Hellobee Boards Topic: If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming

Hellobee Boards Topic: If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 02:35:23 +0000 winniebee on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509717 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 14:36:28 +0000 winniebee 2509717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @whiskers: That's a really great way of putting it to a young child! erinbaderin on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509581 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 12:57:50 +0000 erinbaderin 2509581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My son was only 18 months when I found out - we told him after the 12 week ultrasound. I was worried he'd tell people, and I didn't really think he'd get it. He did understand by the time the baby arrived, though. skipra on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509568 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 12:53:22 +0000 skipra 2509568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was so sick and LO1 (3.5) was kind of concerned so we tried to tell him early and even took him to my dating scan but he just insisted that I ate too much. He finally understood when I showed him the pictures from the NT scan. It's been a few weeks since then and I think he forgot. whiskers on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509562 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 12:49:20 +0000 whiskers 2509562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We told my 3 year old right away this time. I made it clear that sometimes babys grow and sometimes they don't and only the doctor can tell us if it is growing. MamaCate on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509457 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 11:55:16 +0000 MamaCate 2509457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @winniebee: we told my 3 yo LO at 13 weeks after a good scan and making it out of the first Tri. We had a loss at 12 weeks previously so we didn't tell a single person prior to that point. We didn't want her to deal with an early loss of we had another one plus she can't keep a secret so we wanted her to be able to share the good news! She was thrilled! pregnantbee on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509433 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 11:33:52 +0000 pregnantbee 2509433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We told our 3.5 yo after we got good results from both the NIPT and NT scan, right before we told the family. We didn't want him sharing before we were ready, and I had 2 prior losses, so we wanted to make sure things were looking good first. He's so excited :) Shantuck on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509429 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 11:31:58 +0000 Shantuck 2509429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My plan is to share the news with my 3.5 year old after the NIPT results as well. He understands that his aunt has a baby in her tummy and talks about it frequently so I can only imagine how many people he will tell when he is going to be a big brother. We figure we will share with him once we are ready for the whole world to know. MrsKoala on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509425 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 11:29:29 +0000 MrsKoala 2509425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO is 2 and we told him after we had the NT scan and the results came back and they were good. travellingbee on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509334 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 10:43:34 +0000 travellingbee 2509334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think we told him after we got the genetic blood test back- so around 12 weeks. He was excited. JoJoGirl on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509279 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 10:10:37 +0000 JoJoGirl 2509279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We told her after my viability scan. mamabolt on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509278 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 10:09:34 +0000 mamabolt 2509278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We waited until we were comfortable with the world knowing. At 3 years old discretion was not one of her strengths. Within a few days of telling her one of the other daycare parents congratulated me BC his son had brought the news home. Periwinkle on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509245 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:45:10 +0000 Periwinkle 2509245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We just told LO (almost 3 1/2) this past weekend, after we got back our test results. We had originally wanted to tell him first but decided to hold off as we had no idea if he would get it or not. He definitely gets it (in a 3 year old type of way!) so we are happy we waited... we felt better knowing that everything looked OK before introducing such a big change to him. Also, because he is old enough to understand, we didn't want him waiting forever and getting (maybe?) frustrated that is was still so much time before baby arrives. pwnstar on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509237 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:40:40 +0000 pwnstar 2509237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We told LO after we got the results of the CVS back at 13 weeks. She was almost 3.5, and we didn't want her to tell people before we were ready. runnerd on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509233 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:38:38 +0000 runnerd 2509233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @coopsmama: funny! F had no clue what I'm talking about. I'll tell him there is a baby brother in mama's belly. All he picks up on is "belly" and lifts his shirt and starts poking his belly button and laughing. winniebee on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509232 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:38:17 +0000 winniebee 2509232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @tinyperson: @mrsjyw: That's the other thing. I think he would tell everyone! We've told some family but I don't want random people knowing : ) coopsmama on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509227 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:34:42 +0000 coopsmama 2509227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I told both kids right away this time - as in the night I found out! And you may be surprised, M was 16 months when I got pregnant and she is much more attached to the new baby then my 2.5 year old. She's been hugging and kissing my belly since before there was even a bump! Almost daily she comes over and says "hi baby" and pulls my full panel pants down to kiss my belly. I've been amazed by her awareness!! mrsjyw on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509225 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:34:25 +0000 mrsjyw 2509225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Same as you, we told DS1 right away. He was a few months shy of two. That ended in a chemical pregnancy. Then we got pregnant with DS2 just as he was turning two and told him a few weeks later. If were were to have a third baby, I think I'd wait until we decided to tell others. One - to make sure the pregnancy is viable, two - so DS didn't tell our parents before we were ready! tinyperson on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509220 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:32:36 +0000 tinyperson 2509220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD was almost 3, and we opted to wait till after the ultrasound at 12 weeks (ended up being 11 or so). I didn't want her telling anyone before we were ready! :) Alba4 on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509216 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:31:18 +0000 Alba4 2509216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DS is2.5 and he understands that a baby is in my belly. We told him when I was 12 weeks. He asks to kiss and hug my belly. He likes to talk about what he will teach his new baby brother. I doubt he really gets that a baby will be here to stay in June! Ha! travelgirl1 on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509212 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:29:56 +0000 travelgirl1 2509212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD was only 2 when I was pregnant but we told her straight away because I was so sick all day every day. If we have a third we will tell her straight away again so she knows why mummy is ill and no fun and doesn't worry or get upset thinking anything else. If that wasn't an issue though, I would probably wait until the 12 week ultrasound, just because if I miscarried again, I wouldn't want her to go through the upset. winniebee on "If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy / a baby is coming" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-old-enough-to-really-understand-pregnancy-a-baby-is-coming#post-2509208 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:27:23 +0000 winniebee 2509208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If your child is old enough to really understand pregnancy or that a sibling is on the way, when did you tell your child that you were pregnant? DS1 was only 2 when I was in the early stages of pregnancy with DS2. I think we told him pretty early because he would be rough with me and we didn't want him to be so rough. But now DS1 is almost 4 and knows perfectly well what a new baby means. So I'm hesitant to tell him anything about the pregnancy until later. I'm 9 weeks and thinking that we'll tell him if our NIPT test results come back ok. So probably around 11-12 weeks. DS2 is only 15 months and he probably won't understand any of it until the baby is here :)