https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 09:26:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-796653 Mon, 20 May 2013 20:20:45 +0000 MsLipGloss 796653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BabyGloss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-796625 Mon, 20 May 2013 20:08:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 796625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would treat it like any other valuable and give it to a child and give the other children something else of equal monetary value?<br /> I have a lot of gold and I have other diamonds, so I would split them up I guess. And then there is their dad's wedding band.<br /> I want 4 kids so many if only one if a girl, she'll just get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-796619 Mon, 20 May 2013 20:05:05 +0000 Andrea 796619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oooh good question! I have no idea since I have 2 girls. Now I'm going to be thinking about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795875 Mon, 20 May 2013 14:14:28 +0000 heffalump 795875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ering was DH's great grandma's. It was passed down to his grandma, and then to his mom, who was wearing it right before she gave it to DH to give to me. </p> <p>The only other diamond that I will eventually get is my mom's. She has a family diamond that my sister has dibs on, so I get the ring my dad got her for their 17th anniversary when he could finally afford to get her a nice ring. </p> <p>My mom says that she's not giving up her rings until she dies.... but I hope that if one of her grandchildren wants it she will change her mind. My hopes is that LO will pick which ring she wants for when she gets engaged, and LO #2 will get the other ring. </p> <p>I'm fine with giving my ring away when I'm still alive. My MIL did it for me so I feel like it's only supposed to be mine until my LO needs it. And I'd love to see it get passed on, and see it on LO's finger when she gets married :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795503 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:27:58 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 795503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on a lot of things. For example, my aunt died last year and her older son is already married with children, so he didn't "need" her ring, but her other son is seriously dating someone and getting ready to propose, so he got her diamond and got a new setting for it. I'm sure the other son got some other valuables so it was fair. </p> <p>I also love the idea of my ring going to a grandchild, but I think the fairness thing is hard - my grandmother had 11 grandchildren when she died (and 6 children), so I don't know how she would have made that decision. Her ring went to her one unmarried daughter at the time, who got a new setting for it when she got married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795486 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:21:58 +0000 CottonCandy 795486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rachiecakes: My mom always told me that too about the funeral home/undertakers! weird but it always stayed with me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795477 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:19:11 +0000 rachiecakes 795477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: My grandmother used to tell me how my great-grandmother told her to take her jewelry because she didn't want the funeral home to steal it. I think of this every time someone mentions being buried with their jewelry, lol.</p> <p>If I only have DS, I'd give it to him or if he had a daughter then, I'd give it to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795475 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:17:35 +0000 littlebittyhouse 795475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think about this too. I have my Grandmothers engagement ring. She passed away when I was 12 and my Grandfather gave it to me when I turned 18. My mom held on to it unitl I got engaged to DH. I was my Grandmothers first grandchild and we were very very close. Hopefully I will live a long happy life and my ring will go to a Grandchild. I wouldn't want to give up my rings while I was still living and I think I'd like to be buried with my wedding band. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795407 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:01:06 +0000 2PeasinaPod 795407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd give my engagement ring to my son since that's all we have right now! If I have a daughter, I would imagine I'd give it to her at some point. </p> <p>I like the thought of me being buried with my wedding ring, but it has diamonds in it...and to be honest, what good is it doing me while I'm dead?? Let someone else enjoy it. I might think differently if it were just a plain band. But my engagement ring will definitely be going to someone!</p> <p>I have my grandmother's engagement ring that I wear on my right hand on my middle finger. It's too big and I have super tiny fingers and don't want to get it sized. I'd like to pass that down along the way as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795399 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:54:59 +0000 ShootingStar 795399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I have a daughter, it will either go to her, or if I have a grand daughter maybe her instead. My engagement ring was actually my grandmother's. When she found out we were looking at rings she offered it to me. And years ago when my mom was first married she wore *her* grandmother's ring. So it might be a nice tradition to hold up. </p> <p>Right now I'm pregnant with a boy, so unless I have all boys I doubt he'll get it. I kinda feel like boys would appreciate the sentiment as much, and neither would his future wife. But while my ring may not be the biggest or flashiest, I'm very close to my grandma and I love having the ring she wore for 50 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795395 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:54:12 +0000 Anagram 795395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd want my DH to have it and let him do with it what he sees fit. But maybe I should write out a "suggestion" that i'd want it melted down and the diamon re-set in something our daughter could wear when she's older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795382 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:47:23 +0000 MamaMoose 795382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think about this too!!! I also have only one daughter as of right now. If she is my only daughter she will get the ring. I want it to be worn by a woman who is related to me, so I would not give it to a son or grandson to give to his wife. If I have another daughter I would have to see if one of them had more interest in it than the other one to pass it on when I die. OR... I may give it to the fiance of a granddaughter to propose to her with while I'm still alive.</p> <p>I have my grandmother's engagement ring. It was passed on to my aunt and she never married or had children so when I turned 21 she gave it to me. ETA: I don't wear it as my engagement ring, I have my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795379 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:46:42 +0000 MrsTiz 795379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>probably no one, i imagine i will want to be burried in my wedding rings. i will leave other things to my children but my rings are not a pretty necklace i have, they are a symbol of my marriage and that is something that is only truly special to dh and i.</p> <p>sorry my phone isnt letting me do uppercase! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795361 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:41:57 +0000 Foodnerd81 795361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have actually never understood giving it to your child to use as an e-ring-- I plan to still be wearing my rings when my kids get married so I don't know how that works. </p> <p>I really don't have enough nice jewelry to worry about it at this point. The few nice things I have they could just split up themselves I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795356 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:40:42 +0000 banana 795356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely my daughter, since I only have one girl.</p> <p>@rubies: Can't wait to hear if you're having a boy/girl!! So exciting!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795348 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:38:28 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 795348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will give my rings to mthe child who shows the most interest in them. Hopefully DH will give me something else with sentimental value I can pass down to the other(s). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795342 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:36:55 +0000 Smurfette 795342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on how many kids we have. Right now, just R, so she would get them all. But if we have two, which we want, then one would get the engagement ring and one would get my two wedding bands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795327 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:32:26 +0000 looch 795327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son will inherit all of our stuff (not that there is a ton of it).</p> <p>I understand though, where you are coming from, if you have more than one child. When they are old enough, have you considered letting them each choose one thing until there are no more things left? It's hard to measure what's important to one person, YKWIM? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795309 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:28:34 +0000 yin 795309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good question. DH's grandmother had a diamond bracelet that she split among her granddaughters so that each one had two diamonds. I thought that was a smart idea. My mom had a few gold coins that she split among my sisters and cousins. The coins were given in order of who married first. That left no coins for my oldest who married a year after me. I didn't get one either, but my parents bought them years ago with the intention of passing them onto my three sisters before I was born.</p> <p>I have accumulated quite a bit of gold jewelry from my wedding plus my wedding ring and band. I would like to be fair and split it evenly, but how is that even possible? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795306 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:27:44 +0000 plantains 795306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never really gave it much thought! As of now, I only have a DD so she would get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795299 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:26:06 +0000 lomom 795299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just have one son, so he'd get it.</p> <p>I have my grandmother's wedding ring which went to my mom after they divorced, who gave it to her brother to propose to his gf with. It came back to my mom after he and his wife divorced. Then, I got it after my grandfather (who proposed with the ring) passed away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ifwhen-you-pass-away-who-gets-your-engagementwedding-rings#post-795287 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:21:20 +0000 Rubies 795287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Believe it or not, I think about this a lot. Right now, I have one daughter and if I just had her as my only child, then of course she would get my rings (esp. the diamond from my engagement ring). But I'm currently pregnant with LO2 and as of now, I don't know if it's a girl or boy. If it's a girl, which of the two would get it? If it's a boy, do I leave it to him to give to his future wife?</p> <p>Anyway, I know some of you have heirloom diamonds (or stones or other jewelry)...How did you end up with it? What will you do with YOUR jewelry? </p>