https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 04:36:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249948 Fri, 29 Nov 2013 10:45:55 +0000 mrsjyw 1249948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While it is cultural and I grew up in a no shoe household. Dh is the one who is a nazi about guests and no shoes! (And he's white, uls wear shoes inside). Mil is great about it. Fil 'forgets' usually when he's over. Most of our friends all take their shoes off </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249256 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 14:27:41 +0000 Kimberlybee 1249256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We prefer no outside shoes indoors but we make exceptions for parties and get togethers. We have wood floors so it's easier to clean than carpet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249184 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:34:34 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1249184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I like that idea of just no shoes on the carpet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249172 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:16:05 +0000 Greentea 1249172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: me too! I have fragile feet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249170 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:15:22 +0000 Greentea 1249170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: I remember that episode! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249167 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 12:12:00 +0000 jedeve 1249167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wear shoes. I have bad feet and need the orthotic support and so it really annoys me when I have to take them off. </p> <p>I also let my baby crawl around outside so I'm not too worried about dirt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249079 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 11:08:20 +0000 Greentea 1249079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my shoes! I am much more comfortable in my shoes. Lo has an area with her quilt where she rolls and plays and I don't walk there. It is cold here and I wear indoor shoes (birkenstock slip on mary janes). I leave my nasty boots at the door right now because they are wet from slush. I prefer to wear my shoes indoors. I also have a big dog. She has hurt my feet before! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249062 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 10:55:56 +0000 deactivated_account 1249062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today I am thankful that all my friends are okay taking their shoes off when they come into my house! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1249016 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 10:25:48 +0000 pui 1249016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol I can't believe this is still going! I should start a thread about bagged milk. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1248842 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 08:02:21 +0000 artsyfartsy 1248842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To me, I always take off my shoes at home. We are not Asian. I don't feel comfortable walking around in shoes! I make DH take his off when we get home, too. I don't feel like I can relax or settle in if I still have shoes on.</p> <p>When we have guests over i kick my shoes off at the door and if they do the same then great. I never ask them to. I don't expect them to but I find it courteous if they notice that DH and I don't wear shoes in the house and they take theirs off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1248799 Thu, 28 Nov 2013 06:55:28 +0000 mediagirl 1248799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! I am just reading this thread now. I was born in the Midwest and grew up in Maryland, all in houses. We never took on shoes off inside. If we had snow boots on, those came off but if there was muck on the ground, we just stomped out feet and then went in the house. </p> <p>Yeah being said, I know there are some people who have no shoe rules and I get that. My Canadian friends have this rule and we just deal with it. They always have a pile of shoes by the door so you know it's a no shoe house. </p> <p>I am all about to each their own with this. Your house, your rules. When M was a baby I asked people to take their shoes off on the carpet (that she enjoyed licking) and they were okay with it. Though our dads always "forgot." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238358 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 15:19:38 +0000 Sammyfab 1238358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: at the same time, people who request / require their guests to take their shoes off when entering their home have been called tacky and rude in this thread. It goes both ways! :wink: </p> <p>We're a shoes-off house (Canadian and Asian), but generally I will follow the lead of the homeowner. I do feel weird walking through homes with my shoes on though...unless it's a really dirty home (not to say that those who keep their shoes on own dirty homes). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238355 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 15:17:09 +0000 mlm2934 1238355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: haha, no no, I understand if you ask nicely :) but that becomes a whole different issue if someone blatantly refuses to honor your request in their home - nothing to do with shoes :)</p> <p>I guess I was more talking about hating the idea that people are secretly fuming that my shoes were on and assuming I'm rude when I might not know that's what they prefer </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238315 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 14:34:18 +0000 hilsy85 1238315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I just don't get the reasoning behind keeping your shoes on at home? I'm always more comfortable with shoes off, and especially with a LO--I wouldn't let him rub his face on the bottom of my shoes, and that's basically what it is like if I walk around our house with my shoes on. i'm not a germaphobe at all and am fine with him walking and crawling around public places, but at home, where he spends the majority of his time, and eats and sleeps, I like to try to keep it as clean as possible, especially on the floor where he usually is!