https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 21:31:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-972267 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 11:03:33 +0000 travellingbee 972267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Not evil. It's reasonable to be annoyed about unsolicited advice when you are struggling with a new born. BUT she'll understand soon and then hopefully you will be able to bond over it as @Pink Champagne: said. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-972246 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 10:57:46 +0000 lizzywiz 972246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: If you're evil, then I am damnable, because as soon as I saw the title of this thread I knew I was going to love reading it :wink:<br /> Watching someone reap the karma they sowed is one of my guilty pleasures. Have fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-972210 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 10:49:51 +0000 cascademom 972210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be the same way too. Not evil, just over the crap that people on each other. It's similar to how I feel annoyance and disappointment with my former yarn store. They treated me like crap when I was pregnant and are now embracing another pregnant knitter even going to her baby shower. I feel that I have the right to be made about their turncoat behavior. My best friend thinks I'm being too nice to the pregnant one. I've only communicated with her, not the rest of the people especially the two who really soured my experience there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-972128 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 10:30:40 +0000 .twist. 972128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: I think everyone has a right to be annoyed, especially if someone is being a know-it-all without having lived the experience. I'd be so stoked if my friend had a baby, and you bet I'd be there to help her through the tough times, but it still doesn't change the fact that she's given a lot of unsolicited advice that she has no experience in. Just like any peanut gallery thread, it's a vent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-972099 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 10:21:59 +0000 googly-eyes 972099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: she wasn't ttc but had "baby fever." I GET that I'm not being nice and perhaps Im channelling my annoyance with DH's family in general since I have bit my tongue a lot with them. It is what it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971768 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 08:45:16 +0000 Pink Champagne 971768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many times has someone posted in the TTC threads looking for advice on what to do because she's been TTC/just had a miscarriage/wants a baby SO bad and is afraid they won't be able to go to a baby shower without crying their eyes out? We don't know the circumstances.<br /> And I'm sure just like all people who give "advice" after a baby is born, it was said with the best of intentions. You didn't say what she said that was so awful, so it's hard to take her over the coals for it.<br /> I'm shocked at the responses of this group.... What happened to y'all's compassion??? Congrats to her for finally getting her baby, now you'll have so much to bond over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971612 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 07:59:08 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 971612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love how all the people who say "Just wait until you have one" give the advice and then seem shocked when LO finally arrives and none of their predictions came true. It gives me a deep satisfaction to say nope, smile, and walk off. Is that evil? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971523 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 07:16:17 +0000 Adira 971523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, yay!!! I'm totally like this! And now you can be the one giving advice because you have actually been there/done that! Enjoy it!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971515 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 07:08:50 +0000 sslm 971515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I'm totally like this too, and such a grudge holder!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971500 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 06:53:22 +0000 cmomma17 971500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: pop some popcorn, sit back, and enjoy the show! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971455 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 06:10:01 +0000 AprilFool 971455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a newly pregnant friend who said some insensitive things while I was pregnant already say 'she knows what I mean now'. Hopefully she's eating a little humble pie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971419 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 05:37:54 +0000 Dandelion 971419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, yeah, they'll learn the hard way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971417 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 05:36:24 +0000 Smurfette 971417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would feel the same way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971391 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 03:15:58 +0000 Cherrybee 971391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh she will learn that you can leave having a baby until you are much older, have all the career success and material possessions in the world, read every book and think you know it all but when that baby pops out and mews at you for the first time, you're starting completely from scratch just like the teenage mum next to you and like everybody else. Its all very humbling and sounds exactly what she needs! Glad she is finally getting her baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971374 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 02:25:56 +0000 lomom 971374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are a few people I wouldn't mind pulling the "just you wait" card on when they get pregnant! ;) it's funny how sometimes the most "knowledgable" on baby-rearing are those with no kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971373 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 02:22:47 +0000 Sweet T 971373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hahaha I would feel the same way!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971369 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 02:13:20 +0000 .twist. 971369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahaha, no. I have one friend who seems to think things are very black and white with babies and isn't afraid to tell you how she thinks you should be doing it or what you need. I am looking forward to her getting pregnant and making similar remarks. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-totally-evil#post-971351 Mon, 29 Jul 2013 01:00:40 +0000 googly-eyes 971351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Because someone who I think purposely ditched out on our baby shower, and who gave me unsolicited (correcting) advice when LO was a couple months old is (finally) pregnant, and I am totally going to enjoy watching her realize she was full of crap.</p> <p>I think part of why she was so condescending is because in that side of the family money/career/delaying children is what most of them do, and dh and I chose otherwise. (Still stable but young parents.) I KNOW she really wanted a baby and I tried to be compassionate...but when she started criticizing me during my lows of ppd when dd was a newborn... I started waiting for the payback.</p> <p>I can't be the only person who thinks like this right? </p>