeve 2065404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Laugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and/page/2#post-2065334 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 20:38:50 +0000 shopaholic 2065334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be very uncomfortable with being around a naked 5 year old girl and various parents. I agree with @Smurfette: - you don't know the backgrounds truly of other parents and I just think by that age, kids should be taught appropriate and inappropriate times/places to be naked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064448 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:24:21 +0000 LuLu Mom 2064448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think at 5 especially it's time to understand that being completely naked at someone else's house is unacceptable and there are private parts, ect. I think their house, okay their rules, if I'm uncomfortable I will leave (and make sure my child knows we keep our clothes on even if someone else has theirs off.) </p> <p>That being said, my daughter and her best friend (per parents is DH's best friend and our neighbors) always take their pants off and play in their underwear (at 2 1/2) we just laugh at them, it's never made me uncomfortable but completely naked would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064442 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:22:53 +0000 Tanjowen 2064442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was about to ask what was wrong with it, then realized the girl is 5. Yeah, by that age and either in, or close to starting school, they should start know when it's okay to strip down. I'm assuming (or hoping) she doesn't do it in the classroom, or heaven help her parents, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064437 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:20:46 +0000 BSB 2064437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: True. We all did have a laugh when the boy woke up from a nap and his diaper was on one cheek and mooning us all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064428 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:18:16 +0000 Mamaof2 2064428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: to me, underwear and being naked is totally different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064424 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:17:07 +0000 BSB 2064424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had guest over two weeks ago and they stayed with us for a week. They warned us ahead of time that their kids (4 year girl and 3 year old boy) don't like pants and like to walk around in their underwear. It didn't bother me. DH probably thought it was weird, at first. It actually gave us a taste of what it's like to have kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064401 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 13:10:56 +0000 Mamasig 2064401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: for me, the point isn't that they are naked. The point is they are doing it in front of other non family members. And it sounds like they don't care who they do it in front of. I think that's inappropriate. What if they did this in front of someone with a questionable background? I guess I just think kids need to know boundaries about certain things. Not just for their own safety but for respect for others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064350 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:47:55 +0000 mrsjyw 2064350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have a problem saying something the parents, at the very least in my home. In their home, they can do whatever they choose. I'd stick around, but leave if it got uncomfortable for me or my kid(s). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064342 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:45:16 +0000 Smurfette 2064342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: @Anagram: I think by 5 you need to teach your daughter that isn't ok to just get naked in front of anyone. They did this the first time they had a friend from school over to play. You don't know the background of the Dad of the other kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064339 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:43:33 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2064339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In college a friend of mine and I would always study at her place because she had very young twins. One day the girls took off their clothes and played in the nude. Since I was at their home I didn't say anything. My friend didn't notice they were naked until she was ready to "change" them into pajamas. </p> <p>At my house I would tell the parents I'm uncomfortable and ask them to help their child get dressed. If I was over someone else's house with an impressionable LO I would cut the visit short. Depending on how close I was to the other parent I may say something like, "uh-oh clothes off, time to go." Kiddie nudity may be like adults cleaning up to signal socializing is over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064321 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:37:34 +0000 Anagram 2064321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: me neither! I mean, the wrestling naked and grabbing parts---I would address that separately.</p> <p>I don't much have a problem with kiddos being naked though! It actually gets on my nerves that my inlaws are super ashamed of nakedness, even with panties or diapers on--like their 3 year old came out of her room wearing just her diaper (right before they potty trained) and carrying a dress she wanted to put on and they literally shouted and her "Shame shame. You can't come out of your room with no clothes!" when she just wanted help putting the dress on.</p> <p>And they didn't want me to display a picture of my daughter wearing just a ruffled diaper cover AS A NEWBORN at her first birthday party--they thought it was inappropriate. I know it's a cultural difference, but I ignored them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064312 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:35:02 +0000 Modern Daisy 2064312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't care as long as the parents were there. I went through a naked phase when i was little too.. Don't see a problem with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-went-to-someones-house-for-a-playdate-and#post-2064311 Wed, 11 Feb 2015 12:34:49 +0000 mediagirl 2064311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I think I would be uncomfortable with this, especially if there were kids the same age as the older child. One of our neighbor's sons went through a "look at my penis!" stage at 5 and that was not okay by his parents or us!! Mostly because he was hanging out with all girl... </p>