https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 07:50:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787331 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 21:31:12 +0000 MrsADS 2787331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk haha sounds similar here. "NEED A BABY! NEED A BABY!" He calls pacis "baby". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787329 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 21:26:58 +0000 ShootingStar 2787329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some time around 1.5 we started only letting DS have the paci in the car or in the crib. Or when he had a major tantrum :silly: . Then around maybe 2 we stopped using it in the car. Daycare got him to stop napping with it too, and he only used it at night. After that they started falling apart or getting holes and they'd get thrown out. By 2.5 the last one got a hole and DH had DS throw it out and that was it. He asked for a couple times and we reminded him that he threw it out, and he was pretty ok with it.</p> <p>I think he was ready to be done and we'd done it really gradually so it worked well. I really wanted him to be DONE with pacis before LO2 arrived (2 years 9 months) so it worked out well. I didn't want him trying to steal the baby's pacis, lol. </p> <p>DD is now 15m and probably pretty soon we'll stop letting her have them as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787219 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 14:57:09 +0000 wrkbrk 2787219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 24 months next week and still LOVES his paci. Like screams bloody murder if it falls out of his crib overnight: MAMA!!!!!! PACIIIII!!!!!! Haha. He has one like a wubanub and he rubs he ears when he’s trying to fall asleep. :heart: It really doesn’t bother me. Our doctor also said four and we have a long time until then. He has it in the car, on airplanes, for sleeping, and when he’s sick. I’m just not strict with it. What’s the point if it’s not causing any physical harm? He adores that thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787195 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 14:14:05 +0000 macintosh 2787195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cut the paci off DS’s 2 wubbanub elephants around 20 months, yet he still sleeps with both of them and sometimes carries them around the house. That’s one option is you’re worried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787193 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 14:11:58 +0000 travellingbee 2787193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did not make a fuss about the Binky until we went to his dentist appointment at 2 1/2. She said his bite was already occluded and we should try to get rid of it. It freaked me out so we went cold turkey at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787189 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 14:09:26 +0000 Becky 2787189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were wayyyy lax with DD1's Wubbanub. She used it all the time, whenever she wanted it, until she was about 27 months old. We have so many pictures of her with the thing hanging from her mouth. When she bit through the last one that was it--no more Wub, and she only asked for it like twice and had no issues sleeping. After she dropped it I remember thinking how nice it was to see her face! I sort of wish she had it longer because she was hospitalized, we moved, and I had DD2 and the Wub had been such a source of comfort. She has really high oral needs too--she's 4 and still chews in everything. </p> <p>DD2 has her pacifier much less often but that is her choice. We try not to let her have it unless she's in her crib, in the car, in the stroller with the goal of napping, or right before/after sleeping (so in the morning while still waking up, or before naps), and we never offer it to her. She will usually drop it if I ask her to, and I often use getting to do something fun as a bribe ("No Wubs on the playground!"). Whereas DD1 got her Wub at the grocery store, DD2 leaves hers in the car easily. Unlike DD1, DD2 doesn't have high oral needs and only sticks inappropriate things (as in not food or drink) in her mouth if her sister does. If DD2 has her Wub, she gets super sleepy so she really can't function with it. We will probably try dropping it around 2-2 1/2 but potty training is a bigger priority so it depends on how that goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787184 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 14:05:32 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2787184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well... my kid is going to be 4 and a half on Dec 1 and still uses it to fall asleep at night. It sucks (hah) and I hate it, but I haven't been able to figure out how to get her to give it up. I've talked to her ped, to her dentist, to a few friends who are OTs/SLPs, and no one has any advice other than to wait it out. She has some kind of physical need for it. She won't ask for it if we don't give it to her, she doesn't seem to mentally miss it, but physically she cannot settle down to sleep without it. She'll toss and turn and cry from frustration (and still won't ask for the paci, so she doesn't know that's what's missing for her), and when she does fall asleep, it's out of sheer exhaustion a lot later than she otherwise would. 