https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 16:49:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1591075 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 20:38:29 +0000 Applesandbananas 1591075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some are but one guy is a total dick about it. His wife just had their first child... That was the first and only "just you wait" I've doled out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1589098 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 12:01:15 +0000 sunshineandsushi 1589098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My coworkers and bosses are super understanding. They also recognize that DH has an inflexible sick/time off policy for his company so more of it does fall to my shoulders. </p> <p>When I came back from mat leave last year in April, I didn't have any PTO left for the year since I took it all with mat leave. They totally worked with me for the rest of the year as I juggled the twins when they would get sick and let me make up time as needed so it didn't cut into my paycheck. </p> <p> :heart: them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588750 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:46:08 +0000 Anagram 1588750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband technically has unlimited sick days, but obviously he still has to get his work done on time, so it's still hard for him to take a sick day (he does it when he really needs to for LO, though).</p> <p>People are somewhat understanding at my work. Most have kids so they get it, but we have a set amount of "personal" days and we're only supposed to take "personal" time for LO sickness--we're not allowed to use our own sick days. So even if I have 15 sick days, I'm not supposed to use them for my infant who is in daycare and has no immune system. So....not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588637 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:12:53 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1588637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: good point. I am "over it" because i feel its not a level playing field. My boss gives me the worst time about any sort of time off, but you mention a kid and its a free pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588629 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:11:48 +0000 tinyperson 1588629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: That stinks. It's not like you're wanting your child to be sick — it's not a vacation day — and as if it's not stressful enough! (Although, I did just come back from getting a coffee at Starbucks with S) :) BUT, I will be working this evening to make up some work I'm not doing today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588616 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:08:49 +0000 Corduroy 1588616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My supervisor has a baby a few months younger than mine so he always wants me to stay home and keep my germs to myself. I think some of my childless co-workers are kind of over the sick days thing. Recently a few started taking sick days for their dogs. I'm thrilled about it if it makes everyone feel like there is a level playing field. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588615 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:08:43 +0000 Smurfette 1588615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588603 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:05:40 +0000 looch 1588603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're understanding, but I also have my parents who are kind of our back up care if G is sick.</p> <p>We do not have unlimited sick days, we have 5 instances of 3 days without a doctors note and 8 days family care leave....actually that is the policy for the company I work for. Since I am a contractor, I don't get paid for any time off, sick days or vacation days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588592 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 10:02:02 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1588592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boss doesn't have kids...she's 50 and not married, but she's incredibly understanding when S is sick. I think she absolutely wants a husband and kids, but it just never happened for her. So I think she's sympathetic when the wee one is sick. </p> <p>I also work with a lot of younger people who have kids around LO's age, so we're all completely understanding of each other! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588553 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:53:33 +0000 Adira 1588553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Ugh, so frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588543 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:51:43 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1588543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: seriously. I used to like it here, even though I should be making more, but my hours were flexible and it's so close to home. Since coming back all I think about is getting a new job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588541 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:50:22 +0000 cascademom 1588541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boss and less than lovely coworker understand as we all have families. My LO is the youngest of the bunch with my boss' youngest child just finishing college. My boss is awesome about it. I give him heads up about appointments. If I have to miss, I will work from home or work different hours to accommodate my LO being sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588540 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:50:07 +0000 Adira 1588540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Your boss sucks. My boss just sent out an e-mail today about being sick that said "If you are sick, stay home. And don't apologize about it." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588529 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:47:48 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1588529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: dunno. suck it up. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588511 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:44:54 +0000 matador84 1588511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: not surprised! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588507 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:44:40 +0000 cheert16 1588507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: that stinks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588506 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:44:32 +0000 blackbird 1588506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity, Unlimited, interesting!!!! There was a question posed to a career development board at work regarding unlimited vacation. The vast consensus was that some would abuse it, but the majority wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588497 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:43:20 +0000 Adira 1588497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Ugh, that's horrible! And what are you supposed to do when you have used up your sick days and your child is sick??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588493 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:42:08 +0000 cheert16 1588493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has only been sick where I had to take off the day (it was last week) and I got some flack from my boss. She was super cool about it when I called but after the fact she was all- "you need to make up that time" " no you cant take vacation, you just had a day off" and crap like that. EVEN though I said to use my vacation time for that day off!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588492 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:41:59 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1588492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: It was unlimited, if you were sick you stayed home. In four years I had used two sick days. Within a month of returning to work I took four days - LO had it coming out of both ends there's no way I was going to work!<br /> Now we have six days per year. I've already used 4.5. Fanf*ckingtastic. No idea what she's going to do when she figures out I'm pregnant again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588482 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:40:08 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1588482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a running joke among us childless people at work where we say "i have a kid thing!!" When we want to leave early or take a day off. People at my office definitely take advantage of our unlimited sick days policy and the fact that no one is going to tell you to stay if you say you have to leave early for your kid. There are definitely those that have legitimate excuses but there are definitely some that are full of it ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588480 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:40:00 +0000 californiadreams 1588480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my coworkers understand, but my manager does not at all. It is common practice among my coworkers with kids that they call in sick for themselves and don't dare mention their kid at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588479 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:39:40 +0000 Adira 1588479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: OMG, that's horrible!!! What did she change your policy to?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588475 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:38:30 +0000 Cherrybee 1588475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boss has two young children of his own - and has to take a fair amount of time off himself - so he's very understanding. I still worry though - she is sick a lot!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588473 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:38:11 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1588473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. In fact after we had noro-virus and I had to miss four days of work my boss changed our sick leave policy.<br /> She's older and chose a career over kids and I think resents that I didn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588467 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:36:35 +0000 tinyperson 1588467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, we're home today. Thankfully DH and I can split the time at home. My manager doesn't even have kids, but is still understanding. I get my work done at other times, so it all evens out :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588460 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:34:25 +0000 lawbee11 1588460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily DH has a very flexible schedule so I haven't had to miss any work yet while she's been sick. But I work with a bunch of moms to young children so I'm sure they would understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588456 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:34:14 +0000 autumnlove 1588456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: no, he hates kids and had a vasectomy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588449 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:33:16 +0000 Bookish 1588449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, thank goodness. I'm so grateful that they don't bat an eye when I have to take off when she's sick. DH's work is great about it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-los-get-sick-a-lot-do-your-coworkers-understand#post-1588448 Thu, 24 Apr 2014 09:32:55 +0000 matador84 1588448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your coworker have kids?! My boss is so understanding, and almost all my coworkers have kids, so they get it. </p>