</p> <p>As for other people's homes, their homes, their rules. I don't understand getting upset over being asked to take your shoes off. Would you be upset if you were asked to sit on cushions on the floor, as is common in some cultures? Or asked to keep a respectful silence while a prayer is said before a meal? It's the same sort of thing to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238313 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 14:31:40 +0000 mrbee 1238313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Not wearing shoes in the house is considered a big deal in Japan! It's not just shoes: there's a belief that outside of the home, the ground is dirty. So you would never put your coat on the ground at a cafe or restaurant either, for example. Or in America, people put their bags on the floor of the subway - this is very rare in Japan as well! School desks even have hooks on them so you can hang your book bag (so that the books don't touch the ground). There are more examples here!<br /> <a href="http://greenhearttravel.org/high-school-abroad/in-japan-there-is-a-time-and-place-for-shoes" rel="nofollow">http://greenhearttravel.org/high-school-abroad/in-japan-there-is-a-time-and-place-for-shoes</a></p> <p>As for me, most people take their shoes off when they enter my apartment... since I always do, and there's a bunch of shoes in the front of the house. For the few that don't, I do mention that we don't wear shoes in the house and ask really nicely if they don't mind taking their shoes off! If they don't take their shoes off, I don't press it - but I also probably wouldn't invite them back. Is that bad? I always ask really nicely first, I promise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238262 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 13:35:31 +0000 MrsRcCar 1238262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I don't wear shoes in the house. I love shoes but there is a freedom in no shoes. My mom wears her shoes all the time, but she really hates her carpet. She has said once the carpet is gone she will be ditching her shoes at the door too. My FIL's house is shoe free. I usually follow the home owners/ hosts cues. The only time I don't take them off is our family Christmas party, but that's because there are so many people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238237 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 13:16:28 +0000 Happygal 1238237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: funny is one word for it. I didn't know it could hit such a nerve.</p> <p>Has someone already posted this? <a href="http://youtu.be/sCoDKocbCOU" rel="nofollow">http://youtu.be/sCoDKocbCOU</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/4#post-1238233 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 13:13:28 +0000 mlm2934 1238233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm surprised at people saying they would never invite someone back to their house if they wore shoes while there? That's horrible. This is a differing social standard, not worth disallowing people in your home. I mean, I understand if you asked them not too and they refused and were really rude, but otherwise I don't get that.</p> <p>I just can't believe how insulting some of these comments are toward people who don't come from a culture or norm of taking shoes off at the door. I honestly can't think of one person's house I've been to where this was an issue or I was asked to remove my shoes. It doesn't mean I'm nasty or rude or have no manners - it's just a social/cultural difference among people.</p> <p>JEEZ, I need to stop reading the comments here cause I guess I'm starting to take them personally, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1238212 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 12:50:53 +0000 immabeetoo 1238212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: same!</p> <p>I can't even fathom leaving shoes on in someone else's house, and if they ask me to I am extremely uncomfortable. Shoes are gross. I grew up in a white, Midwest house and shoes came off at the door (although now, inexplicably, my Dad leaves his on at home now that we're all grown up.) I have no issues asking people to take theirs off at my house... there is a baby crawling around! Fortunately I don't ever anticipate hosting a fancy pants party but if I did, it would be at night after LO was asleep, I'd make everyone stay on hardwoods, and clean immediately after :)</p> <p>ETA- I did let LO crawl at the library, etc. where peoples' shoes obviously had walked but that was for short amounts of time. I don't want lawn chemicals, snow salt, dog poop, oil from the streets, etc. permanently on my rugs or carpet! I'm not an overly sanitized germaphobe :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1238201 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 12:42:18 +0000 MsMini 1238201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think someones vanity (my shoes make my outfit look good) trump the cleanliness of my house. If people can't take their shoes off, they should just avoid coming to my house. I think wearing shoes in someones home is gross. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1238197 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 12:36:48 +0000 birdofafeather 1238197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Penny Lane: I think the element that you're saying of being a good guest is also being a good host and not making your guests uncomfortable. </p> <p>I think it's funny that this debate is getting more heated than other controversial subjects I've seen discussed on the bee! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237874 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 05:27:55 +0000 Penny Lane 1237874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it blows my mind that this is even a debate! i don't wear shoes inside. i don't walk into someone else's house with my grotty shoes on. </p> <p>everyone i have ever known takes their shoes off at the door, at their own house or someone else's. i've honestly never even had anyone ask, because it's just what you do! there's always piles of shoes in the entry way.