https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 22 Jun 2026 15:17:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022975 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 01:16:23 +0000 Espion 1022975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next time I'm going to have a scheduled c-section (no way for a VBAC) and I'll have to convince DH to go for team green. Since the excitement of *when* the baby comes is cancelled out with a scheduled birth, we might as well be excited about the *what* it is!<br /> I wish I could still have my same OB, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022966 Fri, 16 Aug 2013 00:57:52 +0000 lemondrop 1022966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it went exactly the same, I'd be perfectly happy. I loved my OB and hope he delivers us again, the epidural was great, and I had an excellent hospital experience. I hope to have the baby avoid jaundice next time (unavoidable- different blood types, plus a big bruise on the head), but even that turned out to be a positive experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022871 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 23:00:53 +0000 lovehoneybee 1022871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: What's funny/sad is that I had DH, my mom, my MIL and FIL all in the room with me as the epidural stopped working. I think my DH was too overwhelmed and "trust the system" to push for anything, my ILs were just too grateful to be allowed to be there to rock a boat, and my mom is very laid-back, go with the flow and was really concentrating on helping me breathe. DH and I have talked about it since and he's expressed a lot of regret for not pushing it, and if we decide to have another LO I will be sure to let him know when something is unacceptable to me and he'll be my advocate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022864 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 22:51:47 +0000 Anagram 1022864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: the advocate is a just! That's why I'm so glad (in the end) that my mom was there because she gets things done. My husband is more of a "trust the system" type of guy, but my mom would just march down to the nurses station and tell them what I needed it, how I needed it, and would politely ask them to get on it right then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022859 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 22:49:37 +0000 Anagram 1022859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try a different hospital. And if my labor stalls again, I would get Pitocin sooner.. </p> <p>I progressed from 3-5 cm really quickly, but then stayed at 5 cm for....almost 10 hours. Yup! All because after 2 or so hours when the doctor told me I wasn't progressing and asked if I wanted to try Pitocin, I told him I'd like to wait and see if my body would do it on its own. Then he had two emergency C sections...and I didn't end up progressing or being ble to get the Pitocin till 10 pm that night. Then I had my LO by a little past midnight, so it went so quickly after I had the pit, I regret not doing it sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022724 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 21:35:19 +0000 pastemoo 1022724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Hmm, that would be validating. When I went to the recovery wing several nurses came in and said "oh, you were the one with the hard labor." Also felt pretty... good. Good is not the right word. But it helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022717 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 21:33:37 +0000 pastemoo 1022717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: If we do another I will try for a VBAC... and try to stay home till the absolute last possible minute due to the interventions last time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022705 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 21:29:51 +0000 lovehoneybee 1022705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. </p> <p>All of things that I'd like to do differently are things that I had no real control over. Constantly sick and not putting on any weight, and SCH that never bled but caused me constant pain whenever I moved, back labor, two failed epidurals and a massive pp hemorrhage upon delivery. </p> <p>We may or may not be TG. I'd probably make a better effort to be in better shape going in/be more active. I'd be a better advocate for myself in the delivery room (or have someone else be a better advocate for me--when my first epi stopped working the nurse on duty sort of blew me off, telling me that feeling pressure was normal--but it wasn't pressure, it was the full-force of every flippin back contraction...). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1022632 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 21:14:47 +0000 MsLipGloss 1022632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Wow. I'm so sorry hon! </p> <p>And yes, it was totally validating for me, too. I remember when the anesthesiologist finally came in -- he was furious(!) that anyone had let me go that long with that much pain . . . I was so relieved to know that I hadn't imagined that it was worse than what it was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1019545 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 11:30:50 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1019545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I would do the exact same thing in your situation! Sending you lots of healthy pregnancy dust! </p> <p>In my case I would love to avoid induction and if possible have my unmediated water birth next time BUT I am also WAY more chill about getting the epidural. I will do my best but I did love the relief of it and in my case it helped me progress I think so in more if my hoyty toyty natural birth high horse. I'd also like to have breast feeding go as smoothly as it did with Tor. He is 11 months and we are still going strong with minimal incidence. Next time I will allow family at the birth (what a drama and fuss there was over that) and they can also help with Tor while we are managing a new baby. Oh and I wil also see my EDD as a very rough estimate and call it my birth week. I was mental when that day arrived. I'd love to put on less weight (50lbs) and be more active this time but I'm not gonna drive myself crazy either because my son came out so healthy and strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1019230 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 10:38:24 +0000 Dandelion 1019230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm doing a ton differently. I started out in a birth center with S, having to transfer, where I got a parade of interventions to get her out.