https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 01:41:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-988176 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 10:11:49 +0000 MamaCate 988176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: yay! So glad it worked out for you guys. I hope it keeps working. I feel like it is a good compromise approach and it gives LO an 'exit strategy', for lack of a better word, out of the tantrum. Toddlers can't really self regulate until closer to 18 months so they do need help at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-988092 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:12:40 +0000 lizzywiz 988092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I am embarrassed to say I read this when it came out and made a note not to forget it when I needed it, but...I forgot!<br /> Excellent tips and just what I need right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-988078 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:04:07 +0000 mrbee 988078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: sounds a bit like using an incompatible behavior... that has been life changing with our toddlers!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2013/04/22/what-shamu-taught-me-about-happy-toddlers/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2013/04/22/what-shamu-taught-me-about-happy-toddlers/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-988043 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:37:21 +0000 lizzywiz 988043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: That's our problem- she's escalating while we ignore her.</p> <p>@MamaCate: "i start doing something else, like get out a book or a toy. She usual,y calms down and comes to see what i am doing."<br /> Genius! This is different than me actually GIVING her a toy or something while she is crying.<br /> I just tried playing with the dogs when she started to blow- she came over immediately to see what we were doing that was so fun! Thanks :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-986163 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 21:19:35 +0000 MamaCate 986163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can i say both? I usually ignore the behavior ie dont comment on the crying or attempt to soothe. After maybe 30 seconds then i start doing something else, like get out a book or a toy. She usual,y calms down and comes to see what i am doing. Noisy toys are good for this. Sometime i talk about what i am doingand how fun it would be if lo played with me too. It usually works for us but everyone is different, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-986002 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 20:02:06 +0000 banana 986002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I distract first and if that doesn't work I'll ignore. Distraction works better for us because it doesn't create escalated tantrums. Ignoring only makes her tantrums worse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985876 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 19:01:54 +0000 regberadaisy 985876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does. LO is 15 months and I ignore the most. Sometimes when it's a bad one I redirect. Then when all else fails I give food! Ha,! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985806 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 17:59:54 +0000 yin 985806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose to ignore at that age, and it worked well for LO. He learned that I wasn't going to give him the attention he wanted during his tantrums. After a week or so his tantrums lessened in frequency, and he seemed to recover a lot quicker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985772 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 17:45:40 +0000 lizzywiz 985772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see I have opinions on both sides of the fence :wink:<br /> @Mrs. High Heels: do you feel like it worked in the sense she probably had less tantrums over time?</p> <p>Thanks so much for replying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985416 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:58:50 +0000 Dandelion 985416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age, I'd distract. Once they get a little over 2, ignoring works better (for most). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985413 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:58:07 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 985413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At that age, I used the ignoring tactic the most. I praise her a lot for good behavior, and when she would be on the ground tantrumming, I would just step over her and go about my business as if she wasn't there. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ignore-or-distract-for-a-tantrumming-145-month-old#post-985409 Fri, 02 Aug 2013 14:55:45 +0000 lizzywiz 985409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lean towards the reinforcing positive behavior and ignoring negative behavior (when possible) style of parenting.</p> <p>LO is throwing tantrums when we tell her 'no'. When we ignore her tantrum she escalates. She responds well to distraction, but then I worry I am encouraging the tantrum behavior by telling her 'no' and then rewarding her tantrum with my attention. Does that make sense?<br /> Help! </p>