https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 13:40:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months/page/2#post-1032760 Wed, 21 Aug 2013 00:29:37 +0000 birdofafeather 1032760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>R is 7 months and has been consistently waking once a night for about a month. Last week when we were camping, she started sleeping 9/10 hours! She had one hiccup in that week but last night she went from 9-7:30. It was amazing. I've been of the camp that lets her do what she needs but she's never ever woken up more than what is expected of her age so I never sweated it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months/page/2#post-1030417 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 22:45:26 +0000 sarac 1030417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to night wean my daughter at 13 months. It wasn't terribly hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months/page/2#post-1030390 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 22:09:29 +0000 Navy_Mommy 1030390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't read the comments but W had random nights of sleeping through the night but for the most part until he hit 13 months he was up to nurse once at about 3, then DH got home from deployment and his schedule got effed for like a month and hewas waking up as much as 4 times a night. Once we got through that he started sleeping from 8 to 6 then in bed with me snuggling until 7which is what we're still doing now at 16.5 months. </p> <p>All of this was on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1030354 Mon, 19 Aug 2013 21:36:19 +0000 immabeetoo 1030354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Naturally, 48 hours after I posted this LO has STTN for the first time in his entire life, 7p-6a !? I honestly sort of never thought it would happen (irrational, I know). I consider myself to be super lucky - fingers crossed this is his new normal as it has been for the past 3 nights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1013801 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 14:32:07 +0000 coastmama 1013801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing. I've been wondering about this myself. LO is 7months and still nursing 2xs a night. Normally doesn't go longer than 5 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012465 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:37:00 +0000 KayKay 1012465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO was a pretty consistent once-a-night nurser from 6 months to 9 months. She dropped it on her own then, but it wasn't like an all-or-none thing. She would STTN for a couple nights or a week, then want to eat once again for a couple days, then STTN, then maybe a night where she ate briefly, then back to STTN. She also would want to nurse at night again when her canines and molars came in right before a year. But has been fully night weaned since then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012438 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:27:54 +0000 regberadaisy 1012438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: so we have flopped back and forth on this. She started STTN around 7.5 months. Then right before a year she started a billion wake ups again. OK, I exaggerate. Finally after she got over her pneumonia I said enough was enough (around 12 months). If she woke up I just let her cry and did not go get her. She would usually fall back asleep within 5-10 minutes. But even then it was one wake up at night. Eventually she stopped that. I think it might've taken 1.5 - 2 weeks for her to drop all the wakings? Now she's back to STTN.</p> <p>GL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012396 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:12:30 +0000 kiddosc 1012396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E pretty much night weened himself right before he turned one. I started to let him fuss for 5-10 minutes before I would go in, but if he really started to cry, or was still fussing after 10 min I would go in and nurse. He was only waking up once a night, so i wasn't really bothered by it and I don't get to see him much during the week so I enjoyed our quiet snuggle time. He started sleeping through the night about a week before his birthday and has been doing it pretty consistently since. I nursed him at night a handful of times in the next few months when he was having rough teething nights. But we completely weened at 14 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012373 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 08:05:15 +0000 Mrsbells 1012373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned at 14 months. she showed no signs of ever being ready to self wean </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012319 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:49:04 +0000 rachiecakes 1012319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: At 8/9 months we had a bout of reverse cycling. He would refuse bottles of BM all day (I WOH 7:30am to 5:30pm) and then wanted to nurse throughout the night. I was a zombie. I thought I'd never sleep again. Then just before 10 months, he slept completely through the night and started refusing to nurse. By 11 months, I would have had to hold him down and force him to continue breastfeeding, so that's when it ended for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012286 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:35:11 +0000 heartonastring 1012286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are so not there yet (DD is only 16 weeks), but I've read about this method and it makes a lot of sense to me and is likely what I will use if/when the time comes: <a href="http://www.troublesometots.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-sleeping-through-the-night-part-3/" rel="nofollow">http://www.troublesometots.com/what-you-need-to-know-about-sleeping-through-the-night-part-3/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012276 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:30:36 +0000 anbanan15 1012276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 21 months DS was still nursing 2+ times (up to 5 or more!) overnight. He self weaned on his own at 21 months and did everything all at once, cold turkey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012272 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:28:38 +0000 purrpletulips 1012272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is currently 11m and appears to have no intention of night weaning anytime soon, in fact he has gone from one night waking to waking every 2-3hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012248 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 07:17:50 +0000 hilsy85 1012248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo is 9.5 months now and goes through spurts where he'll STTN, the rest of the time he's up 1x per night...I keep saying when he hits 10 months, I'll focus on night weaning, but I am really hoping he just drops it on his own. I feel like if he is STTN some times, he doesn't really need it...but at the same time, I know that in the MOTN, it's easier to nurse 1x than listen to crying! I'd like to partially wean around 1 year, so I don't know if it's better to put off night weaning til then and do most sessions together, or work on it earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012178 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 06:36:04 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1012178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: We had to intervene when she was about 13-14 months. It really wasn't too bad though because by that point she could understand that we said goodnight, she understood when we said lay down, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012044 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 01:35:40 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1012044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i had to sleep train to night wean at 16 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1012007 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 00:52:26 +0000 Kemma 1012007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My wee girl is ten months and still nurses once or twice each night as well as nursing to sleep at bedtime. Some nights she'll put herself to sleep without nursing but will wake every 2-3 hours and others she'll nurse to sleep and sleep almost all night!