https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 12:41:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919763 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:42:43 +0000 Lozza 919763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, yeah DH does all the LO care if he has the day off. If he's off, he is in charge of getting up with LO, feeding/changing/dressing, and doing daycare drop off and pickup. I'll hang out and help out here or there but it's ultimately on DH if he doesn't have to go to work that day and I do. (And the reverse is true if I have the day off and he doesn't). THere's no question or resentment about it- it makes perfect sense to both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919700 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:30:31 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 919700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. On DH's days off he is her sole caretaker. I work when he is off, so he lets me sleep in, then I get ready for work while is making breakfast for me and watching LO. He watches her the whole time I'm at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919656 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:19:37 +0000 blackbird 919656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919636 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:14:46 +0000 Mrs. Fox 919636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: Exactly this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919633 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 13:13:39 +0000 bunnylove08 919633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: yea it totally didnt fly with me. I put her in his arms and walked away. Usually DH gets up at 530 for work and leaves at 630. I usually get up at 630 and shower and try to get myself ready when I'm home alone with her. </p> <p>sigh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919575 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:59:00 +0000 cmomma17 919575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: oh heck no! (to your DH's comment). Anyone getting ready for work is supposed to be baby-free in our house. Some days we both work at 8/9 am so we tag team.<br /> However, this doesn't ALWAYS work out perfectly (see my DH... thread) but the idea is that we help each other out with baby duties. The comment he made wouldn't fly with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919572 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:58:27 +0000 Crisark 919572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, if she's up when I am needing to get ready for work and he's off or working later than me then he most certainly handles her while I get ready to go.<br /> We also alternate who gets up with her in the middle of the night in case that happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919565 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:57:06 +0000 DillonLion 919565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have similar arguments :) He usually just throws on some sweats and takes her to daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919562 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:56:39 +0000 autumnlove 919562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, he is handles our toddler when he has the day off. I'm still on maternity leave but I know he will do bottle feedings and everything else for the baby when I go back to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919560 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:56:31 +0000 Amelieisme 919560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I would expect him to take LO in the morning if I was getting ready for work and he was off. Yes, you do it out of necessity when he's not there to help out, but it would be nice if he helped when he's off. Drives me crazy how a lot of men seem to think caring for the baby is the woman's responsibility and they are doing you a favor if they do anything. My DH isn't like this, but it seems to be a general trend in our society. TWO people had a child here, buddy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919556 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:55:27 +0000 T.H.O.U. 919556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I usually expect him to step up and help to get me out the door. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919555 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:55:18 +0000 heffalump 919555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and DH works. On weekends I usually wake up before both of them.... but if I don't DH will let me sleep a little while he gets LO ready for the day. Even though I always wake him up when she gets up if I'm already up.... it's nice having his help when usually I have to do it by myself every day. I consider weekends my semi break, and while I'm still obviously a mommy and taking care of LO, at least I'm not in it alone. DH knows it's hard for me every day so he doesn't seem to mind helping.</p> <p>I know it doesn't exactly answer your question.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919540 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:53:05 +0000 MamaMoose 919540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually take time off together so this doesn't happen often. but recently he had a work from home day and I had to go into the office. He mostly handled her in the morning, but I can't totally pass off duties since I'm still breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youre-so-is-off-and-youre-not#post-919532 Wed, 10 Jul 2013 12:51:36 +0000 bunnylove08 919532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>does your SO take care of your LO in the morning? </p> <p>Just wondering because DH and I got into a little argument, </p> <p>He's off today and I'm not. I asked him to watch LO and feed her while I got ready for work, since its much easier to not have a crying 9 month old clinging to you while you're trying to get dressed. He got mad and asked, "What do you do when you're alone with her" and of course that sparked the argument. </p> <p>Just wondering if you had to go to work and your SO was off, do they help you take care of LO if it was apart of your routine? </p>