https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 06:32:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner/page/2#post-2075005 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:55:53 +0000 youboots 2075005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did in fact meet younger having gone to school together from elementary through high school. We did "date" in high school and we always friendly, but we both had other high school sweethearts when we graduated. We saw each other when we were home from college on breaks, I went and visited him once or twice, but it was never much of anything. Then we ran into each other when we were living 5 hours apart my sophomore and his junior year in college, and we have been together ever since. I finished up my term and moved up to Seattle to be with him 6 weeks later at 19. I'm glad it worked out the way it did and we had some time away from each other and had other experiences and relationships. We have been together for 11.5 years now and married for 8.5. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner/page/2#post-2074976 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:46:40 +0000 ShootingStar 2074976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it would've worked if we'd met sooner. I was 29 and he was 23. I sometimes wish I hadn't gotten involved with my ex for 3 years (I met them both at the same time) so that we could have had more time as a couple before marriage. But I'm not sure I would've believed a 23 year old would want to be in his last relationship. at 26 and 32 we were much better suited and in the right place for each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner/page/2#post-2074968 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:43:37 +0000 sarac 2074968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd like to think that I would have fallen in love just the same had we met earlier, and I might have. But really, I was absolutely obsessed with appearances in high school, to just a gross degree. My husband was not 'cool' then. He was cool in college, once he'd found his people, and young me was very into the combination of cute nerdy cool guy. </p> <p>Isn't that a sad thought? That if you'd met your partner earlier you two might never have clicked? I hate thinking about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner/page/2#post-2074796 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:09:27 +0000 JoJoGirl 2074796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe? I met DH when I was 30 and that may sound 'old', but I definitely had to outgrow my bad boy phase and be ready to meet a stable, loving guy instead of an 'exciting' one. It was good for me to date a bunch before meeting him so I could appreciate him :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner/page/2#post-2074792 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:06:11 +0000 krispi 2074792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We actually did meet sooner but didn't pay any attention to each other. We were in the same wedding party together 10 years before we met and started dating, but the timing wasn't right then.</p> <p>My husband was a bit wilder in his younger days, so while I would have been attracted to him, he wasn't really serious relationship material. Sometimes I hate that it took us so long to find each other (mid-30s), but I don't think we would have been ready for each other sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074705 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 07:41:11 +0000 Ajsmommy 2074705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a lock that if we had met earlier we would NOT have liked each other. In fact I think we would have probably not gotten along at all! We met after we both quit drinking completely. Had we met prior to that it would have been a disaster, we can tell just from the stories we share... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074675 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 06:23:13 +0000 Rocker2014 2074675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I was 27 and my husband was 32 when we met, though looking back we had crossed paths many times be cause we had loads of mutual friends. We often home about how much we would have hated each other if we had met earlier - he was way too much of a hippie for me and I was way too into fashion for him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074638 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 03:09:29 +0000 Ree723 2074638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - we met when I was 29, on my last holiday before heading home after living abroad for the previous four years and living the jet setter lifestyle. Had I met him earlier, I probably wouldn't have pursued our long distance (Australia to the US) relationship as I was having too much fun living the dream life and was by no means ready to give it up for a relationship! As it was, our relationship was enough of a chance meeting that I believe it was meant to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074633 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 02:41:08 +0000 lamariniere 2074633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's really interesting reading everyone's responses, and I'm actually surprised by the number of people who wouldn't have wanted to meet sooner!</p> <p>My DH and I didn't meet until right before I turned 29, so I definitely wish we had met a few years earlier. It's possible we crossed paths several years before though. In the mid 2000s, he and I were both living in Paris and he was working just a few blocks from where I was going to school! I know it's cheesy to say, but he and I are absolutely right for one another and I think we would have been a few years earlier. When we finally did meet, it was love at first sight. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074627 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 02:15:22 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2074627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we were ready to meet before we did. I needed time to get over my last relationship, move-on and grow as a person. He needed to mature, realize what he wanted in life, and be ready to settle down. It wouldn't have worked at all if we met earlier.</p> <p>However, we could have started TTC a bit earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074620 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 01:45:52 +0000 wonderstruck 2074620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were super similar in our high school years...but those years didn't happen at the same time because we're 4 years apart. I was 20 when we met, I think if I had been too much younger than that it would have kind of been pushing the appropriateness of the age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074612 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 00:28:59 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2074612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I met him when I was 19, and he being nearly five years older- it would have been a highly inappropriate relationship any earlier! We always joke because he had graduated college before I graduated high school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074603 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 00:16:32 +0000 renee 2074603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would have never dated had we met any earlier! My husband was a partier in high school and I have always been a nerd. He became nerdy in college when he decided he wanted to be a doctor, and that's around the time we met. We