</p> <p>We are a "wait it out" family rather than CIO and I'm confident that A will night wean in her own time although I'm open to using a gentle method of weaning such as the one by Dr Jay Gordon if it comes to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011992 Tue, 13 Aug 2013 00:18:41 +0000 hellocupcake 1011992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: she just said that being so close at night makes it easier for her to want it more often :/ she suggested we stop cosleeping and notice that if it's out of sight out of mind kind of deal. I just hope she weans on her own because I don't think I can be the one to cut her off :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011958 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:42:26 +0000 lolabee 1011958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: thanks for the link! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011954 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:36:30 +0000 junebugmama 1011954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: same here! He knows I've got the milk and that if he cries I will plug him up lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011949 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:35:11 +0000 lolabee 1011949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: good to know, so I'm not doing harm to him as I worry, thank you! I do know he can go to sleep without nursing as he's done it for naps numerous times with his Dad, my Mom or sister. I think he just knows when it's me that he can have milk :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011945 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:32:11 +0000 lemondrop 1011945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he stopped around 14 months, lots of good and not so good nights to get there. Between 10-11 months he wanted it a lot more, which was rough, but I just didn't offer it first thing and tried snuggling instead. After a few weeks he just stopped waking up since I wasn't offering the good stuff. We hit speed bumps here and there because he always seemed to get sick and that always brought night nursing back. My biggest challenge was not just crashing on our guest bed with him for the rest of the night. I had to remember to put him back in his own bed and try to avoid nursing the rest of the night since it was just so easy. It has been a very gradual process for us since I'm not into CIO, but by 16-18 months he sleep got awesome!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011943 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:31:07 +0000 junebugmama 1011943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: <a href="http://cosleeping.nd.edu/" rel="nofollow">http://cosleeping.nd.edu/</a> </p> <p>This particular link has lots of information </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011937 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:25:56 +0000 junebugmama 1011937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: I will get you links! </p> <p>I thought the same thing about the self soothing. My son is 14 months old and based on some of his habits and social anxiety I figured he could never soothe himself. I recently started a part time job 2 days per week that would take place during times he usually would nap (honestly still did most of them in my arms) However, DH said he goes down with no crying. Then I realized, that when he gets hurt he can cry and manage through it now, without me or a breast. He's actually more capable of self-soothing himself, than our 5 year old is (co-sleep not bed and formula fed) It just took a lot longer to surface. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011934 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:21:44 +0000 lolabee 1011934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: that totally makes sense. I don't mind the wakings at all at this point, just because its so easy. I know he's just comforting himself for the most part - then we're both back to sleep so quickly! I don't think I'd deal well with wake ups our of our room, hence the co-bedding. I only worry that I'm somehow screwing him up for sleep habits. He has zero self soothing techniques. Do you have a link to any of the studies you've read? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011932 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:21:29 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1011932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>15 months ans still nursing 2x overnight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011928 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:16:46 +0000 junebugmama 1011928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: There's a lot of studies that actually have studied co-sleeping and co-bedding and it's effect on night nursing. Co-sleeping only shows a slight increase while co-bedding double or tripled the night wakings on average. For me, I was ok with the night wakings because I could fall right back asleep. I know that if I got out of bed, I would be up for awhile each time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011924 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:13:39 +0000 lolabee 1011924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellocupcake: I'm in the same boat...was wondering if the nighttime nursing would be cut back considerably if we didn't cobed. That said, at this point it's not bothering me. What did your ped have to say about co sleeping?</p> <p>@scg00387: don't mean to thread jack! Going to follow as I'm curious about this too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011923 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 23:11:05 +0000 junebugmama 1011923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I recently started a part time job 2 days per week. He will go 8 hours with out a real issue, when I'm not around. He's even napping without crying when DH puts him down (hubby works nights) On those days he does wake up 2-3 times at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-didnt-self-night-wean-by-8-months#post-1011912 Mon, 12 Aug 2013 22:50:39 +0000 immabeetoo 1011912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@owlmom: that is good to hear, sounds like your LO was ready!</p> <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: I am going along with it, especially since it's back to quick and easy, but definitely starting to think about what the next few months will look like! Fingers crossed he follows suit and drops it on his own :)</p> <p>@PrincessBaby: That sounds awfully nice :) (when are you moved into your new house, anyways?)</p> <p>@junebugmama: I won't say we'd never consider CIO but would definitely explore all other options and want night weaning to be a gentle process if it's initiated by me/us. I think he probably would go longer than 4 hours during the day if I didn't offer, but I am nervous that would turn into another night waking to 'catch up'! </p>