90% of the time it falls out after she falls asleep and she doesn't need it to stay asleep, so it's very limited use, but I feel like I'm torturing her if I don't give it to her. Every doctor we've talked to says to just wait it out since it's so limited and it sucks to make her suffer, but I definitely wonder if I'm going to have her going to kindergarten with this thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787079 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 09:57:33 +0000 raspberries 2787079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DS1 sounds a bit like yours - he only used his paci in the crib, and it was pretty much just to relax (he didn't try to find it after losing it in the night.) Right before he turned 2 in July, we moved him to a big boy bed and after the first couple nights of getting acclimated, we'd only give him the paci if he specifically asked for it. Otherwise, just the typical bedtime routine with books, songs and cuddles. He asked for it maybe two nights that first week and hasn't mentioned it since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787069 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 09:36:24 +0000 Cherrybee 2787069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put my foot down the week before E's 4th birthday. I thought I can't have a 4yo with a dummy! I thought it was going to be a disaster but it was a piece of cake. She asked for it once the following night, then never mentioned it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787065 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 09:19:11 +0000 looch 2787065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son had his pacifier until he was 3 years 8 months, I know because it was right around the time he dropped his afternoon nap!</p> <p>Teeth aren't the issue, it's the palette. Pretty much using a pacifier past 1 year of age can cause the palette to become arched. My understanding is that alone isn't an issue, but combined with overbites and underbites, it can mean orthodontia in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787053 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 08:55:31 +0000 MrsADS 2787053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, my 2yo (27 months) still uses his paci at night (all night), naps, and occasionally other times (he seems to find them everywhere around the house!). I am not stressed about it. I just weaned him and I can't deal with taking the paci away, too. Lol. I may think about it in 6 months. His pediatrician doesn't care at all how long they use them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787023 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 00:14:55 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2787023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@justjules: This isn't exactly answering your question, but we were in a similar position about a month ago. O was only using them for sleep and I had no plans on taking them away. But then one night we realized all of hers were chewed enough to be unsafe (teething), so we told her we were boxing them up and shipping them to a baby who needed them. We went cold turkey and after about 3 nights of not great sleep, she went back to normal and hasn't asked for them since. It was so much easier than I expected. She was 23 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787022 Fri, 17 Nov 2017 00:14:18 +0000 SweetiePie 2787022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peaches1038: Our dentist said the same at his 2yr and 2.5yr visit (limited use is fine, be done by 4). At 3yr she didn’t even ask if he was still using it, I guess because his teeth still looked fine. </p> <p>We decided that 3 was the right time for us. He only used it for sleep and we knew he HAD slept without it before (like in car). We were fairly relaxed, kept telling him he’d be done at 3. Binky fairy would come.<br /> Finally stood my ground and threw everything out one weekend when I was solo parenting (DH was more afraid to get rid of it than I was). He was upset for like 2 nights and then just calmly asked about it a couple nights. After one week he was fine and no questions asked.<br /> He did wake up earlier for maybe a month? I think maybe he had always woken around 6/6:30 but he found his paci and he fell bask asleep for another hour or so. Without the paci he was just like “hey I’m up”. But now he’s back to a normal 7/7:30 wakeup. </p> <p>Oh we also switched to a toddler bed around the same time, so I guess some sleep disturbances could have been related to that. But I’m pretty sure it was the paci. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787016 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 23:16:02 +0000 peaches1038 2787016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS just turned 24 months and uses his binky for sleeping at home and also in the car on rides longer than 20ish min. He doesn’t use one for naps at daycare bc of their rules, so I know he can sleep without it. I think that just because he can, doesn’t mean he should have to. DH wants to get rid of it but I don’t really mind him having it since it really seems to comfort him. Also because when he doesn’t have it, he sucks on his fingers, which I can’t stand and think will be way harder to “break”. He had a dentist appt last week and he wasn’t worried at all about it. He said the limited time he uses it should not impact his speech or teeth. He said he should be rid of it completely by 4. He just doesn’t seem ready to give it up yet and I’m ok with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-more-relaxed-about-pacis-whenhow-did-your-lo-drop-it#post-2787010 Thu, 16 Nov 2017 22:33:27 +0000 justjules 2787010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E is 24 months and only uses his paci for sleep (he knows it “lives” in his crib). I used to get kinda anxious about it but have now adopted a more relaxed perspective. He sucks it to calm down and then spits it out during sleep, and uses it as a sort of lovely (it’s a wub a nub) so I’m not sure if it’s THAT much different than sucking on a comfort blanket- for example. Or maybe I’m just trying to justify it :silly: </p> <p> As of now, I don’t plan on doing a dramatic seize of his paci....but I am wondering about how other “relaxed” approaches have gone. Aka should I be worried about a 10 year old with his wub a nub? </p>