https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Jul 2026 12:51:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-147040 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:51:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 147040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that's so sad about your cousin. :(</p> <p>I think about this a lot since I'm pretty conservative and a Christian, but in the end I think I would be supportive no matter what. I would just discourage promiscuity and any dangerous or destructive behavior no matter what gender they were attracted to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-147030 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:48:58 +0000 Shimmer 147030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thank you! I'm so proud of him... and today is his one year wedding anniversary with his partner Nick! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146994 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:35:39 +0000 lilteacherbee 146994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Meeshling: I love that! I taught a 3 year old preschool class last year and not all parents are that open with their little boys. Girls can climb trees and play with toy cars, but if little boys want to paint their nails like their big sister then its the end of the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146980 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:31:39 +0000 mrbee 146980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shimmer: I totally agree with you... and I'm glad your brother is in a good place now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146970 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:29:39 +0000 Meeshling 146970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Friends of mine have a boy, and they encourage him to do everything - the other day, when I was there, he got really into my nail polish, so his mom went and painted his nails for him! It's really inspiring how supportive they are of him and not worried about the idea of gender roles, and I hope I can be a parent like that too. As long as they are happy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146959 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:27:13 +0000 Shimmer 146959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be supportive of LO 100%. DH and I have spoken about this, and he agrees. We want our home to be a place of love and comfort to our little ones and their friends. </p> <p>FWIW, my brother is gay, and he said that he knew from a pretty early age (7 or 8) that he was attracted to boys instead of girls. He came out in his early 20s to our family, and while it was tough on our mom, she accepts and loves him 100%. Unfortunately, my brother turned to alcohol in his teens and 20s to cope with his lifestyle and was able to get sober once he came out and found a community that was open and welcoming. I find it so sad that the LGTBQ community goes through in their own minds. Everyone should be able to love whomever they please, so long as it's two consenting adults. </p> <p>/end rant/soapbox moment </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146916 Thu, 03 May 2012 19:15:19 +0000 autumnlove 146916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I feel the exact same way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146184 Thu, 03 May 2012 13:29:26 +0000 BoogieBea 146184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They will always be my children and I will love them 100% regardless of their sexual orientation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146167 Thu, 03 May 2012 13:20:45 +0000 Crisark 146167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one can tell me I can't love my DH so I have no right to tell someone else they can't love who they love regardless of gender.<br /> I will not have a problem in the slightest if my children were to be gay. I want them to be happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-146089 Thu, 03 May 2012 12:46:49 +0000 chopsuey 146089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would love our kids no matter what, but wouldn't condone the lifestyle. It goes against our core beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145978 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:54:57 +0000 mrbee 145978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be proud of my kids if they came out! I support them 100%!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145962 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:40:18 +0000 lilteacherbee 145962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babynumber1: Yep, I'm in NC too. I'm glad I'm not the only one who has to walk away from facebook because of this amendment. It frustrates me so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145938 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:22:12 +0000 babynumber1 145938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: You must also be in NC - I have had to take a vacation from FB, otherwise I would be deleting a lot of "friends". </p> <p>If my child was gay, I wouldn't mind at all. My husband would take a bit longer to come around, but we could never turn our back on our LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145928 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:16:28 +0000 lilteacherbee 145928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachel: oh I know. I can't even look at facebook right now without getting mad because people are posting ridiculous things. Our election is next tuesday and there's an amendment we're voting on that would make it even harder for gay marriage to one day be legal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145918 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:10:51 +0000 Shutterbug 145918@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: That's tough - I can't imagine living in a place where people are so adamant about banning same sex marriage. I'm proud that my state was the first to legalize it. I think a lot of these hold out states will soon realize they're on the wrong side of history. Ok, off my soap box :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145912 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:07:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 145912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I named both my girls in a way that they could make it more masculine if they ever wanted to. We also do lots of non-gender specific activities. Lesbians still have weddings and babies. I'll just be thrilled if they find individuals that they love and can go through life with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145909 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:03:24 +0000 lilteacherbee 145909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be completely supportive because love is love and I know he/she would need a supportive environment. Our state is going through ridiculous measures to keep gay marriage illegal and in the past few weeks I've seen how people react to people of different sexual orientation- it is sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145906 Thu, 03 May 2012 11:00:21 +0000 holdonforonemoreday 145906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would not bother me in the slightest. As long as my kids are happy with who they are and who they are with, I am happy for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145902 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:59:20 +0000 LuLu Mom 145902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be very supportive and tell my husband this all the time, I think he would have a more difficult time accepting this, especially if it was our son. I know he would step up, but we live in a very closed minded area and our child would most likely face judgement which would be heartbreaking for me as a mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145896 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:56:12 +0000 Shutterbug 145896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: Love this sentiment about not only your own LO but also their friends - I completely agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145876 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:44:24 +0000 plaidpants 145876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love is love! If she's happy, I'm happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145871 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:41:21 +0000 Honeybee 145871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My love and support of my children has nothing to do with their sexual orientation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145870 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:41:20 +0000 Lozza 145870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It kills me to hear about kids being made to feel unloved or unsupported by their families because of their sexual orientation. Regardless of LO's orientation, if he has GLBTQ friends who can't find support and unconditional love in their own homes, they're welcome to find it in mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145862 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:37:49 +0000 Shutterbug 145862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would support them 100%. And I'd be proud of them for telling me and not hiding/suppressing it. I agree with @Andrea: about wanting eventually to be a grandma though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145858 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:36:28 +0000 Alivoo01 145858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would catch me off guard for a while, but I would be supportive and loving no matter what. My baby will always be my baby. Can't change that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145855 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:35:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 145855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to admit I would have a very hard time with it. But I would never, ever estrange myself from my child because of it, or anything. I would want them to know that no matter what, I still love them. But to be perfectly honest, I don't think I could support my LO being gay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145845 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:29:57 +0000 SugarplumsMom 145845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sexual orientation doesn't change anything for me. Just as long as my child(ren) are happy, healthy and doing what they can to pursue their happiness in life and goals - that's all that matters to me.</p> <p>But I think 14 is a little too early to officially claim a sexual preference. I used to teach at an all-girl's middle school in Asia and had gotten really close to a highly academic group of my students. Some confided in me saying that they thought they might be lesbian -- but also admitted that they were confused and their lack of male interaction is adding to the confusion. </p> <p>In this little group of 10 girls, 2 or 3 admitted to having girlfriends. Two of them were "serious" but not in a way adults would think is serious -- their gf's were always in another town and they'd only interact online or on the phone. They'd send pictures and gifts to each other but never met. So basically, they shared an emotional bond, not a physical one. </p> <p>I told them to wait and see. I'd tell my own children the same thing. But I wouldn't treat them any differently if they were straight. Meaning no sleep overs and school first before anything else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145841 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:27:01 +0000 Andrea 145841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely be supportive but I would also worry about what adversities she will face because she is gay. I just hope she would still want to have kids somehow - so I can be a grandma.<br /> :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145838 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:23:38 +0000 heffalump 145838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always tell lo I hope she marries a nice boy or girl....as long as they're Jewish ;) kidding of course, I want them to be Jewish but won't freak out if they're not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-lo-was-gay#post-145834 Thu, 03 May 2012 10:20:30 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 145834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to admit I'd have a hard time with it, but I would never want to lose my LO's over it. That always makes me so sad to hear about. I adore my girls and nothing could change that. </p>