https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 20:17:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124471 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 15:15:33 +0000 gingerbebe 2124471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was me, I'd try to yank the paci and try to replace it with a lovey of some kind. We ditched pacis pretty early on because DS always lost them and got so mad when they fell out, so I can't specifically advise, but we did started giving him a lovey (the kind that's a small blankey attached to a stuffed bear head) and that's made sleep SO much better. Its big enough where he can find it anywhere in the crib when he's flailing around and it has enough edges that he can chew and suck on it on top of hugging it. We just keep 2 of the same kind around so that one can get thrown in the wash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124411 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 14:13:12 +0000 nana87 2124411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lo does this at almost 12 months, but we haven't done any kind of sleep training at all. Usually dh can get her back to sleep quickly if it's just the paci she needs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124380 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 13:54:29 +0000 hilsy85 2124380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: LO is a total stomach sleeper and it has never bothered him at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124378 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 13:53:28 +0000 Mae 2124378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: she has 2 paci plushies in there at all times (same as wubbanub except you can connect any paci-- she only likes avent ones) </p> <p>@LBee: It doesn't start that way. Like when I'm watching her on the monitor she's just laying there still crying with her eyes closed. I think its almost like she isn't waking up enough to find it... but then when she DOES wake up enough that she could find it she's unwilling to (that is where there might be manipulation) and just stands up and cries for me. But if I (or my husband, or whoever) gets up there before she pops her eyes open and stands up, she requires nothing more than sticking the pacifier in. Doesn't need a pat or a cuddle or anything. So I don't think it STARTS as wanting me... I think thats just where it ends up if she gets herself fully awake. But yea. I assume this won't go on forever... either she'll start sleeping okay without her paci, or she'll start finding it herself, or at some point we'll paci wean. </p> <p>@hilsy85: I'm hesitant to clip it to her because she sleeps on her stomach a lot of times and I feel like that would be uncomfortable....? Maybe I"ll try it though. But honestly I'm not that annoyed! If I considered this a real problem I would be taking steps to address it. I feel fully rested so its just not a big deal in my book. Just curious what other kids have done about this :) </p> <p>@sailgrl18: I'm not bothered enough to train her out of this. I'm sure it would work if I did. But I've sleep trained once for sleeping in her crib at all, and I'm definitely at the point of "good enough" ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124269 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 12:44:05 +0000 sailgrl18 2124269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not paci but DS had a sleep association with nursing so everytime he woke the only thing that got him to sleep was nursing. You could try eliminating putting the paci in her mouth at the beginning of the night (probably Ferber). I was honestly surprised that when we eliminated nursing from the beginning of the night the most he cried for was 10 minutes and then no crying after 2 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124236 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 12:27:49 +0000 hilsy85 2124236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way I could handle that!!! I would get SO annoyed--when LO started doing this, I clipped his paci to his sleepsack, so he can just find it on his own. I think that started around 11 months? If that hadn't worked and he continued to not be able to find it on his own, I woudl probably just get rid of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124100 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:50:52 +0000 LBee 2124100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I hate to say this, but it sounds like she may know that you are going to come? Especially if it's obvious she can actually see it and you know she is capable of locating it / putting it in her mouth. Please know I say this with all the love the internet can give, as my son is the same way. He actually stops crying when he hears footsteps. Total manipulation. </p> <p>Like all things, I remind myself that it's a stage and that he will grow out of it - whether the growing out be the paci or the unwillingness to shove it in his own mouth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124093 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:46:22 +0000 avivoca 2124093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>H has a wubbanub, so I leave her to find it herself. If the crying escalates or she stands up, that usually means she's pushed/thrown it out of the crib and then I go looking for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124088 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:42:25 +0000 Mae 2124088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: @Pumuckl: we always have 4 or 5 in there. Two of which are paci plushies (attached to stuffed animals to make them easy to grab). Issue is not that she can't find one. I watch her in the monitor and she doesn't even look. Just lays still crying until I come up (of until she wakes herself then she pops up and stands) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124083 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:39:51 +0000 Pumuckl 2124083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did the same thing as @kiddosc: there are multiple pacifiers in his crib. Some even glow in the dark which has also made finding them easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124043 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:17:38 +0000 kiddosc 2124043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we had this problem, it was because there was only one paci in the crib and it was hard to find in the dark. I threw 6 pacis in the crib at night and the trips in to replace it were significantly reduced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-needs-help-with-their-pacifier-at-night#post-2124025 Fri, 27 Mar 2015 10:01:50 +0000 Mae 2124025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At what point did they stop needing help all the time? Either by sleeping without it? Or finding it themselves? </p> <p>LO is 10.5 months and on average she wakes up crying for me to put her paci back in somewhere between 1-4 times per night. She's pretty much always been like this. Right after we sleep trained at 6 mo she was a bit better at looking for her pacifier if she woke up mid-night and we a lot of nights I only had to go up once or sometimes not at all because she would cry for a few minutes while she looked for her paci, put it in, then fall back asleep herself. I would only go up if she couldn't find it after 2-3 minutes. Then we had a bit of a 9mo regression and ever since she doesn't even try to look for her pacifier when she wakes up mid-night. She just lays there and cries until I come put it back in. Or if I don't go up there, after a few minutes she stands up and cries at the edge of her crib "mama mama mama" until I come back in. Then she is too awake to just lay back down and I end up having to rock her back to sleep. The only times she ever puts the paci back in herself after she's fallen asleep the first time (I don't ever rock her to sleep at bed time since sleep training) is if it is literally right in front of her face and she doesn't hardly even have to move to get it in. </p> <p>I know that if we re-sleep trained for MOTN wake ups we could probably break her of this habit, but honestly I don't care *that* much. Usually the first two of her wake ups are before I even go to bed so she usually only wakes me up once or twice a night and I fall asleep easily after so it isn't that big of a deal to me to run up and give her the paci back a few times. </p> <p>I'm more just curious if this has happened to other people, and if their kids ever got back into the groove of finding their paci themselves or if it just continued on until sleep training or paci weaning? </p>