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Hellobee Boards Topic: If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 20:19:23 +0000 ShootingStar on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los/page/2#post-2154285 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 13:33:37 +0000 ShootingStar 2154285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ MIL lives about 40 minutes from us and we see her maybe once every other month. We saw her a few times in Nov/Dec for DS' birthday and holidays and then we saw her in February, and then again this month. I'm not very happy with her so I think I'm going to lessen our interaction even further. I will probably next see her in June and then after that...as few and far between as I can manage. HLK208 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2154189 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 12:28:20 +0000 HLK208 2154189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 30 min away and probably every 2-3 months. We aren't close at all. fancyfunction on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2154183 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 12:25:11 +0000 fancyfunction 2154183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ She's 15 min away and comes Over once a week so I can go out and do errands. She'll also take M to sleepover maybe once a month or so. Mrs. J on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2154121 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 11:37:23 +0000 Mrs. J 2154121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ They live about 10 miles away (as do my parents). We see MIL at least one day a week, and my parents 3x (but they watch LO). blackbird on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2154098 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 11:24:49 +0000 blackbird 2154098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 30 min away and probably 2x/month? Sometimes more when there are family functions namaste on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2154093 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 11:23:22 +0000 namaste 2154093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Once every couple of months and it's still too often lol sorrycharlie on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153930 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:22:26 +0000 sorrycharlie 2153930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ she lives next door! unless we run into her outside or something, she only calls to visit a couple times a month, really. my kids are in bed early and she works most days til 5. YouGotMe on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153928 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 10:21:42 +0000 YouGotMe 2153928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are MIL at least twice a month and she lives 20mins away. I love her and she's great but I need my husband to be around when we are visiting because I always run out of things to say, neither of us are big talkers, and then I feel awkward. lisa1783 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153669 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 08:26:39 +0000 lisa1783 2153669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL lives about 45 minutes away and we only see her about 6-10 times a year, mostly just holidays and birthdays. She is retired but has only babysat for us once but she called my SIL over so she has only watched my son for about an hour by herself. She's said repeatedly she doesn't like babies or children so we are fine with the number of times we see her. pinkb on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153654 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 08:17:50 +0000 pinkb 2153654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL lives 10 minutes away and sees LO maybe once a month but usually once every 2 months. My parents live 3 hours away and see the kids almost every month, we switch off and they come every other month and then we go to them on the ones in between. The in laws make absolutely no effort to see the kids, we have to plan everything for them to see them and we always have to go to them or go where they want to meet up. TheReelDeal on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153636 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 08:10:01 +0000 TheReelDeal 2153636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ILs live less than 5 minutes away and they see LO maybe once a month. The truth of the matter is I often feel smothered by my MIL so I'm not at all interested in visiting. I totally get that having a new baby is exciting but I would like the opportunity to mother before she comes swooping in and trying to take the baby away. Peasinapod on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153497 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 06:47:15 +0000 Peasinapod 2153497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband's parents are divorced so there are two sets of ils to see. At least once month for each parent, including mine. Sometimes twice (mine is usually twice, we see his a bit less frequently since they're a 45min drive, and mine are a 15 min drive. ) Miss Ariel on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153489 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 06:42:32 +0000 Miss Ariel 2153489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ About once a week or so. My ILs are about 20 mins away. However my mil drives by our neighborhood each day driving to and from work. Ree723 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153406 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 02:28:34 +0000 Ree723 2153406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Well, we haven't had this experience yet but the ILs are moving back to England in a few weeks and have a house about 15 minutes up the road from us. It will be the first time we've ever lived in the same country as either one of our sets of parents (since having children) and we are super excited! I have a great relationship with my ILs and I imagine we will see them at least once during the week, if not more, and then on the weekends when DH is not working and can spend time with them. Shortly before we got married, we were living about an hour away from my ILs and would go down there maybe three weekends a month to spend the weekend with them, so I can only imagine it will increase now that there are children involved and that they are a much closer distance. The ILs are retired and I'm a SAHM so we will have loads of flexibility in terms of when we see each other and how often. Bubbles on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153404 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 02:25:56 +0000 Bubbles 2153404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mil and FIL live 5 minutes away, we see them usually every other weekend, sometimes more. They both work full time - but they do all the instigating of seeing each other! I'm sure they'd like it to be more but I like to have regular time with just DH, LO and I. sandy on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153402 