https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 14:10:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2074300 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 19:53:13 +0000 namaste 2074300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom still hasn't met A or anyone in my family for that matter. Instead, I'm getting asked when I'm coming to visit? They live 8 hour drive/1.5 hour plane ride away.</p> <p>MIL &amp; SIL met A the same day she was born.</p> <p>FIL lives 3 hours away and has a bad back, drove up to meet A at 2 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2073813 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:16:07 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2073813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They are 3 hours away. The day we got home from the hospital they snuck out of work early, drove to our house, stayed only an hour or so and then had to hit the road again. </p> <p>I think she could make the effort! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2073801 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:12:59 +0000 PawPrints 2073801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My EDD for LO #1 is April 6, the in-laws already have a flight booked to come visit starting May 9. So probably in the neighborhood of 4 weeks old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2073784 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:02:30 +0000 MamaG 2073784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 - MIL met her at 10 weeks. FILs at nearly 2 years when we traveled to them.</p> <p>DD2 - MIL has passed, and FILs will meet her when we travel to them.</p> <p>I don't really care though. I know my FILs will never come to our house 4 states away and I don't have a huge desire to travel to them for our vacations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2073778 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:59:04 +0000 Mae 2073778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL lives 7hrs by car (or a flight) away. She met LO as soon as we would let her, which was 3 weeks. FIL lives 3 hrs by car and met her at 3 weeks as well. </p> <p>Although I think it is bizarre that after that week when MIL was in town with SIL and our nephew (and my FIL came 4 times that week)... he didn't see her again until Christmas when she was 7 months old. And DH's grandparents who are 3-4 hours/way and in good health (like drive to florida yearly, have driven to NYC 11 hours away several times to see nephew) have never met LO yet at 9mo. </p> <p>I am not really offended though. I sort of feel like they don't really want to be a part of our life and... ok. She doesn't need people in her life who aren't into her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn/page/2#post-2073777 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:58:33 +0000 travelgirl1 2073777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Hasn't met L? Seriously? Okay that is bad :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073756 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:49:58 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2073756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: you know J's one sister lives two hours away and hasn't met L. She sucks. At least yours have an ocean to blame. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073746 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:44:42 +0000 travelgirl1 2073746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>6 months for some, 9 months got most. Only MIL and FIL flew out to see her before we visited. Honestly, if we hadn't have visited them, only her grandparents and one aunt and uncle would have met her (she has a ton more) and she is 27 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073741 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:41:46 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2073741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: @tinyperson: I'm definitely not bummed about not seeing her, I'm just pissed for my girls, ya know? Her priorities are just so effed up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073732 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:39:25 +0000 illumina 2073732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL &amp; SIL lived 3hrs drive away and they first met her at 12 weeks when we brought HER to see THEM *sigh*. FIL &amp; SMIL lived around 7hrs drive away and they met her at 4 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073721 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:36:09 +0000 Alivoo01 2073721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL came into town the week I was induced and stayed the following week so she met DS immediately (a few hours after he was born and I allowed visitors). The rest of my in laws came into town a few days later I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073719 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:35:54 +0000 sunny 2073719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom arrived when LO was a few days old. My Dad didn't meet her until we went home for Christmas. MIL met her when she was 4.5 months and FIL met her when we went to Europe at 7 months. Everyone lives super far away. I wasn't all that bummed that MIL didn't meet her for a few months. </p> <p>@oliviaoblivia: I can see why you're annoyed but based on the stories I've heard about your MIL, perhaps it is actually a blessing? Sorry you're feeling hurt, friend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073708 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:31:26 +0000 tinyperson 2073708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: In your situation, I'd be a little bitter, but maybe count my blessings? :)</p> <p>MIL flew out when S was a week old and stayed for 5 or 6 days (they're in NL). FIL didn't come (but that was ok with me). We did Skype with him while MIL was here. </p> <p>I was more upset about my brother not meeting her till she was 20 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073676 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:15:27 +0000 Grace 2073676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 weeks for FIL, 9 months for SIL (and we went to visit her). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073664 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:11:55 +0000 autumnleaves 2073664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws live 13.5 hours away. This is their first grandchild so they were eager to visit but understood we'll need a little time to adjust so they visited for a week when LO was 6 weeks old. Now LO is almost 6 months old and I feel like they are missing out experiencing him at this age but since they work and this isn't a daytrip for them, it will be a couple of months before they see him again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073614 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:46:04 +0000 BandDmommy 2073614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not yet and she's 3 months. Not sure when they plan on visiting. FIL lives in HI. MIL too busy planning her ski trip to visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073605 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:42:15 +0000 petunia354 2073605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL lives 45 minutes away and hasn't seen DS in well over a year. Good riddance. She did manage to make arrangements to meet him within a couple months of his birth though. She's a gem.