Hellobee Boards Topic: If your child is the challenging one

Hellobee Boards Topic: If your child is the challenging one https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 10:27:53 +0000 Ms. RV on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2720132 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 19:16:04 +0000 Ms. RV 2720132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Maybe I am mean, but I feel like waiting until the third time she opens the door to give a time out is too lenient. I would ask that for safety things she gets an immediate time out. If they are redirecting her the first two times, she may interpret that as positive reinforcement (i.e., one on one attention, even if it is brief). sapphire on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2720116 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 18:13:35 +0000 sapphire 2720116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My LO moved up classrooms early twice because she was acting out more out of boredom- when she had "trial" days in another classroom she did better so they moved her. Our daycare has tough ages but definitely looks at development more (she moved to the 2 year old class before several older children did). I would talk to the director about that option. Once she was with more similarly developed kids, the behaviors stopped. littlejoy on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2720027 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 14:36:19 +0000 littlejoy 2720027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My child is super spirited, and sometimes I wonder if it'll be the day I get a message saying we need to talk about her getting kicked out of preschool. ;) But what's weird is that none of her teachers really see the same issues we do - kids are different at home and at school. If they haven't used negative language or suggested changes, it sounds like they are pretty equipped to handle your LO, and understand she's in the wide range of normal toddler behavior. I will say, I don't prefer any issues be discussed at pickup or dropoff. I prefer a meeting, email, or phone chat. Pickup and dropoff are for my daughter (for saying goodbye or greeting her after her day), and I don't like being distracted. Maybe you could set a general meeting with them to feel like you're on the same page. It'll be great. :) Andrea on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2720007 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 13:56:24 +0000 Andrea 2720007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It sounds like what I went through with DD1. She was exhibiting behaviors at school that I never saw at home. She was bored! I definitely think you should bring this to their attention. Maybe they can engage her in some different activities or move her to the next class sooner. Mrs. Pickle on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719994 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 13:23:39 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2719994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @gilmoregirl: I think that is why they are asking. I do want to be on the same page so that's why I'd like to talk to them without lots of other parents around. gilmoregirl on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719960 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 12:25:08 +0000 gilmoregirl 2719960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The toddler teachers ended up gating the doors at my son's daycare because so many kids were opening the door and running out into the hall...so very normal. If the teachers are asking what you do at home, it could be that they want to be on the same page so that you are each reinforcing the same message? As opposed to the teachers thinking there is anything unusual about your daughter's behavior. I definitely prefer my son to be on the younger end of a class so being the oldest could be a factor. It's worth bringing up. But it sounds very normal to me. Mrs. Pickle on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719938 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 11:52:30 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2719938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Blue: @youboots: she doesn't have many words yet so I'm sure not being able to communicate is frustrating for her. At home we redirect her away from doors and have doorknob covers on some doors. She is really obsessed with doors right now! @youboots: the ratio is 1-4. I think the max in my state is 1-5. There are 9 kids in her class but I can't remember a single day where all 9 have been there. @ktdid23: @Boogs: I'm glad to know I'm not alone in thinking boredom is playing a part. At drop off tomorrow I'm going to ask if I can come about 5 minutes late to pick her up so I can talk to her teachers without other parents around and get their opinion. The director and assistant director are both very accessible so I think I could easily get a meeting. Boogs on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719882 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 11:02:22 +0000 Boogs 2719882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ She sounds like my youngest and when we have lots of the same issues, it's usually because he's bored. Hopefully you can talk to them and they can try to test her out in another class? ktdid23 on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719875 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 10:57:43 +0000 ktdid23 2719875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would put money on the guess that she's bored with the younger kids. I am a preschool director and we can always tell when a child is ready to move to the next classroom because they are starting to display "attention seeking behaviors" like climbing on things they shouldn't, getting aggressive with other children, or repeatedly doing things they have been asked to not do. All of these behaviors are absolutely normal, but if she isn't doing them at home, and this is a recent concern among the teachers, I honestly think you are right in that she's bored in the classroom with younger children. Is there any way that you can speak with the program director to have her moved up to the next class? youboots on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719873 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 10:55:42 +0000 youboots 2719873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This sounds like my daughter. Now that she's a little older (25 mo) and able to communicate better it's easier to reason with her. I don't think it's a big deal she's just navigating her world with all the fun things she does not have at home. If they are not asking to have a sit down I would not request it myself. What is the child to teacher ratio? My DD goes to childcare 8 hours a week and lately has been really enjoying it and asking to go every morning Mrs. Blue on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719869 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 10:52:35 +0000 Mrs. Blue 2719869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ At that age, I don't know that there's a whole lot you can do about it, other than just reinforcing what the teachers are saying and how you want her to act. The things she is doing sound pretty age appropriate to me, so I wouldn't worry about it too much. The door thing, I would definitely emphasize, because as you said, it is a safety issue, of course. For me, toddlers are just a hard age because they have that desire to assert independence and test boundaries but none of the communication or logic to do so in a safe and appropriate manner. Mrs. Pickle on "If your child is the challenging one" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-child-is-the-challenging-one#post-2719861 Tue, 04 Apr 2017 10:35:22 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2719861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My DD is almost 18 months. She's been in a part time "preschool" program since January. It's Mother's Day Out but they have a loose curriculum they follow and have different theme weeks. It's a big program and goes up to a full time preschool for 3 and 4 year olds. The classrooms are divided by age not physical abilities like they would be at a daycare. She goes two days a week for 5 hours. I really love her school, she's really bonded with her teachers (one especially) and she seems to have a really great time there. She's a very active child, determined, and physically strong. Lately I've gotten the impression that DD is the child that requires the most attention and that she can be difficult. Neither of her teachers have used negative language when describing her. She does things like scream repeatedly to get attention (she doesn't really do that at home), climb everything (the high chairs at lunch, the piano during kindermusik, the cribs, the toys), she opens the classroom door. They redirect her a lot and give her a time out after the third time she opens the door. DH and I are ok with them doing that because opening the door and running out is unsafe. She is one of the oldest in her class and won't be moving up until the fall. These are not things that other kids are doing. I know these are normal toddler behaviors. I know a lot of you have way more experience with childcare. So here is my question: can I do anything about it? Yesterday when I picked her up one of her teachers asked if she screamed at home and asked how I handled it. Drop off and pick up can be chaotic. Should I request a meeting to talk about her behavior? Should I not worry about it? A part of me is wondering if she is bored being with younger kids. 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