Hellobee Boards Topic: If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?

Hellobee Boards Topic: If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 02:32:39 +0000 JessKas on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1517781 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 14:13:24 +0000 JessKas 1517781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think if she was having a shower or something I would get a new gift, but in this instance you don't need to. Amelieisme on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1517400 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 12:28:21 +0000 Amelieisme 1517400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would do as others have said. No gift and bring a meal. I'm about to have my second child and would appreciate that more than a gift, personally. If it were her first or there were a shower, I would still give a gift, but in your case, no. Mommy Finger on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1517021 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:52:04 +0000 Mommy Finger 1517021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would still give a gift but nothing too big. Just something for the new baby as well as some food for the family. Cherrybee on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1516188 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 03:47:01 +0000 Cherrybee 1516188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would but it's the norm here (UK) to take a gift - as in, fully giftwrapped - when you go to see a new baby. We don't have showers/sprinkles usually - although it's becoming more common. I would feel weird going to see the baby empty handed, even if I had given loads of hand me downs. In fact, even if the mum-to-be had held a shower and I had given a gift then, I would still take a gift when I went to see the new baby!!! lamariniere on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1516179 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 03:07:40 +0000 lamariniere 1516179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @CupQuakeWalk: agree! One of my coworkers had a boy (1st child) when DS was 5 months. I gave her two big bags of clothes and bought a gift from her registry too. littlek on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515944 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 20:39:55 +0000 littlek 1515944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @CupQuakeWalk: this! .twist. on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515932 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 20:29:55 +0000 .twist. 1515932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @CupQuakeWalk: ditto! mrs.shinerbock on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515887 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 20:05:13 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1515887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @CupQuakeWalk: @Mrs. Blue: I agree with these two. I'd probably bring by a meal or offer to take the older kids for a play date though. Mrsjets on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515884 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 20:02:01 +0000 Mrsjets 1515884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would drop off food the first week she is home - I like to bring croissants, cheese, deli meat, berries/cut up fruit and veggies and something I've baked like a square or cookies along with a freezer meal (I usually bring lasagna). I feel like I've coverd lunch and dinner with this combo and it always goes over well Mrs. Blue on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515883 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 20:01:25 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1515883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with @CupQuakeWalk: CupQuakeWalk on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515869 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:48:19 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1515869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In your situation, no. If it were a) a very close friend b) first child c) you had only given her some outfits then, of course i'd still give a gift. Veggiemama on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515822 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:25:57 +0000 Veggiemama 1515822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with @Foodnerd81, I would probably just bring a meal or even snacks or homemade goodies the next time you have a playdate. chopsuey on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515816 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:20:17 +0000 chopsuey 1515816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ make her a pot of miyukgook and take over some diapers! :) luckypenny on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515814 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:17:56 +0000 luckypenny 1515814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In your case, I wouldn't. For a friend with her first? Yes. Mrs.Panda on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515802 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:11:13 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1515802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Andrea: @Foodnerd81: Yes a hot meal and your hand me downs is more than enough! Andrea on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515786 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 19:00:13 +0000 Andrea 1515786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Foodnerd81: I was thinking of just making her a hot meal, ya! Foodnerd81 on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515779 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:50:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 1515779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If it was a first and you had given hand me downs, I'd get her something, though smaller than I would have otherwise. For the 3rd and you aren't super close, I wouldn't. You could bring a meal after baby is born, if you wanted to bring something. mrsbookworm on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515776 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:48:58 +0000 mrsbookworm 1515776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Considering it's the 3rd child and you've already given a bunch of hand-me-downs, I don't think another gift is necessary. wonderstruck on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515763 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:40:56 +0000 wonderstruck 1515763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was going to vote yes until I saw it was the 3rd kid. In that case I don't think I would, particularly since you're not close. swedishfish on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515760 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:40:28 +0000 swedishfish 1515760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think it's necessary! Mrs. Oatmeal on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515756 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:37:43 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1515756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I probably wouldn't in your specific case. If it were a really close friend, and I knew that there was something she wanted, or if there was a shower/sprinkle, I probably would. Andrea on "If you've already given hand-me-downs, do you still give a gift?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/if-youve-already-given-hand-me-downs-do-you-still-give-a-gift#post-1515744 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 18:31:52 +0000 Andrea 1515744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I gave a friend a bunch of baby things ... should I still give her a gift (new)? This is her 3rd child and she's not having a sprinkle or anything. We're not super close and just see each other here and there for play dates.