https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 04:28:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2485948 Mon, 07 Mar 2016 00:42:13 +0000 birdofafeather 2485948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to the rnp because S was not settling at night. She's not had an issue transitioning to sleeping in the crib once her tummy issues were better. I also always nursed while swaddles at night so once they were asleep, that was it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2485875 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 21:33:39 +0000 charlotte 2485875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. This brought back memories of the first couple months with DD. Our son was awake the same number of times as a newborn but nursed ten minutes and fell right back to sleep with no spit up. DD has reflux and it was so rough at first. </p> <p>What helped us:<br /> -rock n play for a couple months<br /> -crib wedge once she moved in there<br /> -Zantac</p> <p>The rnp transition went well. We started by moving the rnp from our room to hers for naps and followed a white noise / sleep sack "routine" so then when she moved to her crib it was still a familiar routine and room. </p> <p>I know the days and nights are long right now but I promise it will get better and become a distant memory at some point. :sad: and also do what works and don't worry about it creating bad habits now. I worried that DD would never. E a great sleeper like DS because of these issues and now at 6 mos she is even better than he was ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2485861 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 21:07:51 +0000 Happygal 2485861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebug: hooray! The transition really wasn't that bad for us. Dreading it would be awful was worse than the experience itself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2485853 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 21:01:15 +0000 MrsSRS 2485853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The coughing is a sign of reflux, so if it doesn't get better you might check with your ped. We were also in the &lt;3 RNP camp for both our reflux baby and our non reflux baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2485823 Sun, 06 Mar 2016 20:08:37 +0000 littlebug 2485823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Broke down and put A in the rnp for night sleeping and I started using a sleep sack swaddle, so I can change her diaper without unwrapping her. Our wake-ups are now 45-60 minutes long. And she's sleeping longer stretches. Hooray! Thanks for weighing in with all the tips and encouraging me to get over my fear of the transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482741 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 10:04:59 +0000 hellobeeboston 2482741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah, i was also going to suggest the RnP... i had an easy transition with my first, and my second (5 months) is still sleeping in there and i'm going to transition soon, but being upright should help. I get it though, you don't want to do another transition. Your LO is still so little that hopefully this gas/reflux will go away pretty soon. When my new little guy was that old the first few weeks he was really gassy then his digestive system just seemed to work itself out... Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482671 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 09:39:10 +0000 Happygal 2482671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rock N Play! Dont' fear the transition. I was so worried about my baby getting addicted to this or that....I didn't use tools that probably would have been very helpful in the moment. </p> <p>Do what works now to let your baby get comfortable and you can get some rest. Coughing makes me suspect she has some reflux going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482654 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 09:34:07 +0000 littlebug 2482654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: That's a good point. Something I should have remembered from our issues with D. I think I'll try keeping her swaddled for diaper changes and feeds, but if that doesn't work, I'll try swaddling after burping. Thank you! </p> <p>@travellingbee: Well, I usually just am holding her or put her in the rnp for daytime naps. She does have a decent amount of awake time during the day, mostly in the morning/mid-day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482571 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 08:57:18 +0000 DesertDreams88 2482571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well at least it's great that it's only 1-2 times a night! My LO Wakes 3-5 times but I'm being generous with what I consider night (9pm-9am, since that's his "night"). I'm surprised the ped didn't take it more seriously but I'm glad you have experience with this from your son so you know what to do at leaat. Like pp said, you could put the crib at an incline. For me, I use the RnP at night with almost no rocking ever, and the Pnp at leaat once during the day, so I'm hoping that will make the transition better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482552 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 08:41:31 +0000 edelweiss 2482552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>can you put the crib on an incline, using some books under the feet on one side? that way you get more of an angle, but won't have the rnp to crib transition issues. you may need to build a crib nest with the incline (mrs. blue blogged about it--basically a lot of rolled