https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 16:18:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-759167 Fri, 03 May 2013 08:41:36 +0000 Suzimo 759167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has been a struggle for me as well. I felt like our first year of trying we put so much on hold. When we hit the year mark I told DH we needed to start living our lives again and making plans and not worrying if we are pregnant or not. So we booked a trip to Europe this summer. We figure we won't be able to afford a trip like this once we have a family and this is one way to celebrate that it is just us. I am however questioning this decision since I just found out my insurance doesn't cover as much as I thought it would for fertility treatments. I'm just trying to have faith it will all work out. I think putting things on hold was making me feel crazy and like my life wasn't moving forward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-757657 Thu, 02 May 2013 16:50:15 +0000 spaniellove 757657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the months go on and we're still doing treatments, it seems to get harder. The first month it was Christmas and New Years and we just kind of hid from the world. Now I'm trying to decide if I should register for a conference I've been wanting to go to...it was a little easier before, but now that my cycles will be thrown off by the m/c I can't anticipate at all where I might be in my cycle. All I know is that as I get closer to the date, if it turns out not to fall during the time I'd need to be at the clinic and I didn't register, I might regret it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-756794 Thu, 02 May 2013 13:04:49 +0000 justdarling 756794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a really hard time with this. I am a total planner and it was really hard for me to not be in terms of my social life/free time. What has helped me is to prioritize. If it is something that I know I would regret missing, then I make that a priority, and if I cancel a cycle because of it, so what. For example, my cousin is getting married in Italy in June. I knew that I didn't want to miss that. So we planned it, and bought trip insurance just in case I got pregnant and couldn't travel. Now we are still TTC and are starting IVF. We pushed off IVF until July since we want to go on this trip.</p> <p>For social stuff, I just make last minute decisions. My good friends know what we are going through and are really understanding if we have to cancel something last minute. For weekend get-aways, we plan these totally last minute. In January we had an IUI cycle that was cancelled on day 15 due to a cyst - that was a Thursday. We decided last minute to go away that weekend and actually found a pretty good deal.</p> <p>The one thing that I keep telling myself, is that you can't put life totally on hold just to have a baby. This whole TTC thing has taken way longer than I thought it would and if I didn't do things just because of it, then I would have missed out on a lot of great life experiences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-756782 Thu, 02 May 2013 13:01:42 +0000 Mrs.Someone 756782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My situation isn't quite the same, but we did spend a year or so putting off an international trip to visit family because of the idea that I could (should) be pregnant. We finally decided to just book it and figure out later if we need to make any changes. Its been very frustrating putting life on hold and hoping! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-756663 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:32:57 +0000 Shutterbug 756663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree! We just started with an RE last month, and I already feel myself being noncommittal about everything. We planned a vacation months ago that we are going on before I start any treatment, but I keep avoiding making any summer weekend plans because I know I might have to go to the RE on short notice. I guess I don't have any good advice, since I'm doing the same thing. But it's hard - I can only imagine it's 100x harder with IVF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-756662 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:32:49 +0000 mrsmate 756662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, I know how you feel. During my OI class the nurse said to expect very little flexibility in scheduling, like if your brother's wedding is coming up it's best to sit out the cycle rather than running around like a chicken. I had to sit out a family reunion during my first IUI. It was a bummer not just for me but DH and DD.</p> <p>I did only two IUIs, which I know is not as demanding as IVF, but I found doing IF treatments gave my calendar some predictability. I took injectables, and they regulated my periods like clockwork. I tried to fill up my social calendar during TWWs, and did more things at the last minute during the other two weeks, so it never seemed like I went MIA. I imagine this must be harder with things like conferences where you have to travel. Good luck! I'm sure it'll be worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifers-how-do-you-make-plans-with-uncertain-schedules#post-756609 Thu, 02 May 2013 12:21:26 +0000 raintreebee 756609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies, So one thing I am struggling with lately is the constant inability to make plans. I am an academic and attend conferences and speaking engagements throughout the country, and lately I have just been turning things down because I never know if they will interfere with my treatments. I also don't want to schedule my treatments around one stupid work trip, forgoing a whole month. During my IVF cycle, I also am sometimes gone at work, for instance I might have to cancel a class or miss a meeting. i just learned that one of my colleagues spoke poorly about my absence during a meeting last week. It is just so frustrating because I was in the OR at the time--something I wasn't going to tell my colleagues! </p> <p>And then there is the social side. My friends ask if they can come visit during x weekend or to visit them, I never know what to say. Umm, maybe? I will know 36 hours ahead of time whether I will have to get my eggs retrieved that day but I am not comfortable sharing that kind of information (even to those friends who do know we are struggling). Out of town weddings months from now--I don't know whether I should accept or just decline because again I am not willing to rearrange my infertility treatment schedule around a friend's wedding (esp if we are not super close). It's all so frustrating. I feel like everyone thinks I am crazy lately because I am not committing to anything and will just disappear for awhile. Sorry for the long post!!! </p>