https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 00:41:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715706 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:36:05 +0000 GrapeCrush 715706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>probably a few years. i can't see it being never, but not immediately either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715703 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:34:22 +0000 MrsSCB 715703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even know if I could, but it would be at least a few years. I'd really want to at least try, though, because I would hate the idea of being alone forever and I don't think my DH would want me to be alone. My grandfather died before I was born so probably about 30 years ago, and my grandmother never dated anyone else. She always says, "I had the best." It's very devoted and sweet to some extent, but it also breaks my heart because I know she's been lonely and from what I know about my grandfather, I don't think he would have wanted it to be like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715695 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:31:03 +0000 oliviaoblivia 715695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow you guys are all so devoted. I'd start dating 1.5-2 years later if DH died. I'd solve the baby sitting problem by moving closer to my parents. I think I'd need their care for myself for a while. I adore DH and cannot imagine this happening, but I don't want to raise DD without a father figure and I don't want to be alone for the next 50 years.</p> <p>One of my mom's friends passed from cancer a few years ago and her husband had not only dated, but remarried nine months later. That always freaked me out. I would be pissed if DH married someone else within the year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715690 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:29:26 +0000 Koolbreeze 715690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A million years. I can't imagine being with anyone else. I have told my SO before though if I died it was ok to move on and be with someone else, I worry he'd never let himself be happy again if something happened to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715684 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:23:50 +0000 Dandelion 715684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd stay by myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715678 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:20:53 +0000 blackbird 715678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The grieving process lasts 18 months they say. It's amazing how the heart can heal with time. Depending on the age of our children, probably a couple years for me. I wouldn't force it, but I wouldn't assume that no man could ever measure up because he doesn't have to. Nobody would replace DH. But I wouldn't want to be companionless and I wouldn't want him to be, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715665 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:13:26 +0000 SugarplumsMom 715665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I were to die, I'd worry about him meeting the wrong type of girl. He can be very naive and I would come back from the grave if he were to be taken advantage of!</p> <p>Hypothetically, I would want to share the responsibility of raising DD, but she's getting older now and I think I'd be happier alone. I don't think I would ever find anyone to replace him. I just got my period and I'm soo emo right now, OMG! Wahhh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715659 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:08:04 +0000 looch 715659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have talked about this, not because we're weird or anything, but because I don't want him to become a hermit...my husband has the tendency to withdraw into himself and I worry what that would do to our son.</p> <p>I'd be totally fine with him dating a year after I passed, and he'd be fine with that as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715570 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 02:36:39 +0000 googly-eyes 715570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea. I don't even think about that stuff, and DH works in a job where it's not expected or anything, but definitely possible. I think now that I have LO all decisions including dating ones would be about her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715547 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 00:35:38 +0000 lovehoneybee 715547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea. I really can't imagine anyone even close to as well-suited to me as D is, and with a child I think I'd be really really picky. It'd likely be years, if ever, before I'd even consider dating again. And the chance if getting serious with someone seems very slim...it would have to be someone who was in the same ballpark as D, suitability-wise, AND someone who loves E like his own child. I couldn't even date someone who couldn't love both of us. Not to say it couldn't happen, but doesn't seem likely. </p> <p>Anyway, I would be devastated if something happened to DH, and I think it would be a long, long time before I even thought about trying to move on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715535 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 00:20:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 715535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm too old to start over, so je'd better not die! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715530 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 00:15:43 +0000 HLK208 715530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715517 Mon, 15 Apr 2013 00:02:41 +0000 Running Elley 715517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A very very long time. I can't imagine finding someone else but I know things happen and I'd probably adjust eventually. I just... Can't even imagine it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715488 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 23:21:28 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 715488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, besides that I love him very much and I can't imagine loving anyone else:<br /> We have kids now! So, I can't see myself dating for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715476 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 23:13:39 +0000 banana 715476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Many many years. I just couldn't do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715413 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 22:49:31 +0000 Grace 715413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yuck. I think it would be years... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715405 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 22:47:33 +0000 tequiero21 715405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, at this point, I don't think I'd want to meet anyone else.... Helps to have 2 kids to devote my life to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715404 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 22:45:54 +0000 brownie 715404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know exactly how long but probably not years, I year. I couldn't imagine being alone. Granted, I have thought a lot about this because my husband has a terminal disease. He has Cystic Fibrosis and there is a great chance he will live till he is old. But he will die from Cystic Fibrosis. He could also very easily get a bad sickness and it will speed that up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715287 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:44:21 +0000 Ree723 715287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A bit of a grim topic and not one I like to think about. I can't answer as I don't see myself with anyone other than my husband, but for perspective, one of my best friends is in the very early stages of a relationship with a man who lost his wife four years ago. She was struck by a car and killed whilst taking her infant and toddler out for a walk, it was terrible. One of our best friends was good friends with her and has kept in touch with her widow, hence how he and our other friend have met up and are now talking... </p> <p>For some reason, I feel like men are better able to move on, especially when they have young children. Not sure if that's just been my experience or if there's some actual basis to that.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715276 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:40:40 +0000 Beebug 715276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never, I'd never want anyone to (attempt to) fill that void. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715274 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:40:26 +0000 Weagle 715274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I don't even want to think about this. However, I think it would be quite a while. I wouldn't make an arbitrary number of years as a rule, but I just think it would take a long time to find someone that would be as good enough to make it worth it. DH is a rare find :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715266 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:37:48 +0000 prettylizy 715266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>forever..... I'm terrible at dating and I'd be a total mess if he died </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715265 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:36:57 +0000 Bao 715265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Many many MANY years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715251 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:30:33 +0000 Smurfette 715251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't answer that cause I can't imagine that happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-your-so-died-how-long-would-it-be-before-you-started-dating#post-715242 Sun, 14 Apr 2013 21:27:27 +0000 mrbee 715242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would date for years!! For starters, I'd have no one to watch the kids when I went out on dates haha!</p> <p>If your SO died, how long would it be before you started dating? </p>