Hellobee Boards Topic: If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?

Hellobee Boards Topic: If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 03:40:47 +0000 Rubies on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-8005 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:48:38 +0000 Rubies 8005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would want my hubs to do things BEFORE I ask him to. Or before I become frustrated. The thing is, the hubs is absolutely blind to messes and disorder. I literally have to point things out to him for him to see the mess. It's crazy! LazyLightning on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7985 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:34:28 +0000 LazyLightning 7985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Putting away laundry--for sure! He does a load now and then, but putting it away is a whole 'nother story. Neither of us are very diligent about that--sounds like it's a pretty common problem here. Also would love if he took the garbage out; I usually do that task and I don't like it very much! Boogs on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7894 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 18:56:58 +0000 Boogs 7894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Household cleaning. Even though I'm a SAHM, there aren't enough cleaning hours in the day unless I neglected my kid. So,, I neglect the house instead because I think it's more important to spend time with him. chopsuey on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7876 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 18:30:20 +0000 chopsuey 7876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would love if he knew how to cook. I've never met a korean man who cooks well though. -.- Andrea on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7872 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 18:28:56 +0000 Andrea 7872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would want more than anything for him to plan activities! I have to plan every single weekend, dinner out, vacation, everything. We would never do anything if I didn't plan it and I find it really tiresome that he never puts effort into this. We have been together 14 years so I know he is not going to change at this point. Sigh! tessabella76 on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7863 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 17:44:29 +0000 tessabella76 7863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm pretty ok with how we handle things. I do most of the cooking and cleaning since I work less hours than he does. However, if he sees something that needs done or if I ask him to do something, he'll do without complaint. He's does most of the yard work and pays the bills. My only issue is clutter-if there's a flat surface (table, counter, kitchen island) he'll have it covered in no time. I like having everything in its place and a place for everything. Especially since our house is tiny. jennylynn on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7803 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 12:53:00 +0000 jennylynn 7803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just do stuff without being asked. He's wonderful about doing things if I ask him to, but I hate it that I have to ask. It makes me feel like a nag. tequiero21 on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7790 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 12:22:49 +0000 tequiero21 7790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ if he could take over a chore, i think it would be ironing. and cooking. DillonLion on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7772 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 11:36:16 +0000 DillonLion 7772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have an agreement that he pays most of the household bills, and in exchange I take care of all of the inside household chores (he does the lawn/house structure stuff). My wish is that I made more money so I could pay half the mortgage, and not have to clean the inside of my house all alone. He hasn't put away laundry or vaccumed or scrubbed a baseboard in YEARS. YEARS! I'm jealous. looch on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7769 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 11:33:44 +0000 looch 7769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am a SAHM, so I feel I have all of the cooking, cleaning and laundry under control. I prefer not to have help with it because inevitably, something isn't done correctly and I have to do it over again. My DH pays the bills, handles the recycling and the car maintenance. I'd appreciate a bit of help with the general pick up though. If you see laundry all folded, just bring it to the bedroom or wherever it is supposed to go. I even fold it and arrange it according to where it belongs, so it's not a huge deal to tell where it goes. Red on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7764 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 11:18:49 +0000 Red 7764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do all the cleaning and most of the cooking but my hubby actually does a lot around the house (yardwork, finances, general handyman stuff) including taking care of the baby when he's home so I can't really complain. However, he's also a neat freak so if anything, I wish he would be less concerned about having everything perfect in the house. BTW, what is it with laundry? I can't stand putting it away either. Adira on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7758 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 11:06:40 +0000 Adira 7758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd love for DH to contribute more with the cleaning. I don't think he's EVER vacuumed since we moved into our house, and he wouldn't know how to dust - those chores suck. He is good about doing laundry (but he never thinks to wash towels or linens - hello!) and he's good with the dishes, but that's about it, and I think he only does those because they directly affect him. Apparently he doesn't care if we sleep on the same sheets for months straight, but I certainly do! Mrs. Bee on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7741 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 10:44:53 +0000 Mrs. Bee 7741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @maisymay - i don't mind doing and folding laundry, but i never put it away either! we have at least 10 loads sitting on a table waiting to be put away.... MaisyMay on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7740 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 10:42:17 +0000 MaisyMay 7740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hubs is good about doing house stuff, but if he were to do more I'd probably ask him to put away laundry. Neither of us are good at putting away clothes and there's usually a mountain of clean clothing next to the bed. We've got to work on that! mediagirl on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7726 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 10:17:30 +0000 mediagirl 7726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Dh does a lot of work around the house. He does the big things that I'm sometimes too lazy to do like taking care of the dogs and making sure our yard looks great. Since we have been married and I have let him know the things that bug me that he doesn't do, he tries really hard to help me out more. Example: He leaves all of his clothes all over his bathroom. When I do laundry, I have to go hunting for clothes in our closet, bedroom and his bathroom. I now tell him when I'm doing laundry and he gets his clothes for me. It's a little thing but it means a lot. I wouldn't really ask for much more at this point. We both just try to pick up after ourselves and if we are annoyed b/c one person isn't doing something they should be, we talk it out. Mrs. Bee on "If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-could-contribute-more-to-the-household-what-would-you-want-him-to-do#post-7721 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 10:10:49 +0000 Mrs. Bee 7721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mr. Bee does most of the childcare when it comes to Charlie while I do all the cooking/cleaning/household stuff like paying the bills and buying groceries. If your SO could contribute more to the household, what would you want him to do? More childcare? More cleaning? More cooking? Instead of Mr. Bee helping out more with chores, in my dream world I'd have a twice a week maid because our apartment gets so messy every day! So I guess more help with cleaning would be the biggest help day to day.