https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 21:51:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665675 Thu, 15 Dec 2016 10:16:58 +0000 bamblm 2665675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes!! I can totally relate to the awkwardness that comes with small talk about LO's. My LO2 has significant delays in a couple of areas, and my work environment I have a lot of encounters with co-workers and clients that I don't see very often on a daily basis, so I get a lot of questions along the same lines. "So-and-so must be talking up a storm, running all over the place, etc." I have an automatic benign response to all of those comments, "Yes, she's certainly doing her thing, and it is such a pleasure to see her develop and grow." Then I change the subject to something work related.</p> <p>It does suck that I have to actively avoid harmless small talk about LO's, but it's easier than handling all the unexpected stings that come from those conversations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665643 Thu, 15 Dec 2016 09:30:06 +0000 808love 2665643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have had a do-over in my head too!! That is when all the good stuff bubbles up, after the fact. You will be prepared next time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665500 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 18:31:15 +0000 mrsmacSLP 2665500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As an SLP, I often get parents saying their kids are delayed (and most are) and they truly believe their kids are delayed because they are not big in talking. I always have to explain there's a difference between "not big on talking" and a delay. Sounds like he really just didn't know there's a difference. I am sorry though! It makes it hard for mommas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665455 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 16:26:04 +0000 catomd00 2665455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like he doesn't know what a speech delay is. Sorry your feelings were hurt. :( that's great news about your son, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665368 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 14:08:41 +0000 Mrsbells 2665368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I agree that it doesnt sound like he meant to be hurtful, he just thought your child isnt a big talker because you guys arent big talkers </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665365 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 13:54:47 +0000 BSB 2665365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a big talker (rather shy... and *clears throat* an introvert) and I would be hurt by that comment. Since I'm a introvert, I most likely would internalize it and not say anything. </p> <p>My kids aren't big talkers but I'll bring it up to the dr at their next appt to make sure everything is ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665361 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 13:32:32 +0000 Maysprout 2665361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He probably meant it was more a personality thing - like if you're more introverted, your child might be more interested in reading than talking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665200 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 09:11:34 +0000 tlynne 2665200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can sympathize...I've had plenty of conversations like this about both/either DS1 or DS2. Both of my boys currently have issues that we are addressing through various therapies (occupational, speech, etc)...and we hear a LOT of opinions from other people that are frequently rude or aggravating.</p> <p>The bottom line is that their opinions, ultimately, aren't the ones that matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665189 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 08:48:47 +0000 nana87 2665189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gaaah what a ridiculous thing to say, he really put his foot in his mouth and probably didn't even realize it. I'm sorry someone so clueless made you feel unnecessary mom guilt. Hugs mama :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665162 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 06:50:01 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2665162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. His comment definitely didn't come out the way he surely meant it to. I wish I could convo do-overs all the time. Lesson learned share less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665132 Wed, 14 Dec 2016 00:05:43 +0000 jhd 2665132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: thanks. you're right. it's so hard not to feel judged even when it's not the other person's intention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665119 Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:42:34 +0000 travellingbee 2665119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that I think he meant like you are quieter people so LO would be too not realizing you meant an actual delay that required therapy. I'm sorry your feelings got hurt though. Parenting is so hard and we always feel like everyone is judging us. It hard not to get feelings hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665118 Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:42:24 +0000 jhd 2665118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I think you're exactly right. He doesn't know that we are working so hard to get LO caught up and he also probably doesn't understand my introverted personality either. I don't talk much at all in group settings like our meeting tonight, but I talk plenty at home! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665116 Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:38:11 +0000 Foodnerd81 2665116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was very insensitive. I'm guessing he was trying to make light of it, and also didn't realize that his speech delay is an actual problem you have been working through vs a little variation among kids, some talk a lot, some talk a little, if that makes sense? He probably didn't know what to say and maybe is replaying it in his head too thinking he sounded like a jerk. Or not. </p> <p>But I totally do agree it's so great when you finally get to hear what they are thinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/insensitive-comments-re-speech-delay-vent#post-2665114 Tue, 13 Dec 2016 23:33:21 +0000 jhd 2665114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just need a little moment to vent!</p> <p>Tonight I went saw a work colleague at a meeting. We both have two year old boys, just a few months apart. I asked him how his LO was doing and he said he's talking up a storm and at a fun age. I replied that our LO had recently started talking a ton and we were especially excited because he has had a bit of a speech delay and agreed it is so much fun to know what is going on in their little heads as they talk more and more. Then my colleague replied that it wasn't really surprising (LO's speech delay) because my DH and I aren't big talkers. I didn't really know how to respond to this and I honestly don't think he meant anything harmful by it, but my mama feelings are hurt!</p> <p>Obviously in future I will not qualify my response and simply say "oh yeah, my kid's talking a lot too, it is fun", but for tonight I'm feeling upset that anyone would think that LO's delay is even remotely my fault. We spend hours every week in therapy, I have talked and read to LO a ton every day since he was born, I take him to classes, etc. </p> <p>Anyone else ever wish they could have a conversation do-over? </p>