</p> <p>This time around, I'm scheduling a c section at 39 weeks if I don't go into labor before on my own. If I do go into labor on my own before, I'm going to consider an epidural. I won't lie, it's a scary thought, but I don't want to jeopardize my baby in anyway.</p> <p>I have time to make any real choices, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1017734 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 00:19:07 +0000 ALV91711 1017734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next time I'd like to not put on so much weight. I'd like to look into having a midwife instead of an OB. I had no problems with my OB. </p> <p>Also I'd introduce the bottle earlier so I can actually get a break. Almost 5 months and he won't take one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1017729 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 00:14:26 +0000 Boheme 1017729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: My OB said that in all her years of practice, she has never felt as badly for a patient as she did for me, and that my birth was a little traumatic even for *her*. That kind of made me feel better in a weird way. I guess I feel validated for not being the only one to think it was a totally horrible experience? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1017646 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 23:06:38 +0000 Corduroy 1017646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't try to have an unmedicated vaginal birth at a hospital again. The staff was clear they didn't expect me to succeed and the triage nurse called my attempt stupid. Somehow I managed to let that roll off my back at the time but it really irks me now. </p> <p>It probably sounds strange but I don't know if I would do a home birth/birth center unmedicated or a hospital birth with a more lax attitude about interventions. Just not "natural" at a hospital again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time/page/2#post-1016920 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 16:28:07 +0000 travellingbee 1016920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was very happy with everything the way it turned out. Labor was fairly quick, with an epi. I might change doctors/hospitals because I felt like he was a little "been there, done that" during pregnancy. However, during labor he was great so I don't know... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016904 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 16:20:22 +0000 MrsStar 1016904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a pretty easy delivery with lo so hoping it will be mostly the same for number 2 - but hoping to go into labor naturally and without an induction. Also planning to transfer to a birth center after birth (if all goes well) because my after care in hospital last time was horrible. Also hoping to use water for pain relief next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016786 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 15:37:16 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1016786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm happy things went the first time. I plan on having a RCS.</p> <p>The only thing is change is having a better grasp on breast feeding. I really wanted to, and attribute my lack of knowledge to my inability. I am 100% pro-formula feeding, too, but want to give BFing a better shot next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016691 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 15:07:10 +0000 LomaLinda 1016691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is only 3 months old, but I think about this a lot. We were TG, and it was wonderful, but I kinda want to know what it's like to know who's inside me for half of my pregnancy, so we may find out next time. I had a pain-med-free birth, and while I'm very happy with my experience and I know I could do it again, I am not dead set against trying an epidural next time. I know a couple moms who had an epidural after a natural birth, and I get that. :) But, I'm not going to worry about it. I stressed so much about labor &amp; delivery during my pregnancy. I will relax, enjoy my pregnancy, eat better and walk more next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016556 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 14:32:43 +0000 heffalump 1016556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out the sex with LO and we're team green this time. I'm hoping to have the same birth though.... I had an epi and was very happy with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016510 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 14:18:07 +0000 coastmama 1016510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I could have the exact same birth, I'd take it. Minus the terrible cold I had. Things would have been so much better if I could have breathed! I held off as long as I could to get the epi, so I'm happy that I actually got to feel real contractions... although I wouldn't have said it at the time. My epi was perfect. I could still move and feel... it just didn't hurt... so hard to explain. I only pushed for like 30-40 minutes. Baby was perfect, nursing went well..... it was still difficult... but we figured it out. </p> <p>I found out the gender last time... and will next time too. Not knowing would drive me crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016508 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 14:17:15 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1016508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I received my care at a birth center and I loved that! I was excited to have a waterbirth there - but had a hospital transfer</p> <p>so for my second I hope to have the birth at the center, and unmedicated again like last time (but not induced- hopefully!!