https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 05:36:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping/page/2#post-2389917 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 21:45:10 +0000 gingerbebe 2389917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah I'd go Korean on this and just ask her not to trouble herself and just send a check. Then tell her you will take the girls on some cool adventure at some point and next time you do something fun snap an iPhone pic and use an app to send a thank you card that says thank you Grandma for the awesome tea party or zoo day or museum trip or aquarium day or whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping/page/2#post-2389840 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 20:24:50 +0000 Foodnerd81 2389840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: was your mom being passive aggressive or just thought it was nice? Either way I like that idea :) My grandfather had a hard time shopping and getting out so he always have us checks for Christmas. We would save or spend it as needed and always appreciated that (though obviously if I can remember that I was older). </p> <p>I like the family membership idea or saying you could use the money for their savings. No way would I bother venturing out to a store unless there was stuff I wanted to buy anyway. </p> <p>Or can she pay for a baby sitter for the girls and a date night or for you? Or a spa day? Happy mom is a gift to the girls, right?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping/page/2#post-2389808 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 19:28:52 +0000 Nutella 2389808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: this sounds irritating! I would either tell them not to bother (whatever happened to the thought behind gift giving?!) or alternatively, just put it towards something useful like a museum or aquarium membership...?</p> <p>Once I was asked to pick something out and then send them the bill - which totally annoyed my heavily pregnant self. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389798 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 19:04:23 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2389798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: she wants me to buy Christmas gifts for myself, DH, both girls and birthday gifts for the girls as well.<br /> So six presents.<br /> DH told her she could get us a membership or give money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389793 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 18:56:19 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2389793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: a gift list for your family/kids? I'd just say "you don't need to get us anything" and leave it on them or just get a gift card/$ for their savings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389784 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 18:50:31 +0000 Corduroy 2389784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Apparently my grandma sent a check every year so my mom would buy us something. Every year my mom gave us the money and we would write a thank you for the money saying we put it in our savings. I always thought my grandma liked that but apparently she hated it. Either way I had a good chunk of savings when I grew up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389703 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 17:32:41 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2389703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless you were specifically counting on your LOs having those specific gifts I'd just tell her it's NBD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389694 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 17:23:37 +0000 lemondrop 2389694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Murder. Plenty of us would help you hide the body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389680 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 17:00:33 +0000 wrkbrk 2389680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Bahaha my mom does this too. Ridiculous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389663 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 16:45:07 +0000 HLK208 2389663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: so frustrating :sad: your girls definitely deserve better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389658 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 16:42:36 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2389658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: if only it was just the one Christmas/ birthday season. She's always missed them.<br /> My girls deserve better! Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389590 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 15:49:31 +0000 honeybear 2389590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say "Thanks anyhow!" </p> <p>That's a pretty messed up charade she's asking you to play in front of your children. I would politely decline to take part in it. A present or two (even a nice one!) isn't worth it. But on the other hand, missing Christmas and her granddaughters' birthdays once might convince her to amend her treatment of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389558 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 15:25:00 +0000 psw27 2389558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>mmmm I love people who have their heads right up their rear ends.... I think it would be challenging for me to bite my tongue. On the other hand, I would make DH deal with it if it is his beloved family member... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389552 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 15:20:44 +0000 avivoca 2389552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 36 weeks pregnant, I would have absolutely lost my s*** on this person. That being said, I would ask for a her credit card information so I could make the purchases, or tell her that a membership is up for renewal and she can pay for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389549 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 15:18:02 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2389549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How annoying!</p> <p>Since this sounds like it could be your MIL I would say "I don't have the time or energy but I'll see if DH can. He'll get back to you". </p> <p>Then have him tell her off. Lol. </p> <p>The zoo or aquarium memberships would be nice too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389548 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 15:17:01 +0000 birdofafeather 2389548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>memberships for the fam or something cash related that makes your life easier post #3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389518 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:55:23 +0000 winniebee 2389518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell her to send a check and you'll get a membership somewhere or put it in college funds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389504 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:47:25 +0000 MrsKoala 2389504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say eff that and tell them no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389497 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:44:36 +0000 Greentea 2389497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd either go to town shopping, as the expression goes, or say, "oh don't worry about it!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389468 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:26:50 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2389468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Send a check" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389464 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:25:29 +0000 Alivoo01 2389464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Say what?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389461 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:24:19 +0000 snowjewelz 2389461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uggh I am sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389434 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:10:23 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2389434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: I think a membership is a good idea. Our zoo membership is up for renewal. </p> <p>God she irritates me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389420 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 14:00:04 +0000 Autumnmama79 2389420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Charm54: Great idea. Do this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389418 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:57:42 +0000 lamariniere 2389418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say no. Like the saying goes, "it's the thought that counts". It's not about the time or money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389381 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:31:46 +0000 Dandelion 2389381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say no. I'd actually tell her that if is too much, just don't worry about it, since you have too much to deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389380 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:31:42 +0000 BandDmommy 2389380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about contribution to their savings account? Or college fund? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389375 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:28:20 +0000 Charm54 2389375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say "they'd love a contribution to their RESP" and then send them the bill :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389364 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:16:28 +0000 Cole 2389364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should just say no without any guilt at all then. That's an unreasonable thing to ask. </p> <p>My one other suggestion would be tell them you will take cash and buy a membership somewhere or pay for a post partum doula or a little trip for your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-36-weeks-pregnant-and-completely-done-with-christmas-shopping#post-2389360 Tue, 15 Dec 2015 13:14:27 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2389360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: yup. She dropped a bomb two weeks ago that she was coming to stay with us for three weeks with #3, after telling us she wasn't coming until April....but of course she booked her tickets to overlap when my family is here. Fine. My parents rented an Airbnb to give us more space. AND allegedly her flight was cancelled so she's not coming after all.<br /> Trying to breathe. </p>