https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:48:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2022670 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 18:10:21 +0000 Torchwood 2022670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the responses! I guess we'll just have to wait and see!</p> <p>@singingbee: I didn't know about your loss, I'm sorry. I definitely wouldn't be devastated if I had to have a c-section for some reason. I do want to have a healthy, med-free delivery, partially because it's what I always wanted, and partially so my only memories of laboring and delivering aren't the one traumatic experience. But like you, it was traumatic (though in different ways), and if I don't have to go through anything similar that might be triggering, that's not a bad thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021496 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 07:19:41 +0000 blackbird 2021496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to say all those areas...i mean, i know people who have delivered at 32 weeks, too. I would imagine it will go smoother, going full term, though. Quicker, etc. I hope so :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021350 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 00:07:02 +0000 littleblessings 2021350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: </p> <p>Baby 1 (DD)-<br /> 11 hrs of labor after water breaking at 40+1 with an hour and a half pushing. Was showing at 13 weeks.<br /> Baby 2 (DS)-<br /> 14 hrs of on and off stalling labor after water breaking at 38 with a full minute of pushing. Actually had to have pitocin with this one. Was showing at 25 weeks. Was able to hide it til 34 weeks.</p> <p>Both pregnancies and labors were completely different </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021293 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 23:04:14 +0000 singingbee 2021293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I have no doubt everything would go about the same because my body was already starting to do stuff for delivery and I think it would have been an okay delivery. I just didn't want to have to push again. I was really tramautized after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021290 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 23:02:36 +0000 singingbee 2021290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: so we lost our little girl at 20 weeks. I was induced and had to push. I didn't have to get to the full 10, but still had my water break and had to push. </p> <p>With lo 2 I definitely showed earlier and my symsymptoms were more intense in some ways. Some was exactly the same. I didn't know what to expect past 20 weeks, so that was nice for me to have that unexpectedness in some ways. </p> <p>I stressed about delivering. Turns out lo 2 was breech and didn't Turn at all. I had to have a csection. I had people trying to talk me out of it, but having that same memory of pushing was not what I wanted. So, luckily for me, it was decided for me. </p> <p>My milk came in two days after I delivered both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021257 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:32:12 +0000 Torchwood 2021257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: Thank you. We're optimistic about this one! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021254 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:30:59 +0000 sarac 2021254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just went and read your story - wow. I really applaud your bravery, and I hope your current pregnancy is the one that leads to a healthy baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021247 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:26:59 +0000 Torchwood 2021247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: I didn't know that! :) Might make sense, since I wasn't even supposed to be pushing, it was supposed to be more along the lines of a D&amp;C. Would explain why they kept telling me to stop, since if I wasn't fully dilated it would have been more likely to risk damage if I rushed things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021243 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:25:20 +0000 Torchwood 2021243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: That does make sense. I'm planning to ask my midwives, but I expect they'll say what you did, that everyone is different. </p> <p>Though for what it's worth, I feel pretty strongly that I would have gone into labor sooner than later. I was having BH's sometimes as close together as every two minutes for weeks leading up to it. And more significantly, the induction went a little too well. They had to give me meds to stop contractions the night before I was supposed to deliver. If I had had the time, I almost definitely would have been able to deliver with just the laminaria and no pitocin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021227 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:12:00 +0000 spaniellove 2021227@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Torchwood: Apparently you can go through the whole pushing thing without getting to 10cm...I never got past 8cm and only pushed for 10 minutes because LO was small. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021212 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:05:30 +0000 Mae 2021212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your doctor may have some answers for you, but I feel like every birth is so unique it is sort of impossible to predict what you might have happen. The fact that you were induced alone-- I don't know how that affects things. Like I was induced and labored 18 hours and had a c section. Who knows how long I would've labored without the c section and who knows how long I would've labored (or when) if I'd not been induced. So if I have another I feel like it is just a crap shoot of how long it might be or when I might go into labor (if at all). </p> <p>I feel like those sorts of statistics (second baby may come a little sooner and a little faster) apply mostly to women who go into labor naturally and have uncomplicated vaginal births. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/in-what-areas-would-you-consider-me-a-second-time-mom#post-2021204 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 22:00:56 +0000 Torchwood 2021204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my situation (pregnant after a termination at 33 weeks), I'm curious what might be different for me than a typical first time mom. Like I'm showing earlier for sure, which I expected. But other things I'm not sure about. </p> <p>Like whether I'm likely to go longer like a typical first time mom, or a bit earlier. And is labor likely to be shorter? I did labor with the termination. It was an induction with laminaria (artificial seaweed used to open the cervix) and pitocin. I don't know if I actually got to 10 centimeters (they implied I wouldnt, but from some signs I feel like I might have), but I was apparently pushing involuntarily (they kept telling me to stop). </p> <p>So, thoughts? (Also, is there any difference between when your milk comes in if it's come in before?) </p>