up blankets and towels to keep the baby from slipping) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482545 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 08:38:10 +0000 Truth Bombs 2482545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebug: I think part of your problem is swaddling her before you burp/hold upright. If she has reflux, as soon as you lay her flat to swaddle, she's going to have pain, and at that point it's too late to hold her upright. My son has awful reflux and night wake ups are still long but he stays asleep. I would nurse her, then go right to burping/holding upright for 15-20 minutes, then lay her down to swaddle. My son never woke up when I laid him down to swaddle after having been upright for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482539 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 08:34:57 +0000 travellingbee 2482539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS2 was doing those long wake ups until 7 weeks. Then he just stopped and was able to go right back after a feeding. Did you say she is waking, eating and then sleeping again during the day with no wake time? If so, sounds like she has her days and nights confused. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482524 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 08:28:11 +0000 JoJoGirl 2482524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebug: We had our LO in the RnP for gas and she did fine in the transition to the crib around 5 months. She wouldn't sleep well anywhere else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482453 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 07:09:15 +0000 littlebug 2482453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I've thought about using the rnp, but am worried about the transition back to the crib later. My sister did that with both her boys and the transitions were horrible. Like, months of terrible sleep. </p> <p>When I say she's uncomfortable, I mean she's grunting, pushing up (like she's trying to stand up on my lap)... </p> <p>And yeah, I'm ok with spit up. This was projectile - I found some on the floor outside of her crib the next morning. I did mention it to the ped, who said newborns just have underdeveloped gi systems and it was probably a gas bubble, but if it becomes a regular thing to let them know. I'm going through this whole stupid routine because I don't want it to become a regular thing. D was on Zantac starting at 7w when he coughed up blood, and I don't want her to go through that. </p> <p>I could try keeping her swaddled so that I don't wake her to wrap her back up. </p> <p>Luckily, we're only having 1 - maybe 2 - of these marathon wake-ups a night. So... There's that. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482436 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 06:38:21 +0000 DesertDreams88 2482436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would you consider using a RnP? That keeps them at an incline so you'd probably only need to burp and hold for about 5 min so the risk goes way down. My friend had similar issues with her 1st and thus loved the RNP for her 2nd.</p> <p>You say she's clearly uncomfortable what do you mean? What behaviors make you think she is uncomfy/has gas?</p> <p>You could try keeping her swaddled for feeds. I don't see the purpose of unswaddling at night, since the goal of MOTN feeds is to get them full and back to bed :)</p> <p>Also, some spit up is normal and shouldn't be a reason to hold upright for 30 min. Projectile vomiting is not normal. That'd be something I call the ped about. </p> <p>For reference, my 5wk olds night wakeups are 45 min tops- 5 min diaper, 30 min feed, 5 min burp, 5 min transfer to Rnp. I'm amazed you're sticking it out with 90 min! If that's what LO truly needs, wow, I guess you gotta do what you gotta do. But that should not be how things are going... :( hope it changes for the better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-at-a-loss#post-2482398 Thu, 03 Mar 2016 01:49:35 +0000 littlebug 2482398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A is 3 weeks old. She been a decent sleeper since the start, usually giving me at least 3-hour stretches . The problem is that bedtime and MOTN wake-ups take a minimum of 90 minutes, often closer to 2 hours. I feel like I'm losing my mind. I think it's gas, so I burp her every 5 minutes or so during feeds. She's usually done eating after 15 minutes. I keep her upright and try to burp her for another 20-30 minutes after she's done, because if I lay her down right away, she projectile vomits all over her crib. So I keep her upright, she falls asleep, and then as soon as I lay get down, she's awake. </p> <p>Right now is 1:40am. She woke up at midnight. I nursed her for 29 minutes (after changing her diaper), with 3 burp breaks. She fell asleep at the breast, so I laid her down to swaddle her (she didn't wake up), then put her on my shoulder to gently burp her and keep her upright. She woke up coughing after about 15 minutes, so I burped her a little more aggressively. Mind you, it's about 1:15am now. No burps, after like 15 minutes of practically smacking her back, and she's still clearly uncomfortable, so I have her some gripe water. She finally burps, but now, since it's been over an hour, she's hungry again. So its 1:45am and I'm feeding her again. And the whole effing process will start all over. </p> <p>I'm exhausted. She doesn't do this during the day. Then she eats and passes right out. Is it just her internal clock is confused and she thinks 1:30am is party time? Does she have reflux that's worse at night? I'm totally at a loss and feel like I'm going crazy. What do I do? </p>