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Hellobee Boards Topic: If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 08:17:50 +0000 BSB on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-37383 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 19:07:09 +0000 BSB 37383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL, probably. My parents, no! HabesBabe on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-37127 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:58:16 +0000 HabesBabe 37127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ HELL YES. Maybe I'll feel differently once the LO is actually here, but absolutely. I always said that if DH and I decided to go on a 3 year trip to Tibet or something, that my mom would be ready, eager, and willing to take care of LO. daniellemybelle on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-37126 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 14:56:18 +0000 daniellemybelle 37126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My dad's mom seriously wanted my mom to send me to live with her every summer beginning when I was born. Three months out of every year. My mom was like, uhm no, I would miss her. You can have her for, like, a week at a time. My grandmother was very offended and hurt. On the other hand, my MIL keeps one of our nieces for probably six weeks straight in the summer. But this particular niece has a crappy home life, and her parents aren't very invested in her, so I don't think they mind sending her. They also send her every Christmas and Thanksgiving, which I could never imagine doing. winniebee on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-37035 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 13:05:09 +0000 winniebee 37035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents are amazing with their grandkids, but I can't imagine letting my LO go with them or with my MIL for more than a week and then only if we were out of town for business (hehe or maybe a vacation!) My MIL has a wonderful lakehouse and spends her summers up there. She has already said that she would like her grandkids to stay up at the lake for extended periods during the summer. I think that by the time our children our school-aged, that will be a welcome offer! Mrs. Armbender on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36993 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:58:29 +0000 Mrs. Armbender 36993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Miss Adia: I used to spend summers on my Aunt and Uncles farm from may 5or6 til they moved to Alaska at around 14. Those are still some of my best childhood memories. babyz on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36981 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:49:46 +0000 babyz 36981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think you answered perfectly.. when in doubt always ask the wife! lol. Only if the baby is 2+ and we can't take her with us on vacation.. even then no more than 2 weeks. BabyLove on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36945 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:07:32 +0000 BabyLove 36945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think I'd wait until the baby was much older before I'd entertain the idea of family taking her overnight. Maybe a year or so. But even then, it's probably only be for a night or two. Once she's a toddler I'd love for my husband and I to go on an adult vacay. I'd definitely never let a parent take her for a month. I'd miss her terribly. And by parent I mean my mother and no one else. That sounds horrible but I wouldn't trust my MIL. She doesn't exactly make the best life choices, sorry. PS. Not nice of your mother-in-law to test you. Isn't parenthood itself enough of a test? Modern Daisy on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36942 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:06:17 +0000 Modern Daisy 36942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ That is hilarious! I think I'd be fine with handing over my future children for about a week to go on vacation with DH, but no longer than that. My brother has 4 kids and when he goes on vacation with my SIL, they have a team of people scheduled to come over in shifts. BananaPancakes on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36938 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:02:07 +0000 BananaPancakes 36938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If I lived far from my IL's, and my child was school-aged, I don't think a month over the summer would be a big deal. I actually think that it's pretty common. As a younger child, I wouldn't go more than a week, though. Lozza on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36936 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 11:00:12 +0000 Lozza 36936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on the age. DS is only 8 months old, and I'd be totally cool leaving him with my parents or my sister overnight, probably max two nights. By the time he's 2 or so, I could see leaving him with my parents for a week, and they'd be welcome to a month with him by the time he's in grade school. My MIL passed away, and my FIL is kind of absent-minded sometimes. I don't think I'd leave DS with him for that long until he was a lot older a more independent. Adira on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36883 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 10:03:37 +0000 Adira 36883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ For a week, sure! A month... that's kind of pushing it. And I definitely would feel more comfortable if it was with my parents of my FIL & SMIL. My MIL... not so much. She's kind of crazy and we don't really see eye-to-eye on issues, so I don't think I want her having my kids for so long. That being said, my MIL seems to think that she WILL be getting the kids for a month (or something) at some point (and we don't even have kids yet). She's been talking about taking all her grandchildren on a road trip to see a bunch of National Parks (and she's been badgering us to hurry up and have kids because the one grandchild she has is going to be "too old" by the time ours are old enough. Mrs. D on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36854 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 09:37:19 +0000 Mrs. D 36854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ For a week yeah. Growing up my sister and I always spent a week with my dad and grandfather at the farm. Longer than that I think my mom would have worried too much. Miss Adia on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36616 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 20:27:48 +0000 Miss Adia 36616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @TKS-My nephew use to spend the summer with us from the time he was like 7 to about 17. My sister asked if she could have my daughter for a month next summer vacation and I've already penciled her in. lol mrsjyw