</p> <p>I think your bitterness it totally warranted, try not to let it get the best of you though. It's her loss, the girls have plenty of other people who love and cherish them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073604 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:42:10 +0000 Corduroy 2073604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are an 8 hour drive and they drove up while I was in labor. That was not the plan - I didn't want them there until LO arrived - but I was in labor for so freaking long.</p> <p>ILs live a 5 hour plane trip away. They came out a month after LO was born to give my family a chance to meet LO and then for us to get settled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073596 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:37:01 +0000 elise626 2073596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my parents and in-laws live about a 10 drive or 3 hour plane ride away. Both sets came the day after my son (2 yrs old) was born and my MIL visits every 2-3 months. My mom on the other hand has only visited twice in 2 years. She has some anxiety issues but it still stings a little that she doesn't visit more. At this point I think she only will see us if we visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073572 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:26:52 +0000 msplatypus 2073572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a 3.5 month old that none of our family has met, either side. My mom passed away while I was pregnant which has made it difficult for my family. My MIL refuses to drive when it's dark, somewhat cold, raining, day of the week ending in y.... basically it might happen over the summer, she is about 6 hours away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073559 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:23:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 2073559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: I agree that a flight home wouldn't be that big of a deal, especially if she can afford to spend half the year living one place, and another part of the year living somewhere else!</p> <p>My in-laws lived in CA when E was born (and we live in ME), and both (divorced) flew out the week she was born. MIL came the day after she was born, and FIL came when she was just a few days old. </p> <p>I think your frustration is entirely warranted :sad: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073556 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:22:03 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2073556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Radish: sorry friend. MIL doesn't even have the work excuse, she's at tennis camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073552 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:20:45 +0000 blackbird 2073552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Thanks, it's one of those "funny but fucked up" things that's par for the course! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073523 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:10:09 +0000 MrsRcCar 2073523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My FIL lived 5 hours away when N came along. He arrived in time to meet N when he was born. FIL also came back the following weekend after we were discharged to help out and bond with N.<br /> When E was born FIL lives/d 3 hours away. (We moved). He came down the weekend after E arrived to help with N and meet E since he was still in the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073519 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:09:55 +0000 Radish 2073519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the same situation. They have decided to not come visit us and wait for us to come to them and I'm really bitter about it. Firstly, i don't want them to be a priority when we do make the trip there because we have a lot of people to see. Secondly, my FIL and BIL don't even work so only MIL would need to take time off which she had plenty of leave to use. Ugh. I'll leave it at that, but mostly know you are not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073503 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:04:30 +0000 MenagerieMama 2073503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Live across the country and they were here when she was about a week old since she came a little early and they had the trip preplanned. Also came back for a month to help when I went back to work...which was too long! First grand baby got them very excited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073495 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 13:01:45 +0000 Smurfette 2073495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They live 4 hours away. We texted them when we got to the hospital around 10 at night. They drove up the next morning and were in the waiting room my parents till we had her. Then they came by the next morning before they went home (Tuesday). Then they invited themselves up on Sat and stayed with us for the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073489 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:57:39 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2073489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: That's just shitty. I'm sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073484 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:56:09 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2073484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ILs did not physically meet LO until she was 4.5 months old when we flew there to see them. They have never been here to visit DH and he has lived in the US for 15 years. We offered to pay for them to come to the wedding and they did not want to. I am more bitter about it than DH is. But, DH does FaceTime at least once a day if he is not traveling, so LO has seen them almost everyday of her life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-inlaws-are-far-away-when-did-they-meet-your-newborn#post-2073476 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:52:53 +0000 raspberries 2073476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO will be born in mid-August, and will meet my in-laws when we go visit them for Christmas. We've lived about a 9-hour drive (1.5 hour flight) away from them for 7 years and they've never visited us. </p>