Hellobee Boards Topic: If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?

Hellobee Boards Topic: If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 13:03:25 +0000 littlejoy on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2042119 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 13:37:52 +0000 littlejoy 2042119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Corduroy: I would contact the host, and ask if she's arranged to take the gifts over to the mom. If you don't get a response, ask your friend when/where to drop the gift. She's probably stressed and doesn't want/need to worry about all of that. Anya on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041513 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 01:11:06 +0000 Anya 2041513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't have a shower and I bought everything myself. I'm sure some people will give the baby a gift after the birth but as far as gear I'm self-equipped. If I were a guest at a shower that was canceled and I had bought a gift or was planning to, I would arrange for the gift to bd delivered to the mom-to-be's home or with the shower host if for some reason that wasn't possible. Sapphiresun on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041496 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 00:13:23 +0000 Sapphiresun 2041496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think maybe I'm confused as well as to whether people have already bought gifts and it was cancelled at the last minute? Mine wasn't cancelled but it's considered bad luck to bring baby stuff into a house before a baby is there so my shower was after baby was born, by about a month. It meant that I just purchased all the stuff I'd need right away by myself. I only got a bit of clothing at the shower, no major items at all. Mrs.ThinMint on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041376 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 22:05:41 +0000 Mrs.ThinMint 2041376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had my baby at 27 weeks. We had just sent out the invitations for the shower. My best friend called everyone and said we were rescheduling it and to wait for a new invitation. We had it 2 months later. My baby was still in the NICU, so I didn't need any gear. Pancakes on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041337 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 21:44:30 +0000 Pancakes 2041337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My friend delivered at 26 weeks and she had her shower about 8 weeks later, when baby was still in the NICU, but was more stable. cait on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041324 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 21:36:37 +0000 cait 2041324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I know of one person this happened to and the host ended up rescheduling the shower for after the mom and baby were home. I can see that being tricky though depending on how the new mom is feeling and also with it being flu season here. If I had purchased a necessity from someone's registry and this happened, I would be sure to mail or drop it off to them, hopefully her guests will do the same! Ginabean3 on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2041130 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 18:09:13 +0000 Ginabean3 2041130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had my baby unexpectedly at 30 weeks and never had a shower. We bought most of the big things ourselves and our family gifted us a couple of very nice big items (stroller, car seat). We did not reschedule the original shower but had a Welcome Home party once LO got discharged from the NICU. at that time we got gifts but we're not expecting it at all! Mrs Green Grass on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040915 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:50:49 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2040915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had my baby at 25 weeks in October and we had a shower in December...still before he came home. The NICU supplies everything necessary, so although not ideal (and a bit more somber), it worked out fine. I think a lot of people didn't quite know how to interact with me/were scared to talk about it and having a shower made things feel more normal, so definitely do something for her! PinkElephant on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040903 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:47:53 +0000 PinkElephant 2040903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It might be too late, but I've seen showers still take place with the mama attending via FaceTime from her hospital bed. It gives family and friends a chance to get together and get excited for the baby (and bring their gift). In many cases, there are sunk costs for the shower (cake, food, decorations, or a venue deposit), so the view is that these might as well to good use. Of course I'd never do the above without the mom-to-be saying it's fine....if it were me, I'd say go ahead. :) dagret on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040801 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:48:53 +0000 dagret 2040801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Corduroy: TBH she's very dramatic so she still talks about it. (My nephew will be 7 next month.) but that's her personality... At the time, her main concern was with my nephew's health, not missing her shower, you know? I know she appreciated/was touched by all the gifts but I think she really misses that center of attention opportunity. ETA: my nephew was in the hospital for probably 6 or 8 weeks, so it depends on how early the baby is, but you don't necessarily know when to reschedule a shower... it's a tough call. Mommy Finger on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040733 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:17:25 +0000 Mommy Finger 2040733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've been to a few showers that happened after the baby was born due to either an early birth or b/c my friend is Jewish and that's her tradition. catomd00 on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040472 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 12:37:25 +0000 catomd00 2040472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If I was attending a cancelled shower, I'd put my gift in the mail or stop over to drop it off if it wasn't going to impose too much on the family. math.nerd on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040465 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 12:33:31 +0000 math.nerd 2040465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was just about to consider letting my sister throw me a shower when my water broke at 28 weeks and I was put on hospital bedrest for the remainder of my pregnancy. A very dear friend took it upon herself to organize a sort of "virtual" shower and gifts were sent directly to my home. Perhaps the hostesses could contact their guests and arrange to pick up the gifts? twodoghouse on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040413 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 12:03:16 +0000 twodoghouse 2040413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My work shower was supposed to be the weekend I was admitted to the hospital for pre term labor. I went home on bedrest a few days later, but just wasn't up to rescheduling. Some of my work friends brought over a few after my babies were born. My mom's friend's daughter had her son early (30 weeks I think?) and they rescheduled her shower for when she was home from the hospital (her son stayed for several weeks after). Corduroy on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040407 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:58:52 +0000 Corduroy 2040407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @dagret: That was one idea the family is toying with. Do you know how your SIL felt about not being there? I really don't think my friend would care about missing her in law shower. dagret on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040391 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:49:56 +0000 dagret 2040391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My SIL's baby shower was the Saturday after she gave birth due to pre-eclampsia at 32 weeks. Since it was so close, my mom and her mom had the shower anyway, they opened the gifts and delivered them to her. Maysprout on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040367 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:37:06 +0000 Maysprout 2040367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My grandmother passed away the day before mine so it was cancelled last min. it was rescheduled for several weeks later but people who couldn't make it then all had their own way of passing gifts along. . Some mailed gifts, some came to vist us or my parents, we didn't have any organized way. coopsmama on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040366 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:36:36 +0000 coopsmama 2040366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Well, having a shower isn't exactly a guarantee that you're (and by you I mean your friend) going to get all your gear anyways. Hopefully if someone bought them something that was necessary immediately they would drop it off themselves or coordinate delivery in some way. MaryM on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040348 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:26:37 +0000 MaryM 2040348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister's first was 6 weeks early so she hadn't had a shower. They simply made due (and I think had a welcome home baby party later?) He was so tiny that he didn't need a crib anyway. I'm pretty sure he slept in a laundry basket at first. Mrs. Jacks on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040341 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:24:18 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2040341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think I might have misunderstood. People already bought them stuff? pinkcupcake on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040335 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:21:46 +0000 pinkcupcake 2040335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Maybe one of the hostesses could offer to collect all the gifts and drop it off to the parents-to-be? Mrs. Jacks on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040330 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:20:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2040330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We didn't get a shower last time. We bought our gear. In adoption, people mostly don't do showers because you never know... So we buy our stuff as should be expected for everyone. And we are infinitely grateful for any handmedowns given by friends. Edited to add: I guess my reaction was more to the fact that I feel like no one should expect gifts to kit out the child that they chose to have... But I don't think that's what you meant at all in this case :) blackbird on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040327 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:19:18 +0000 blackbird 2040327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Can someone set up a drop off station and sort of collect everything? oliviaoblivia on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040325 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:18:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2040325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents brought it to me when they came to meet the baby. It meant that my dad and husband were at home assembling the crib while I was at the hospital, but it all worked out fine. Corduroy on "If your baby shower was cancelled how did you get your gear?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-baby-shower-was-cancelled-how-did-you-get-your-gear#post-2040316 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:14:09 +0000 Corduroy 2040316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My friend's baby showers were cancelled due to pregnancy complications. Baby is coming early. One hostess cancelled her shower and the other postponed it with no mention of when it will be. If your showers were cancelled or postponed how did you get your stuff so you were equipped when baby arrived?