</p> <p>i don't understand how asking someone to keep your house clean and dirt free is rude! and a power play? srsly? talk about over thinking. it's going to ruin your outfit? boo hoo. get over it. it's their house, not yours, you need to respect their request, no matter how stupid or irrelevant you think it is!</p> <p>having said all that, DH wears shoes inside. i figure it's his house too, he can do what he wants. but if i have to ask a GUEST in OUR house to take their shoes off, and they get annoyed? they're not coming back. but, i wouldn't have to because everybody does anyway. maybe i'd feel differently if i had to ask every time. who knows </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237871 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 05:06:58 +0000 nana87 1237871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't wear shoes in our home, but it's more of a comfort thing than dirt. When we have guests over they usually take off their shoes bc they see ours in the entry way, but we never ask.</p> <p>I grew up in the Midwest with Texan parents and we're Jewish so I don't know how that helps the regional/cultural question, haha. I think it was bc we had hardwood floors? My parents always had out friends/kids take off shoes, but if they had adult parties they did not ask the guests to take off shoes.</p> <p>My in laws wear shoes at home. My fil throws fits in shoes are left by the door actually.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237820 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 01:11:07 +0000 googly-eyes 1237820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SleepyMonkey: Exactly!! I was honestly surprised when I read that part!! It's about the FLOOR and about US not about YOU!!</p> <p>We live in a small place and don't have people over but we have never even had to ask someone to take off shoes..they see ours and do it.</p> <p>I think this is a case of my house, my rules, your house, your rules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237805 Sat, 23 Nov 2013 00:36:48 +0000 lamariniere 1237805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in Austria and the common practice is to take off your shoes at some else's house. Many people keep baskets if house shoes or slippers by the front door. The exceptions seem to be for repair people and parties. Even when we have play dates or go to other people's homes for play dates, all the shoes come off. I have gotten into the habit of taking slippers for DS so I know he has warm feet and is not sliding around in socks. I am also maniacal about checking the status if my own socks if I know I'm going to be somewhere where I have to take off my shoes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237574 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 21:21:28 +0000 Boheme 1237574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remove my shoes in my own home, and have no problems removing my shoes at others' homes. My husband doesn't and it makes me crazy! </p> <p>I don't ask guests to do it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237487 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 20:31:56 +0000 sarac 1237487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: No, I'd hesitate to judge something based on cultural norms. But I don't care for the practice, despite the reasons behind it. I understand it in very wet, muddy places. Beyond that it makes me quite unhappy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237187 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 17:37:51 +0000 sandy 1237187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chibee: I'm Asian and my husband is white. I grew up in a no shoe household and my inlaws are a shoes on household. I've explained to my husband why I prefer not to have shoes on in the house and after a few years he's finally on board with me...which includes reminding his parents that we don't wear shoes in our house as a general rule. He became especially vigilant after we has LO. We have several slippers including ones they have brought over to leave at our place. </p> <p>All my mom friends are white and I don't know if it's bc they also have young kids but they are all no shoes in the house too. </p> <p>I do not insist on it when I have a large party but most people take off their shoes automatically and then I think everyone else follows suit. The only time I really remember wearing shoes in the house is in college...and at my inlaws...if you wear shoes in the house then I don't really want to be walking around in my socks/bare feet </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237123 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 17:06:08 +0000 PurplePumps 1237123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sapphiresun: Well yeah, I guess I don't really mean repair people cause we never really hire any, but we've had people over for energy audits or appraisal just walking around the house looking at things, so they did not need their shoes on. Even if there was hardware or stuff on the floor, I mean, we do wood working and repairs, etc ourselves and we don't wear shoes, it's not that dangerous. If it was for safety, then of course we'd let that slide, but we haven't run into a case where it'd crucial to have safety boots on. And for the 2 cases someone had to be in our attic, they had booties to put around their shoes to walk upstairs so I think people know that a lot of people don't want shoes trekking around in their house, otherwise they wouldn't have been so prepared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/interesting-blog-post-on-wearing-shoes-indoors/page/3#post-1237009 Fri, 22 Nov 2013 16:12:55 +0000 Sapphiresun 1237009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: really, I usually let it slide with repair people because I assume most are wearing them to protect their feet from whatever they're doing. I wouldn't pick up my own washing machine or walk around a room that might have nails lying around with stocking feet so wouldn't expect them to either. But yeah, if they're working outside and just need to pop in to get a drink or use the bathroom, off they come. </p>