on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36609 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 20:10:02 +0000 mrsjyw 36609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: gotta love Korean MILs :) and no I wouldn't neither mom or mil. heffalump on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36607 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 20:08:39 +0000 heffalump 36607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom's only allowed to have my lo if I have a doctors appointment and when we eventually have a date night. Eventually they'll have sleepovers, But she'll be older and it will be one night, maybe a weekend. I hate leaving my lo! cyndistar3 on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36554 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 18:18:55 +0000 cyndistar3 36554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh heck no! venice4504 on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36544 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 17:48:56 +0000 venice4504 36544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Um no. Especially my inlaws. I could see him staying for a night or so but I remember staying at my grandparents for multiple nights and not really understanding why and being kinda upset. I think if we went on vacation I would just ask my mom to stay at our house. My inlaws on the other hand...no thanks. Mrs. Armbender on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36504 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 15:58:14 +0000 Mrs. Armbender 36504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Miss Adia: Ditto that! DS goes for a month every summer, no issue for us. anewme on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36500 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 15:41:05 +0000 anewme 36500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I Think when she is older I would Be more willing to let them Have her for a longer period of time. My mom has suggested we can leave DD with her so DH and I could take a month long Vacation. At 9 months I'm not ready to leave her for that long. I remember from my childhood some of the best fun was when we stayed with my grandparents! So I definitely want LO to experience that! Miss Adia on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36420 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:51:28 +0000 Miss Adia 36420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hecks yeah! Take her! Of course, I have an older child so maybe that's why I'm all about it. chopsuey on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36328 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 11:40:01 +0000 chopsuey 36328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! They'd spoil her too much. :) I wouldn't mind living with my parents for a month though! (with LO and DH too of course) Andrea on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36213 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 06:24:20 +0000 Andrea 36213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh no! You failed the test? My mom has offered the same sort of thing. There is no way I would take her up on the offer, but I really wish that she would come visit more often. twodoghouse on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36204 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 02:56:49 +0000 twodoghouse 36204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Haha, that's hilarious about your MIL Mr. Bee! I don't have children, but I can't imagine going a month without my child! Not to be the obnoxious one who equates pets to children, but I can barely go a weekend without my dogs. My in-laws did offer to take our dogs if that would speed up the process of us having kids but we politely turned it down. :) BoogieBea on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36196 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 02:07:18 +0000 BoogieBea 36196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Both sets of parents have already asked to have our son stay with them. Maybe when they're older I'd be okay with it but not when we're still trying to establish proper behavior with the kids. I just know that they'll spoil them silly. My mom stayed with us for 2 months when my daughter was born to help with our son. He became such a monster with tantrums in just those two months. My mom gave into anything he whined about. Rosie Girl on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36185 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:50:03 +0000 Rosie Girl 36185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not for a month! A week maybe, but only if we were going somewhere and couldn't/didn't want to take the kids. Boogs on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36171 Sun, 18 Dec 2011 01:05:01 +0000 Boogs 36171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never. I've posted before about how bad my parents are. I won't even let them be alone with him for an hour. Rubies on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36114 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:51:50 +0000 Rubies 36114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wouldn't send my LO away without me and only to my parents' house. I wouldn't go live with my in-laws. However, my hubby and his brother (fraternal twins) were separated when they were born - each set of grandparents took one baby for, I think, the first 3 months. SAHM0811 on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36110 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:41:25 +0000 SAHM0811 36110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ditto @tina's answer! I have thought about going to CA with the kids during the winter to be with my mom, but DH's work is here in NYC and we'd miss him way too much!! runsyellowlites on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36105 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:24:53 +0000 runsyellowlites 36105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DS has gone to my moms for a week.... two would probably be pushing it for my comfort level. Although there was a job offer that DH was looking into that would have had us needing to move right after the wedding (April) and DS would've still been in school (till May). We did start weighing out DS staying here with my mom to finish school, but it wasn't something that I liked & DH didn't go with that position so we didn't have to think about it too much. mrs. wagon on "If your parents offered to take your kids for a month, would you let them?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-parents-offered-to-take-your-kids-for-a-month-would-you-let-them#post-36103 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 23:22:29 +0000 mrs. wagon 36103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ haha! your MIL is funny! I don't think I'd agree to let them take the baby, but I'd love to have them stay with us for as long as they're willing :)