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Hellobee Boards Topic: If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 19:28:58 +0000 LuLu Mom on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so/page/2#post-128589 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:58:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 128589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on the secret and who it involves. If the secret is a mutural couple friend and the wife told me something about her husband, I owuld keep it from my husband. If it's nothing that my husband would "care" about I tell him. I learned this the hard way with a friend who was one of the first people I told I was pregnant. She ended up telling everyone and her dog "in confidence" and it got out before we were ready for people to know. I was not happy with her at all. PawPrints on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-128532 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:27:22 +0000 PawPrints 128532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Unless they tell me not to, I share everything with my husband. Even then, I sometimes make the call that my husband is an exception, but I'm sure to tell him not to pass it along. Modern Daisy on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-128519 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:16:08 +0000 Modern Daisy 128519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I use discretion. Ultimately if he were to directly ask me, I would always tell him the secret. But I won't offer up things I've been told if he doesnt' need to know. Most men are good secret keepers since they don't gossip as much as we do and they don't care as much to begin with and my DH is no exception. And he's very respectful of other peoples privacy so he would never blab. Adira on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-128504 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 15:05:48 +0000 Adira 128504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I tell my husband unless someone explicitly asked me not to. All my friends know that anything they tell me, I'll tell him. He usually doesn't listen or care though, haha. And my husband knows that when he tells me stuff, I'm going to tell my BFF unless he tells me not to, haha. mediagirl on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127668 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 05:46:05 +0000 mediagirl 127668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sometimes. We have a rule, though. If we start the conversation with, you cannot tell ANYONE this, it doesn't leave the house. :-) BSB on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127593 Wed, 18 Apr 2012 01:23:58 +0000 BSB 127593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Maybe... Maysprout on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127364 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 20:32:29 +0000 Maysprout 127364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I won't if they tell me not to or if I think it might be questionable I'll ask if I can tell him. But most of my friends say go ahead and tell him because they want his opinion too. pastemoo on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127309 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:59:18 +0000 pastemoo 127309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ depends on the situation Minnie_Girl on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127291 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:46:32 +0000 Minnie_Girl 127291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't like lying (or keeping secrets), and have a hard time softening things to make them more socially correct. So I tend to tell my husband everything that passes my way. If it's something a friend or acquaintance tells me, I don't necessarily talk to him about it because that's more of an outside relationship. But if it's something that's happening within the family, I always tell him. Now that I think about it, I don't grant that same secret-sharing privilege to friends, siblings, or any other women, haha! DH is the only one that feels really safe. mrs. wagon on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127256 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:32:21 +0000 mrs. wagon 127256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I always ask if it's ok to tell Wagon Sr. If it's not, I ask them not to tell me! I can't keep a secret from Wagon Sr. Rubies on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127211 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:19:57 +0000 Rubies 127211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: I totally agree with you on this matter. If someone tells me something in confidence, they told it to ME. If they wanted my husband to know, they'd tell him. heffalump on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127119 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:42:31 +0000 heffalump 127119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: I never mind if someone tells my secret to their SO. But then again I never really have any good secrets. I guess the only one I've had was that I miscarried, I didn't want it spread around because I didn't want to talk to everybody about it. But I told close friends, and I'm 100% sure they told their SO's. But I don't see the SO's spreading it around so I don't care. Baby Boy Mom on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127112 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:40:06 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 127112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup, almost always unless I forget. I can't keep anything from DH. I feel like my friends assume that I tell him though so it's not a big deal. Mrsbells on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127089 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:25:40 +0000 Mrsbells 127089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes I do tell my husband and for this reason I dont tell people my secrets but I assume they will at the very least tell their SO and if that person doesnt feel loyal to me they might tell someone else mrbee on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127048 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 17:41:29 +0000 mrbee 127048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Haha I'm not telling you guys any secrets!! heffalump on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-127038 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 17:36:33 +0000 heffalump 127038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Always. meaganceleste on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126973 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:58:53 +0000 meaganceleste 126973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on the secret, but yes, I normally tell my husband everything. He knows to keep a tight lip about things, so I have no fears in sharing things with him. Mrs. Pickle on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126970 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:57:25 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 126970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I tell my husband. My friends know how close we are and when they tell me something it includes my husband. I also know it goes both ways. So unless we specifically say not to tell our husbands then they get told. BabyBoecksMom on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126968 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:56:43 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 126968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I tell my husband... it makes me feel so much better to not be the only person who knows the secret - HA! banana on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126961 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:55:28 +0000 banana 126961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sometimes I'll tell him but usually not. My husband isn't the gossipy/secretive type so he doesn't even really care if I tell him anything interesting or not. He just nods his head and goes about his business. If he wanted to know though, I might tell him. If I tell my friends something, I just assume they would tell their SO's. Andrea on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126881 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:23:31 +0000 Andrea 126881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: I tell my husband everything so I just assume that everyone else does too. Mrs. Pen on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126876 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:19:00 +0000 Mrs. Pen 126876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't usually have/share secrets, if I do it's usually kept between me and my hubby until it's made public (if it ever is). Or else I'll tell my sister, but I would assume she tells her husband because it's the nature of our marriages. Anything she tells me, she knows I'll share with my husband. I guess it's a mutual understanding? I'm not close enough with anyone other than my sister to share "secrets" so I'm not worried about it because my sister is the most trustworthy person I know. Although, she has told my mom things on occasion (we're close with her too) when she wasn't supposed to, so now I know to clarify not to tell mom. :) cyneswith on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126869 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:17:13 +0000 cyneswith 126869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, but we also ask the other person if it's OK first. autumnlove on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126858 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:14:27 +0000 autumnlove 126858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, I always tell my husband! He tells me stuff too! mrbee on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126805 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:54:15 +0000 mrbee 126805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Andrea: That's so interesting! I think exactly the opposite... Andrea on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126796 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:48:51 +0000 Andrea 126796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If it is something interesting I might mention it to him. I think it should be a given that anything you tell someone is fair game for them to pass onto their spouse. Alivoo01 on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126792 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:47:37 +0000 Alivoo01 126792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yup! Hubby and I tell each other everything, and it's under the understanding that neither of us "knows". Rainbow Sprinkles on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126789 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:44:19 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 126789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, i always tell my husband. But usually the friend teling the secret understands that she is kind of sharing it with both of us. The only time i dont is if telling my husband really invades my friends privacy (hypothetical example: friend had an abortion). Running Elley on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126788 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:43:56 +0000 Running Elley 126788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do tell him and I also assume that if I tell a married friend a secret it's essentially telling their spouse as well. mrskc on "If your friend tells you a secret, do you tell your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-friend-tells-you-a-secret-do-you-tell-your-so#post-126756 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 15:34:17 +0000 mrskc 126756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. And when I tell secrets to someone who's married then I assume they'll share with their spouse. It just seems like a given to me.