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016485 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 14:11:26 +0000 plantains 1016485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will have a scheduled c-section next time. No labouring for 23.5 hrs only to end up with a section anyway, I have no desire to attempt vbac.</p> <p>I will also try to make more of my mat leave and do a bunch of travelling. I only travelled once while I was off, should have done more.</p> <p>I will work on losing the weight much earlier. I waited endlessly with DD because I was so focused on maintaining supply. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016442 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:56:31 +0000 Andrea 1016442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an epidural the first time and didn't want one the second time so I went all natural. I felt like the epi stalled my first labor and lead me to get an infection so I didn't want to risk it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016435 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:54:36 +0000 runsyellowlites 1016435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Completely! </p> <p>First time I went with an obgyn, found out, and while I *wanted* a natural, low intervention birth I got an intervention heavy cesarean delivery.</p> <p>Second time around we didn't find out, I was significantly more informed on the process of birth so I went with a midwife, planned an hbac, and got a vbac.</p> <p>This time I'm planning another hbac (different MW) and still feel very strongly about not taking the risk of inhibiting the process of birth by unnecessary interventions... we also aren't finding out again. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016412 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:50:15 +0000 mrs. wagon 1016412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out the gender (we were team green with the first). </p> <p>I did not get an epidural right away. I waited until I needed it. This was because of my experience with failed epidurals from the first time around.</p> <p>I was induced at 39 weeks due to GD (wasn't with the first) so I received pitocin both times... I was hoping not to, in case it stalls labor, but my labor with #1 was slow while with #2 it was super fast. </p> <p>I ate on the way to the hospital! </p> <p>I ate during labor!</p> <p>I watched tv during labor (for some weird reason I did not with the first even though it was 3x as long). </p> <p>I brought makeup and a cute hospital gown to the hospital. I also brought my boppy.</p> <p>I sent the baby to the nursery whenever I could, and got lots of sleep.</p> <p>I gave formula right away. With my first I didn't until he was inconsolably crying for hours after we went home from the hospital... and then I found out after going to the pediatrician that he had lost a whole pound. :(</p> <p>I'm sure there's more...!!</p> <p>ETA: oh yes, I did yoga during pregnancy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016411 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:49:43 +0000 Adira 1016411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll be more proactive about my ITP so that I can hopefully get an epidural next time!</p> <p>And I'll try not to gain as much weight, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016397 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:45:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 1016397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should have mentioned I would do most of it the same. I loves my midwife practice and the hospital where I delivered- I really couldn't have had a better team there. Unless we nice really far away I'd go with them again for sure. </p> <p>The funny thing is, c is only two weeks old and I really cannot remember what contractions felt like. I can remember the early ones, and I definitely remember the pushing and the ring of fire, but the late contractions I don't remember! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016374 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:40:52 +0000 JerricaBenton 1016374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll have a scheduled c since my doctor doesn't think I'm a candidate for a vbac. I certainly won't spend all that time researching and planning a natural birth lol. Other than that, I don't think I'll do much differently. I like feeling as in control as possible so I'll keep with the same types of restrictions, except maybe allowing myself a small amount of caffeine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016369 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:40:12 +0000 MsLipGloss 1016369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Ditto! AND, I would kick all of the unnecessary medical staff out of the delivery room! It was crazy busy and so distracting! </p> <p>@grizz: When I started seeing someone for PPD, she confirmed just how horrific my birth experience was (so that I would understand that it would have been difficult for 99% of the population, not just me) and that she would have been floored if I had made it through that without any issues. ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-you-willdo-have-more-than-one-will-you-do-things-differently-the-second-time#post-1016352 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 13:36:09 +0000 Smurfette 1016352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do everything the same, except try and not gain as much weight next time. </p>