bonded over how studious we both were. Had we met earlier, I don't think we would have even been friends! We met about a 1.5 years before we started dating, and were friends probably 6 months before dating. I'm very happy with how it turned out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074571 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 23:00:51 +0000 kgbee 2074571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've discussed this, actually, and both agree that we wouldn't even have been close friends had we met earlier than we did. We both had a lot of growing up to do to get us to where we were when we met -- and we have done a lot more growing up since then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074486 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:36:08 +0000 LML 2074486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably not. I changed a ton from high school, college, and throughout my 20s, so when I met my SO at 27, I was very different from who I'd been at 17 or 22. Very different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074483 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:34:27 +0000 snowjewelz 2074483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. We are 7 yrs apart so if we met really young, it's just wrong lol. Then he was married, then he was grieving as she passed away. So DH and I met at exactly the right time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074478 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:31:19 +0000 Greentea 2074478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh hell no :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074428 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:12:33 +0000 Rockies11 2074428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>um, no we definitely wouldn't have made it if we met sooner. My husband is very eccentric, and meeting him in my late 20s it was not a big deal, but meeting him when I was a cool teen or early 20s girl, no way would I have been into him! I think we met at just the right time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074420 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:09:22 +0000 Caly 2074420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met when I was 21 &amp; he was 29...so, no. I needed those few years to mature, etc and had I been a few years younger, he would have needed to register with the authorities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074416 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:07:25 +0000 Applesandbananas 2074416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: lol this! </p> <p>I met my DH a few days after turning 18 so meeting more than a week sooner wouldn't have worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074415 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:06:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2074415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would not have been friends in HS. I doubt we would have been more than just study buddies in college. All of the romantic relationships and friendship experiences we had definitely made it possible for us to date. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074401 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 20:58:32 +0000 lady baltimore 2074401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely could have met sooner (that is, the connections that led to our meeting existed for years before we got together). I don't think we would have been at all compatible in high school and college, though. We've both changed since then.</p> <p>I think we would have been happy if we'd started dating when we first met instead of when we did (three years later). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074023 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:58:04 +0000 .twist. 2074023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it would have worked out. Unless our meeting earlier changed certain life events, we wouldn't have been compatible. DH has a bit of a rocky past and despite my mild rebellions I am not very bad ass. </p> <p>If, however, us being together made it so he never got into trouble? Maybe. </p> <p>I'm happy with when we met, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074018 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:54:25 +0000 AmandaB8 2074018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met when we were 14 and 16, so I don't think we could have met much sooner. But we didn't start dating until 17 and 19. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074009 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:49:40 +0000 LaughLines 2074009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm not sure if it would have worked if we had met sooner... maybe a year, but not much more than that. I was going into senior year of college when i met him and before that i wasn't wanting to be tied down. He was leaving college and 10 days from moving to another city for his job, so if it had been ANY later we wouldn't have met at all - barely snagged him ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2074001 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:44:41 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2074001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would have wanted to. From what he describes, he's the same person he was then as he is now, but I had a lot of things happen to me that made me really appreciate the type of man that DH is. If I never had my relationship with my ex, I wouldn't have found out exactly what I DIDN'T want in a husband so I recognized what I DID want immediately...and that was DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2073992 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:36:40 +0000 sarac 2073992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met right after high school. I've wondered what it would have been like if I had met him sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2073988 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:35:15 +0000 Alivoo01 2073988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We definitely could have met sooner since we knew the same people. However, it wouldn't have made a difference because he was in a serious relationship and I was dating. Our timing worked out for the best I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2073966 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:27:13 +0000 Charm54 2073966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met when I was 7 and he was 9....he is my BFFs brother so I grew up in their house. Definitely nothing could have happened before it did.... I was his sister's dorky friend! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youd-met-your-so-sooner#post-2073963 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:26:05 +0000 ILoveLettie 2073963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We met our freshman year of college, and I think we would have dated if I met him in high school but it probably wouldn't have lasted. My husband was very depressed in high school and had a lot of family issues, and I was so self-engrossed that I don't think I would have been able to be there for him. Both of us would have been more self-absorbed (because that's how high schoolers are!) and neither of us would have had the personal growth we had in high school that made us more mature than many of our peers when we finally met in college and therefore equipped us to have such a strong relationship--and start a family--relatively young. So I wouldn't change anything if I went back in time: who knows what would inadvertently change! </p>