https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 11:14:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454751 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 00:15:12 +0000 erwoo 454751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: LOL! Obviously, I haven't read it in its entirety yet! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454747 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 00:12:06 +0000 mrbee 454747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: she posted a travel-sized version too!!</p> <p><a href="http://lifesprinkledwithglitter.blogspot.com/2012/03/travel-coin-chart.html" rel="nofollow">http://lifesprinkledwithglitter.blogspot.com/2012/03/travel-coin-chart.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454744 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 00:04:15 +0000 erwoo 454744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I hope it works so I can read about it! Thanks for the tip! I'm going to also have to figure out how to bring it with me when we go on a month-long trip to the South Pacific and Asia in January! I'm going to need it as my husband won't be joining us until the last two weeks of our trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454731 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:52:20 +0000 mrbee 454731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: he learned it quickly!! He improved so much that we kind of have slacked on it. We're gonna tweak the chart a bit to adapt and if it works, will blog about it!</p> <p>The biggest tip I'd say is to let him a big reward early on if he earns just one or two stickers. </p> <p>Oh also, we started offering Charlie short videos as a reward if he behaved well in a morning or evening. Holy cow, that was huge!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454727 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:46:41 +0000 erwoo 454727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Omg, that's right! I think you posted something about this recently, right? Thanks for the reminder and the link. I read through it and think I'm going to try this! I do believe that following through is important and that both parents (or all involved in the care of your kids) needs to be on the same page or it will not work. I think this is something my husband will like as well. </p> <p>How long have you and Bee been doing this with Charlie? How long did it take him to learn the rules? I really liked the idea of using real money to save up for toys while shopping. My son asks for things ALL THE TIME to a point that it's annoying. I am still in disbelief that he took those shoes out of the store! I thought the mall cop was going to come take me away! He even asked why he can't take it. They have so much to learn... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454713 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:31:32 +0000 mrbee 454713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: Charlie is like that!! When he's good, he's an angel. When he's bad... well, you get the idea. :)</p> <p>Have you tried a behavior chart? We were at the end of our rope when we heard rave reviews about this chart... we've been trying it with Charlie and it's been helping!</p> <p><a href="http://lifesprinkledwithglitter.blogspot.com/2012/03/coin-chart-behavioral-finance-chart-for.html" rel="nofollow">http://lifesprinkledwithglitter.blogspot.com/2012/03/coin-chart-behavioral-finance-chart-for.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454705 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:19:47 +0000 erwoo 454705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all so much for your support and words of encouragement and for making me realize that I'm not alone. I really needed it after today...or more like after these past few weeks or months. </p> <p>The threes have been very challenging for us and I'm still trying to find the best way to balance having an 8-month-old and a 3.5-year-old. I know he acts out because he is jealous of his little brother (who is still nursing) and just wants my attention. I'm trying my best but it's not good enough for him and me constantly reprimanding him for his bad behavior hasn't helped either. I know I need to chill it but sometimes I just can't help myself but react in the moment like today. Time outs still works well for us but it's short term. I guess that's what it's for, right? I swear, toddlers have such horrible short term memory! Either that or he's just like my husband. LOL! </p> <p>He's a great kid and I've gotten many compliments on how well behaved he is when he wants to be. When he's good he's really good. When he's bad he's really bad. There's just no balance right now! Everyone tells me that boys and girls have their times of difficulty and this is the difficult time for boys. I was looking forward to having my office back again. He's had a bunch of his toys taken away (we put it in our office) for bad behavior in the past and he was almost done getting one toy after every finished meal. I hope he learned his lesson and realized that it took a long time to get all of his toys back and will not bite his little brother again. I know it's wishful thinking but I have to try! Thanks again! :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454185 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:14:24 +0000 brownie 454185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we all have to be THAT mom because the definition changes. I have been THAT mom who lets her kid just run through the store. I have been THAT mom who sits them in the aisle for a timeout. I have been THAT mom who ignores them as they whine and cry and scream in the basket. I have been THAT mom that yells at her kid in public. </p> <p>I think that just makes us a MOM </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454170 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:09:04 +0000 littlebug 454170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally agree with everyone else - you did the right thing. I commend parents who actually discipline their children appropriately rather than either a) yelling, smacking, or telling them to "shut up" in public, or b) ignoring the misbehavior altogether. Give yourself a break, Mom! You're doing a great job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454166 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 17:07:55 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 454166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would've lost my ish...so you did well! Seriously- it is super stressful doing it all...at some point, you've got to get snippy with people (kids...cashiers..) especially if they aren't doing what they're supposed to!<br /> *HUGS* You're not *that* mom! You're pretty much *every* mom! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454137 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 16:46:36 +0000 MsMini 454137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you did anything wrong. I think most reasonable parents would have handled it the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454128 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 16:38:23 +0000 rachiecakes 454128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>don't be so hard on yourself!<br /> you're doing a good job (and deserve a break - a real break, not just a running errands break). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454124 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 16:35:34 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 454124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: With all of that happening at the same time, plus listening to the whining all day, I think anyone in your shoes would have been just as frustrated. I know I would have! Telling him that he's going to be in trouble when he gets home does not make you "that mom". Sure, you felt like it, but that's more likely just mommy guilt. </p> <p>I really don't know how I would have handled the biting situation when it happened. Sure, I can look as an outsider and say that I would have stepped out of line, made him do a timeout in the store while I tried to comfort the baby, but realistically, I would have done what you did - try to get out of there as soon as possible to not cause any more of a scene. </p> <p>(((((HUGS))))) Hope your baby's finger feels better soon (I see some tylenol in his future?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454092 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 16:11:57 +0000 Cherrybee 454092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I was in the store when you had to intervene, I would have been impressed that you dealt with it there and then (some people would smooth over the situation because they don't like disciplining in public) and didn't resort to smacking. </p> <p>I would also have really felt for you because, guess what, we're ALL that mom!!! I was in a department store with my friend and her little one last Christmas and the little girl took all the fashion jewelry - beads etc - off the rack, put it all on and ran around the store giggling. Shoppers were tripping over her, she was knocking clothes off the rails and all I could do was chase her around begging her to come back (I don't know how to discipline yet!!). Yeah, as far as everyone was concerned, I was THAT mom!!!!! </p> <p>Hugs for you. It sounds to me like you're doing an amazing job - you just need a day off!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454048 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:57:31 +0000 littlek 454048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: I don't think you did anything wrong. Is it bad that I think it's funny he took the shoes as gift for his little brother? That is sweet, he loves his brother. The just taking part wasn't great but the thought was nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-454037 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:53:47 +0000 T-Mom 454037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would have done the same thing as you! I can relate to being a frazzled mom that doesn't always behave as "gracefully" as she wants. Yesterday I let out a monstrous "ahhhhhghhhh" at the top of my lungs when trying to get my kids ready for day care. Then I slammed the door behind me. I would not be surprised if my neighbors heard. LOs were both irritating the heck out of me (can't even remember why now). It was literally a cavewoman scream. They looked scared out of their minds. Not my finest moment. Don't beat yourself up! We aren't perfect and kids are reslient. Hang in there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-453955 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:24:57 +0000 blackbird 453955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Man, "you're going to be in trouble when we get home" used to straighten me the heck out when I was a little kid :P It was a very effective threat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-453953 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:24:44 +0000 Mrsbells 453953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree I dont see anything wrong with reprimanding him for bad behaviour unless its very loud and threatening. How old is your oldest? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-453950 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:23:42 +0000 Bao 453950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh momma you need a break! Do not feel bad at all, you're a great mom, being a SAHM is a TON of work, and get's very overwhelming and I only have one baby to deal with. I would have handled the situation the same, and probably would have been snappy at the cashier too, honestly, because that's annoying. I get irritated with stupid people pretty quickly though. I mean seriously, you had two kids and you were there first, lets be smart about this. I think you need to set up a kid free evening for either you and your DH or just you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-453947 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:21:29 +0000 tororojo 453947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think reprimanding your kid is a bad thing, unless you're yelling or cursing--those are the parents I judge, not the ones who discipline as they should. :) I feel guilty when I'm mean to cashiers, too (I worked retail for a long time!) but sometimes it shocks me how dumb/uncaring people can be...everyone is allowed to have a bad day, though. Don't feel bad! Think of Tricycle's post on how it gets better--that doesn't go just for newborns, but for every stage. I hope you get some me time soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-that-mom#post-453938 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:18:04 +0000 erwoo 453938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm that mom who openly got mad at her toddler at a department store b/c he bit his 8-month-old little brother while she was paying for something. I'm that mom... and I hate it. I hate that I had to get upset at him. I said, "you're going to be in big trouble when we get home." I said it in a very stern voice. I even snapped at the cashier b/c she was suppose to ring me up but then some other lady came and started asking her a question about something on her phone and she went to help her right in the middle of my transaction. I asked her to finish ringing me up b/c I was there first. I was a sales associate at one time in my life and I know that you need to prioritize your clients and make it known that you will be with them shortly. To make matters worse she forgot to give me the additional 20% off discount (had a coupon) when I handed that to her first. Anyway, I hope other people around me didn't think that I was going to smack my son when we got home. We don't hit in this household. We do time outs and take away things as punishment and he has to earn it back. I simply came home and took away all of his favorite things and then put him in time out. I know they say not to do it after the fact, but there was no way I was going to put him in time out at Macys. </p> <p>I need a break away from the kids. Having two kids can be exponentially harder when the oldest misbehaves like this. Thankfully, we don't have days like this all the time but it does happen and when it does I am starting to lose my patience and react poorly. I know I need to have more patience but it's SO hard being a SAHM and hardly ever getting any breaks. And when I do have time on the weekends (husband's home) I'm out running errands b/c I don't want to do it having two kids with me during the week, especially Christmas shopping. I tried it one day and it was a disaster! All I kept hearing was, "mommy, I want this, mommy I want that." And more whining. He even walked out the store with two pairs of sample shoes on the shelf w/o the matching pairs. He said it was for his little brother. I didn't see it until we were a few stores away from that store. I immediately ran back to have him return it to the cashier and had a little talk with him about taking things w/o paying. I was in such horror. I have a kid that STEALS?! Omg...</p> <p>If you were in my shoes, how would you have handled the biting situation? I know my way was definitely not the best way but it was the best that I could think of at the moment. It's so heart wrenching hearing his little brother scream at the top of his lungs with two HUGE bite marks on his little middle finger and tears squirting out of his eyes. They were squirting and falling at the same time. Almost like in a cartoon! </p>