https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 00:26:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116787 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:48:18 +0000 MarieJ 1116787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I have the same worries. My water broke when I was 34w3d and my doc has no idea why. She reassures me that since I wasn't high risk, that my next pregnancy should not be dependent upon my last one. Like PP's above, I just want a normal pregnancy experience. I didn't get the chance for skin to skin or breastfeeding immediately after because she was whisked away to the NICU and I was being stitched up from my c-section and afterwards, I had uncontrollable shakes. I'm thankful that mommy and baby were/are healthy, but I really want a normal experience if that makes sense. </p> <p>Congrats on your pregnancy, BTW! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116753 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:38:25 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1116753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Bringing home a healthy baby is certainly most important.</p> <p>@creativemomma15: I'm not sure you can ever really relax, but I think you just have to try to decide every day that the fear isn't going to rule you. That's what I told myself every day of the last pregnancy; sometimes it helped, sometimes it didn't. :) I would talk to your doctor again and see of there are any specific things that you shouldn't be doing, but unless they've said otherwise, I wouldn't worry about walking, DTD, etc. Even though multiples pregnancies are always at risk for pre-term labor, they told me that moms generally do better if they keep working, walk, swim, etc. I wouldn't do anything intense, of course. As for DTD, my understanding is that only actually helps of your body is already preparing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116732 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:32:45 +0000 Dandelion 1116732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: My DS is 6, now, and those 15 days in the hospital didn't take anything away from how we live as a family, now. It's not ideal, obviously, but it's nice to know that the technology is available to keep our babies healthy when they arrive too early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116718 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:30:03 +0000 creativemomma15 1116718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: You are right... Bringing home baby, even after a NICU stay, is what I really want. We are potentially trying for a VBAC and all the reminders of the risk of baby dying are freaking me out as well. I'm trying not to think about that right now and just pray that baby comes however is best for baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116707 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:27:30 +0000 creativemomma15 1116707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I am glad I am not alone in the worry! It is hard to let it go and just trust that we will make it through it no matter what. My water also broke and I was 10 cm dilated 4 hours later, but had a c-section because DS was breech. I think the c-section made things a little more complicated for him. </p> <p>I am just over thinking every feeling and cramp and whatever this time and I need to figure out a way to relax... And, please tell me.. If DTD is one of the best ways to start labor when you are full-term, how will it not start labor too early! Ugh, I think too much about all this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116698 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:24:57 +0000 Dandelion 1116698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS was born at 32 weeks, and at 31 weeks with S, I started to really worry that I wouldn't even make it to 32 weeks. BUT, since I lost HER at labor, I will say that I would have rather had a baby in the NICU for a couple weeks and take it home than the alternative that I did have to go through. The NICU doesn't seem so bad anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116696 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:24:13 +0000 creativemomma15 1116696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: Yes! That second part of what you wrote is what I want and exactly how I feel! But, I am still worried! Nothing has gone wrong so far, but I am still worried. Our stories are similar in that I also had a c-section, DS was whisked away, and I couldn't hold him for the first day. It makes me so sad and I do just want this time to be normal. I just don't know how to stop worrying and relax about it. I just keep praying that baby will be safe and healthy and stay in until at least 36 weeks. I don't know why but I can't seem to let it go that we might have to go through it all again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116692 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:21:54 +0000 littlek 1116692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@creativemomma15: I'm definitely worried. My water broke at 34 weeks and I had LO within 24 hours. Like @Mrs. Blue I just want a normal pregnancy. I get so jealous hearing about people who had baby showers (my LO was born before mine was scheduled), getting to take a pic with LO right after they are born (my LO had to be recissitated because he stopped breathing), being able to take my LO home (LO was in the NICU 10 days). My OB said that it's highly possible that last time was "freak accident" and that I can go full term this time. I really hope she's right. I want to experience "normal." </p> <p>Congrats on your pregnancy!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116680 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:18:11 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1116680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do worry about it, even though I know it's probably unlikely since twin pregnancy was the reason I had to deliver early. Like you, I delivered at 36 weeks, and the boys were there for 8 days. </p> <p>Honestly, I really just want to have a "normal" experience. I want to have a pregnancy that doesn't require constant worry and trips to specialists. I want to be the person at 40 weeks wandering if today will be the day because I'm just so ready, instead of praying they'll stay in another day. I want to have a baby put in my arms and stay there, instead of getting to look at them (c-section so I couldn't hold them), give them a quick kiss and take a picture before having them taken to the NICU. I want to have my baby at my bedside and be able to see them anytime I want. I want to get to hold and feed my baby, not have to wait 24 hours to do so. And most of all, I never, ever, ever want to have to leave a baby in the hospital again. That was such a terrible feeling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-in-the-nicu#post-1116652 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 11:11:05 +0000 creativemomma15 1116652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you paranoid that it will happen again with your next baby?</p> <p>I delivered at 36 weeks with DS and he was in the NICU for 1 week so we are lucky that it went as well as it did. </p> <p>BUT, I am pregnant with LO#2 and am kind of paranoid about going into preterm labor. I don't know how you balance the NICU and a toddler and I really don't want to find out. My OB says chances are I will go early again due to my history and my family history, but didn't really say much. </p> <p>I just don't know how cautious to be and am nervous/worry about pushing it too much. I don't want to walk too far, be too active, and am even a little paranoid about DTD.</p> <p>Tell me I am not alone! Or, tell me I am overreacting! </p>