https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 16:49:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28879 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 17:28:25 +0000 Crisark 28879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamadopt: It's so sad to know how many women go through what we've been through yet they still don't have an real help or prediction for it.<br /> I am glad you were able to decide on adoption. I would love to think that if I wasn't able to carry the last one that surrogacy would be an option but the expense with that wouldn't be anything we could do.<br /> So, it's *fingers crossed* and prayers for us.<br /> I'm glad to see you here too!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28797 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 15:34:54 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 28797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Crisark,<br /> Hi! I (like you) had a high risk pregnancy and could not imagine going through that again. I was on bed rest and was pretty incapacitated. That gave me lots of time for Weddingbee, but with a toddler I can't imagine taking that kind of time out.</p> <p>I'm sure things will go ok for you this next time around.</p> <p>For us, we ended up deciding that our next baby would come to us through the miracle of adoption. I just absolutely can't take the kind of time off from work that I did last time.</p> <p>Good luck and good to see you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28790 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 15:31:27 +0000 Crisark 28790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: Thank you very much!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28781 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 15:26:28 +0000 tequiero21 28781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>aww sorry you have to go through this. i totally understand wanting to give your hubby a biological child. good luck with the doctors and hope you find one that can help minimize all the risks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28716 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 14:15:31 +0000 Crisark 28716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sbjmorgan: Thank you!<br /> Normally they say weight plays a role. I wasn't over weight with my first and wasn't severely over weight with my second so that really didn't lead to a determination.<br /> My fear along with everything else is that I am too heavy for them to feel that I can have a normal pregnancy. I am at least 50lbs heavier now then I was with my second :( DH says not to worry and we will do whatever they tell us to to get me healthy. But, I feel so much guilt in it being me and my body that may keep us from this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28703 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 14:06:14 +0000 sbjmorgan 28703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crisark: hugs to you! I really do hope you don't have to go through it again for this last pregnancy - and that you do get to have another! Do they know why you get pre-e so severely? Hypertension runs in my fam and that's the only thing they could guess for me... so it's luck of the draw for next time. They kept wavering between calling it chronic hypertension exacerbated by pregnancy (or PIH) and pre-e for me :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28684 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 13:46:54 +0000 Crisark 28684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sbjmorgan: I'm so sorry you have gone through similar things as me. I never want anyone to experience that. Honestly, if my second daughter hadn't been a total accident I may never have had another one. But, since things were successful (eventually) with that pregnancy and she is perfect like her sister, it makes me think that maybe, just maybe, I get to do one more. I am really scared though.<br /> @Rosie Girl: Thank you for the kind words and support. I hope very much that she eases my fears and proposes a plan of action so we can TTC. *fingers crossed*<br /> @Clementine: Thank you so much!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28646 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 12:49:52 +0000 Clementine 28646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Hoping you will receive the news you want. Stay strong! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28639 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 12:43:14 +0000 Rosie Girl 28639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for everything you have gone through and completely understand why you are scared. </p> <p>I think it will really help if you are overly open and honest with your new dr. Tell them all your fears and that you want over the top precautionary care because of them. Given your background, they should do that anyways! </p> <p>I hope that you are able to successfully conceive, and have a healthy pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28629 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 12:34:15 +0000 sbjmorgan 28629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WOW, I completely related to everything in this post. I had pre-e from 18+2 weeks and it got so bad that I ended up being induced for two days then an emergency c-section. My pressures were about the same as yours in your first pregnancy (and I had a doc that did that too, but I changed docs! I felt like that was just BS.) </p> <p>I am so nervous about ever getting pregnant again. I went to a high risk clinic FOUR TIMES A WEEK by the end of this pregnancy and now having a child, I know I could not do that again with her. I am so torn over ever having another child. So many people brush off my fears but putting her life and mine on the line so many times during my pregnancy after medication quit controlling my BP was just so scary. I don't know if I could ever do it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28553 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 11:26:34 +0000 Crisark 28553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: That's really good to hear.