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 02:01:45 +0000 sandy 2153402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When DD1 was a baby we rarely saw my inlaws - maybe once every few months. They live about 20 minutes away. When we went through everything with DD2 my inlaws really stepped up and helped us so much and came to babysit DD1 several times a week so I could go to my various appointments. now they are happy to come see DD1 every few weeks and are happy to babysit when I ask. They're retired and travel quite a bit and also help out a ton with their other grandkid FannyMae on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153393 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 01:15:49 +0000 FannyMae 2153393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 5 minute drive down the road, she babysits once a fortnight + any emergency/errand runs, and sometimes sends me an sms to pop past for a coffee which I really appreciate. Rainbow Sprinkles on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153391 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 01:09:45 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2153391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL lives within walking distance and she only sees the girls when I arrange to come over to visit. I usually bring the girls over once a week. She never, ever comes over to visit the girls in our own home. She doesn't even try to arrange plans with us, so if I didn't make the effort to visit, she wouldn't see the kids very often at all. Trufflehunter on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2153388 Thu, 23 Apr 2015 00:42:18 +0000 Trufflehunter 2153388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks everyone. I currently see MIL once a week by myself/with LO and so I see her more often than my husband does, which has been a big adjustment for me especially because my mum is a 3 hr plane ride away and I feel her absence so much. My Only Sunshine on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152345 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:45:32 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2152345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My in-laws live 20 minutes away. They watch my DD 2 days a week, and we probably see them other than that like every other week. Same with my parents, who are also local. coopsmama on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152344 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:45:04 +0000 coopsmama 2152344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ She lives about 15 minutes from us and sees the kids every couple of weeks. We usually go to their house for a family dinner. We're not close at all so that's fine by me. snowjewelz on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152340 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:41:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2152340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ MIL lives 30 min away but she doesn't drive. Right now we drive DD to her twice a week for her to watch in the morning. Once in a long while we may ask her to help on a Sat. Sometime DH works from home so she sees her a lil less. So standard is 2, can go up to 3 or go down to 1 depending. She doesn't drive so she can't just come over whenever. MrsKoala on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152294 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:12:49 +0000 MrsKoala 2152294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Once a week. looch on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152293 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:12:14 +0000 looch 2152293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My inlaws are currently on a different continent than us, but when we lived in the same country, we lived a 50 minute drive or a 1.5 hour train ride away. We would see them twice a month. Usually, since I was staying at home, I'd take the train out there with my son on Thursday and stay there the weekend, my husband would drive out Friday after work and we'd come home on Sunday. anbanan15 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152292 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:12:13 +0000 anbanan15 2152292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents live under 10 min away and the kids and I see them everyday (DH works an off shift). My mom also babysits. My IL's live about 20 min and we see them maybe once a month or every other. Niether of them drive and they smoke so we don't spend much time there when we do go. They would also never be able to watch our kids (FIL is blind and MIL doesn't understand enough English to follow directions like diet restrictions or medical emergencies). hilsy85 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152284 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:09:33 +0000 hilsy85 2152284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ILs live about 30 min away and I see MIL once a week (she watches LO for a few hours), and both MIL and FIL another time during the week usually, and often DH and I will go out while they babysit. illumina on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152282 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:08:47 +0000 illumina 2152282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ MIL lives 10 minutes drive away and we see her once every 2 weeks roughly, maybe a little less. She does shift work, inc. weekends, so it's often tough to schedule something. mrsjyw on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152269 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:04:54 +0000 mrsjyw 2152269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Usually once a week or once every two weeks. They babysit a handful of times a year. Mil just retired so I'm sure they'll be over more during the week when we're at work. Mamasig on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152263 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:03:52 +0000 Mamasig 2152263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My in laws live about an hour away. We drive to see them at least every third weekend when DH is off. He sometimes takes the boys without me on other days too. We always make the effort - his mom is a homebody and unfortunately they pretty much are raising two of their grandchildren so they don't come to see us really. But we don't mind the drive. They have also babysit for us if we are doing something there. Eta: My MIL has been going through cancer treatments pretty much since DS1 was born. So that also limits the visits sometimes. bunnylove08 on "If your MIL is nearby how often does she see LO/s?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-mil-is-nearby-how-often-does-she-see-los#post-2152255 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:59:28 +0000 bunnylove08 2152255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ MIL and FIL live about an hour away from us and we try to see each other at least every other weekend. We use to make the trip to see them every weekend but now that we moved they have started to make the trip to see us.