https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 06:22:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639307 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 17:28:09 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2639307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"She's laughing at me" bless her heart! No advice from a parenting perspective as I only have one, but I am 3.5 years younger than my sister and my mother still talks about what a rough first 2 years we had. Evidently my sister hated every single thing about me, and once climbed into my crib and bit a chunk of flesh out of my arm :meh: </p> <p>She said once we could both talk like human beings (so I guess by the time I was 3 or so?) things got a lot better, we were okay friends as kids and teenagers, and are now closer than ever at 35 and 39. </p> <p>My mom has said she had to do a lot of refereeing but tried, whenever possible, to have us playing with seperate things and minimise opportunities for jealously and fighting. I think she said that when my sister started kindy full time things got a lot better too. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639305 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 17:15:51 +0000 fancyfunction 2639305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - H is 7 months and M (almost 4) is just starting to like and interact with him more. She was never that excited about the baby coming and still gets annoyed when he reaches out and touches her stuff but she also grabs for his hand, gives him a few kisses and talks to him more so than before. I think when the first is older it's more of an adjustment for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639190 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 14:14:09 +0000 Adira 2639190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It definitely got better for us!</p> <p>Xander was 21m when Logan arrived and was definitely not interested at him at all. And once Logan was mobile and getting into Xander's toys, he DEFINITELY wasn't interested in him. But around the time Logan turned 18m (and Xander was 3.5), they started being able to play together. And now I know Xander enjoys Logan's attention and doing things with him. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639150 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 13:36:16 +0000 Anagram 2639150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My girls are opposite. My oldest was SO good with the baby transition--no hitting or being mean, no acting out, really lovable with the baby. But every since LO2 started walking and they basically play with all the same toys, the "fighting" between the two of them has really ramped up. There's lots of toy tug-of-wars, pushing, crying, jealousy, etc.</p> <p>The thing is, it's almost always mitigated by me sitting right with them, playing and sort of refereeing their play. But life happens, and I have to do tasks like cook dinner and clean things, and it's when my attention is elsewhere that the older one pushes and the younger one ends up screaming.</p> <p>It's going to be interesting as they get older. I really need to order that book about raising siblings without rivalry. It's on my read list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639125 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 13:03:35 +0000 AnnabelleG 2639125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours are 22 months apart and it's gotten a lot better! I attribute it to advice I got from HB to 1) never blame things on the baby (e.g., that's too loud for my ears rather than we have to be quiet because the baby is sleeping) 2) talk about how much baby loves his big brother often and 3) build up any positive sibling behavior no matter how small, or even just make it up (you showed the baby how to run, what a great big brother!) My older son was hitting the baby at first, or at best totally ignoring him. We're still working on it, but he's been a lot happier/more gentle in the last couple months.<br /> Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639120 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 12:54:46 +0000 RonjaL7 2639120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was only 14 months when her brother came along. Initially she ignored him, but now she enjoys playing with him and making him laugh (he is almost 6 months now). She still gets jealous though when I am holding him and tends to whine more then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639114 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 12:50:49 +0000 Mamaof2 2639114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: My DS wanted a playmate so a baby that just lays there is no fun at all - once DD was mobile DS was more interested in her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639088 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 12:17:52 +0000 Mama Bird 2639088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww, I'm sorry... we don't have quite the same problem, but my uncle was very unhappy to be an older brother to my mom for a while. He wouldn't even call her by her name, she was "the girl." I think it got better when she was somewhere between one and two, because he'd had time to get used to her and they were able to talk to each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-order-lo-wasnt-keen-on-the-baby-at-first-did-it-eventually-get-better#post-2639030 Wed, 19 Oct 2016 10:24:06 +0000 Cherrybee 2639030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wondering! </p> <p>E wasn't at all excited by the prospect of becoming a big sister and was appalled by the baby when she arrived! There then followed a few months where she mostly ignored the baby..... But now S is trying to get mobile and likes reaching out for her big sister, cue much drama from the E camp - "she touched me", "she's laughing at me", "she touched my toy" etc. It's a shame because S clearly adores E, her face lights up when E comes into the room and every silly thing E does is hilarious. But the cuteness of this fact is lost on E's stone heart 😂 </p>