<br /> I am hoping there is one in our area if I need one.<br /> I'm trying to do all my research now so I can just lay it all out there when I see the DR. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28544 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 11:20:57 +0000 mrbee 28544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crisark: Hopefully the doctor can help you manage the pre-eclampsia issues! I've heard that diet can make a difference....</p> <p>Bee and I saw a high risk specialist for our pregnancies. It was so helpful to be in the hands of a specialists, if only for our peace of mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28530 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 11:09:53 +0000 Crisark 28530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose:<br /> Thank you so much!<br /> I knew there wasn't much anyone could tell me to really "help" but having this community as an outlet is so comforting.<br /> I've been holding a lot of this in for so long now that it's nice to get it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28528 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 11:08:35 +0000 Crisark 28528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah!<br /> My first pregnancy on the Navy Base was when I was married the first time. And was almost 9 years ago.<br /> My second pregnancy was handled so much better and my care was amazing! She really did all she could for me.<br /> I am testing things out with the OB we are meeting with next month. She comes highly recommended, she delivered my nephew a year ago and was wonderful to my sister. </p> <p>I just feel like if they say I shouldn't it's all my fault and that I'm preventing my DH from having something he wants so bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28527 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 11:08:06 +0000 MamaMoose 28527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe your OB can refer you to a high risk specialist so that you can be montiored closely throughout your entire pregnancy. I know it seems really scary but at least you know what you're up against so hopefully you can be as prepared as possible for any complications that come up. And if your doctor tells you it's not a good idea for you to get pregnant, there are always lots of other options like a surrogate or adoption so don't let that devestate you! But hopefully you and your doctor(s) can come up with a plan for you to safely carry anything child. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28516 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 10:59:59 +0000 mrbee 28516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am crossing my fingers for you!!!</p> <p>What does your doctor situation look like this time around... do you have access to better care now? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-really-scared-about-getting-pregnant-again#post-28511 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 10:54:30 +0000 Crisark 28511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi all!<br /> DH and I have been planning for a year now that following the wedding we would start TTC the beginning of the next year. </p> <p>Well, the next year is in less than a month....I have an appt with a new OB/GYN the middle of January to start discussing when to take out my Mirena and if I should try for one more.</p> <p>Back story,<br /> I've had 3 pregnancies, 2 live births. My miscarriage was when I was 18years old and I had no idea I was even pregnant til I lost the baby.<br /> My other two pregnancies ended in two beautiful, healthy little girls. However, both pregnancies ended up being high risk. </p> <p>My first, I was on a navy base and wasn't given the best care. I ended up with severe preclampsia because the nurses and doctors never recorded my high blood pressures. Every visit they would tell me my pressure was high and then have me lay on my side in the dark room and "rest". Then they would come back and take my pressure again and record the good one.<br /> Well, that resulted in my being emergency induced at 37 weeks with a blood pressure of 186/123.<br /> During my 13 hour labor my mother was repeatedly told that I was going to suffer a seizure or stroke at any time and that I may not make it.<br /> Luckily, I did. But, my body went through so much trauma,.</p> <p>Well, forward to my second pregnancy, which was an accident but of course a wonderful accident. My pregnancy went really smooth and I got excited that maybe I wouldn't go through the same troubles as the first....well 15minutes after I delivered her my blood pressure went through the roof.<br /> I was in the labor and delivery room for 7hours post delivery because they couldn't stabilize me well enough to move me to my recovery room.<br /> I was put on magnesium sulfate to prevent seizures. I was then stabilized and sent home with home health visits for 2 months following.<br /> So, skip to now. My DH has no biological children and we both terribly want to have one together. I'm terrified the dr will tell me I shouldn't. Or that she will tell me I can and then something happen to me or the baby.<br /> On top of that, I am a carrier for Cystic Fibrosis, so DH has to be tested prior to TTC to make sure he doesn't share the same gene. AND, He has Stargarts Disease which has left him legally blind...there is a 25% chance he could pass that on.<br /> With all of this hanging over us I am so down about the possibility that we will even be able to TTC with dr approval.<br /> I just needed to get that all out I guess because the time is coming to actually meet with the dr and I'm just scared.<br /> Thanks for listening.</p> <p>Sorry it's so long!!! </p>