https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 19:14:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666802 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 19:52:01 +0000 heffalump 666802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our one non negotionable was that we wanted to be married. After the wedding ..... ttc was fair game :) I wasn't working already so that was an easy transition to sahm, dhs job at the time was stable and we had enough money. Not a ton but enough. We thought we'd deal with living in our townhouse but the second I got pregnant we agreed that I needed an upgrade and ended up moving when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant. Not perfect timing, but it all worked out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666797 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 19:48:46 +0000 Tidybee 666797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We thought we had the perfect time: a good amount in savings, stable jobs, traveled a bit, so we started TTC. It then took a year! Yes we were in a better position after that year but my point is that there really isn't a perfect time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666776 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 19:42:45 +0000 Weagle 666776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we thought about it, we knew we would regret waiting, but we wouldn't regret having more time to parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666383 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 16:14:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 666383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Age was a factor for me. I imagined all the things that I wanted to do beforehand and imagined not being able to have a baby of my own because I waited too long. That thought/fear of having everything "in place" and yet not being able to have the one thing I wanted most is what put me into TTC mode. It took us 11 cycles to conceive. I wish we started sooner! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666295 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:48:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 666295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew we wanted to be financially comfortable, which for us meant we could still save even with the loss of income if I stay home, or the costs of daycare, which are crazy high where we live. We live in a big expensive city like you, so for us, waiting to own a home wasn't really a consideration. We want to stay in the city now (I'm 22 weeks along right now) but when we buy, it will probably be a house further out from the city. </p> <p>Age was a big factor for us-- we were 29 when we got married, we want to have 2 kids, so we didn't want to wait forever to get started. So we agreed on starting TTC 2 years after the wedding, and we'll have this LO a few months before our 3rd anniversary. That's what worked for us!</p> <p>Oh, and it helps that lots of our friends are having babies now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666287 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:46:23 +0000 jaclyn 666287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wish there was a perfect time! my fiance and i live in london and we were planning to get married in the US, but didn't want to plan a wedding from over here. the plan has always been to move back to the US, but we didn't know when that was going to happen. at 31, i was getting 'broody' so we just decided to go for it. i'm due in june and we're moving back to the states in the next week or two. we figured that if we waited for the perfect time, it might not come along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666277 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:42:46 +0000 MsLipGloss 666277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The *perfect* time doesn't exist . . . you just have to decide (as best you can) that you are ready. No matter what you *have*, a new baby will certainly turn your life inside out for a bit. Those things are all nice to have, but certainly not necessary. :) Besides, if you had everything on your list, you would just replace those items with new ones!</p> <p>FWIW, DH and I had everything on your *list* when we started TTC, and there were still things that we thought we should have had before getting a BFP (even more money in savings and investments, more travel, more time as a married couple, etc.) . . . but it worked out just beautifully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666276 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:42:36 +0000 MamaBehr 666276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that the decision to TTC is similar to parenting, there are no "wrong" and "right" answers, just what is best for you. Which, seeing as you are a good student since you went through Law School, is hard because we are use to right and wrong. </p> <p>What ultimately pushed us to start to try was friends having babies. We had our first while DH was finishing up his first year of Business School. Financially, we weren't where we wanted to be (still aren't), but I don't think I would have wanted to wait too much longer. We also decided to "deal with the consequences of NTNP" and the consequence (if you will) came a little sooner than we thought! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666269 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:39:23 +0000 pui 666269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were up to me, we would have started TTC as soon as we got married a little over a year ago. We COULD have started a family too. We were financially stable and already owned a home, ectect... however we wanted to be even MORE secure. Now we almost have that house paid off, so we're in probably the most perfect position to start a family there possibly is.</p> <p>However, even then there is no such thing as a "perfect time". Even though we are stable, we just bought an industrial unit for our business and we need to renovate it, which is of course a lot of money, work and stress. We're still TTC because we just don't want to hold off on that anymore. There really is never going to be a moment that is 100% perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666259 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:36:13 +0000 illumina 666259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like you.. I originally wanted to hold out for that perfect time but after getting married, turning 30 last year and being in a stable financial position we decided we were ready. I'm not sure if the perfect time would ever have come around and I didn't want to leave it much later to start TTC as you never know how long it might take. I figured regrets over TTC too late would be bigger than anything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/im-waiting-for-the-perfect-time-to-start-our-family#post-666230 Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:28:47 +0000 dc yoga bee 666230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah, I've been away from the beloved boards for a while. I passed the bar, got a job, and have been adjusting nicely. DH and I just celebrated our 1yr anniversary. Every time I think about our family plans, I think about the "perfect time" to ttc. We would own our own home, be settled in our career, and have rebuilt our nest egg having spent it on a downpayment. Well, once you add all those years, I'm looking at 10yrs down the road, and may have missed my window of opportunity! I know there is no perfect time, and that you could always have a better car/house/neighborhood/nest egg/etc... How in the world did you decide to just go with it? DH is on board for whenever now that we both are blessed to have good jobs, only debt is my law school loans which we are managing fine, and we are saving money. To buy a home in DC, we will need tons of moohlah, so we will most likely start ttc while in the upgraded brand new high rise apartments we just moved to. There are tons of young families with their strollers strolling around, so that doesn't bother me while the child is young. So, how/when did you decide to just go with it!?!? </p>