https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 00:06:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800369 Sun, 28 Jan 2018 13:29:46 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2800369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That said there I will be honest and say there are times I'm not sure if I've ruined a really really good dynamic. I don't think so but it does cross my mind. Lo1 and Lo2 are so attached to each other and this has been a bit difficult for lo2 because he's still not even 2.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800368 Sun, 28 Jan 2018 13:28:09 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2800368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just felt like we wanted another. I think we definitely feel more complete now but sealing the deal isI feel my body just couldn't take another pregnancy. We are 110% done at 3. (Ok Dh is more like 90% and me 120% lol.) Still adjusting and it has been kind of crazy but of course now I couldn't picture life without lo3 either. I think I would always have wondered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800229 Sat, 27 Jan 2018 15:48:27 +0000 LAZB 2800229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CRGmama: lol, I haven’t been on much lately, but I saw this and had to comment ❤️ You should definitely have another though, your boys are too cute </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800154 Sat, 27 Jan 2018 02:24:57 +0000 CRGmama 2800154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: 😆 caught! Big love to you mama </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800127 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 20:41:04 +0000 LAZB 2800127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CRGmama: doooooo it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800122 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 20:33:34 +0000 MissKriss19 2800122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’ve posted about this a few times now but wanted to add my experience. We had two boys 16 months apart and I was on the fence about #3. My brain said quit while we are ahead but my heart wanted another baby. I stressed about it for over a year to the point I couldn’t sleep at night. My hubby was happy to stop at 2 but basically said it’s your choice. Well we decided to take the plunge and our boys are now 5 and 3 and baby #3 is now 7 Months Old 💗 Zero regrets!!! The boys are crazy about their baby sister and she has been the happiest and easiest baby in the world. (Hubby has since been snipped haha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800118 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 20:02:51 +0000 Becky 2800118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love all these recent posts about how everyone decided on their number of kids. I was very firmly in the 2 and done camp a few months ago but have swung the other way. My decision is purely based on my ability to juggle the number of children I have with my job. If I didn’t have to work full time the decision would be easy—we would have 3. I also know I will eventually be able to work part time which is a huge help. There are also certain things I feel more adept at having gone through it twice now (for example, I wouldn’t stress out for several months over not being able to pump enough at work and would switch to formula earlier if I encountered supply issues like I did with DD2). </p> <p>We’re thinking of having #3 either next year or the following year if we decide to go for it, so we have a few more months. My husband’s work hours are getting more manageable, and we would also likely be able to have the younger two in daycare more often financially, so wouldn’t need to worry about putting a burden on the grandparents who currently watch them 3 days. Having a daycare provider we like, and where my girls like going is a very significant factor.</p> <p> Also another factor is that DD1 got way more attention as the first grandkid/niece/daughter and it was pretty hard on her when DD2 came along. DD2 didn’t get showered in attention, and my niece was born a year later and they are together a lot so she’s used to a baby getting attention (she’s had a test run as a middle sibling basically). I stressed so much while I was pregnant with DD2 about how it would impact DD1, and that’s not a concern this time. </p> <p>Taking some time (almost a year now) to not be breastfeeding (so having my body to myself) has made a difference too. I feel prepared and kind of excited about the prospect of going through pregnancy again. </p> <p>My husband would have 5 kids if I could handle it mentally 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800113 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 19:34:12 +0000 erinbaderin 2800113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I decided on two very quickly after #2 was born, but it was purely a logistical and financial decision. In a perfect world I would have loved to have more but two was as many as we felt we could handle and still live the way we wanted to, with travel, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800112 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 19:29:04 +0000 ElbieKay 2800112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well we wanted two and now this second pregnancy is twins. So apparently we are having three. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800095 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 17:13:36 +0000 bhbee 2800095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I basically knew from when #2 was born that I didn’t feel done. DH took a longer time to come around. Then we lost the first try for #3 at 11w and didn’t get pregnant again very quickly and I was ready to be done and DH surprised me that he wanted to keep trying! Now I’m 12w again nearly a year later. Mine are far apart by some standards but I think it will help us manage it (will be 6.5 and 3.5 when baby comes). We have all the logistical worries, but both just wanted another little person in our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800049 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 15:43:52 +0000 shabang 2800049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounded really tempting to stop at 2, and it was initially my husband's preference, but I always knew someone was missing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800010 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 14:33:01 +0000 Mrsbells 2800010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we initially wanted 3, we now have 2; one of each gender and it just feels right for us. so i believe we are done </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2800004 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 14:24:58 +0000 crazydoglady 2800004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CRGmama: I can't really say because I am newly pregnant with #2, but I always wanted 3 but DH wants 2. That's pretty much the deciding factor. To be fair, he was always upfront about this and never wavered. I have come around to his way of thinking. After struggling to get pregnant this time around, I think I am ok with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-were-on-the-fence-between-2-and-3-kids#post-2799978 Fri, 26 Jan 2018 13:33:05 +0000 CRGmama 2799978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What did you decide?</p> <p>Basically, I always wanted 3. I’m the middle sibling with an older brother and younger sister and I adore my siblings. We are all 2 years apart. I have 2 boys now, they are about to turn 2 and 4 next month. My husband is happy with two and it would take a lot of campaigning on my part to convince him for another, although I’d ideally like to wait another year so my oldest will be in school. Logistically it makes more sense to be done with 2 but I just don’t feel at this point like I’m done. Anyone care to share what worked for their family? </p>