https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 12:56:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1856233 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 11:28:58 +0000 youboots 1856233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh you pay them for their services, they need you, I doubt they judge what you are wearing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1856229 Wed, 10 Sep 2014 11:26:58 +0000 irene 1856229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha I definitely feel that! I work at home and I literally put on a nice dress or dress up somewhat when I pick up. I am a graphic designer / illustrator so to be honest even if I work at an office it would have just been tee and jeans and tennis shoes anyway, so it is just funny we have this guilt.</p> <p>I wonder maybe 1/3 of the mothers dress up when they pick up. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1855332 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 16:41:43 +0000 Andrea 1855332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same thought when DD went to daycare. Now she is in school and I don't think the judgment is there anymore. Most of the moms are SAHMs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1855009 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:38:53 +0000 Vegmama 1855009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like that when our nanny comes over, and I'm wearing workout clothes. It is irrational, but hey, we can't help it, right?! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854989 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:31:30 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1854989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guarantee you the teachers/staff don't think twice about what you're wearing!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854986 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:30:11 +0000 blackbird 1854986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate how much of a bum I look like when i work from home! I always feel the need to TELL my daycare lady that i'm working. Eep. I've been known to throw a polo on just so i look presentable for daycare dropoff. </p> <p>OH or i'll put my clothes back on OVER my work out gear b/c i feel embarrassed that i went to the gym and THEN came and picked E up. It feels so persona in an in-home daycare. Like she knows... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854965 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:18:23 +0000 MrsF 1854965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ooooh, mom-guilt! My DH doesn't understand feelings like this at all either. My situation is different, but I feel the same way when I sometimes leave M with her babysitter after I work an overnight shift. Nevermind that I've been awake for 27 or so hours by that point and on my feet for 12 hours at work. I still feel guilty for having to go home to nap while she's with someone else! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854957 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:11:58 +0000 avivoca 1854957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like that on days I send H to daycare but I have the day off. I try not to let it bother me because I paid for the day, whether or not I am working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854949 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 13:07:59 +0000 LuLu Mom 1854949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, but I usually tell the daycare "hey I'll be home today if you need anything" since they have my desk number on record. She never judges me, heck I've taken Lo and gone back home when I haven't felt good or took a day off because I needed to get stuff done, I don't feel bad about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854893 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:43:13 +0000 Anagram 1854893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I'm crazy though. I fully admit that I check out what all the other parents are wearing at pick up, just because I pick LO up somewhat early (3:15 pm) and these women that pick up their LOs at the same time in work out gear intrigue me.</p> <p>I want to know what job they have that allows them to be in comfy clothes all day and still be off work by 3 pm.</p> <p>I always imagine them to be living lives of luxury, with personal trainers and yoga classes, and ladies-who-lunch appointments. But probably it's a more mundane reason, like you know...wfh and flexible hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854875 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:37:40 +0000 .twist. 1854875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: That exact thing happened to me the other day. I was sick and DH took L to daycare. We needed to drop bottle off at the daycare for a bottle drive and I went with DH and I was so worried they'd see me and judge. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854874 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:36:57 +0000 looch 1854874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know what, though, I had to take a moment to think....I've actually dressed MORE formally on the days I plan to go to my son's day care or school...so I get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854868 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:34:14 +0000 Anagram 1854868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: omg, your post made me crack up because I feel the same way when I take a sick day from work. Like, last year I had a really bad stomach bug once and then another time a bad sinus infection...so I called in sick and had DH drop LO at daycare even though I was at home.</p> <p>And then I kind of worried LOs teachers would judge me for not keeping LO at home while I'm sick (since I showed up looking like crap).</p> <p>I realize that's ludicrous but still.</p> <p>And btw--your fears aren't totally unfounded! I kept telling DH about this woman in our building whose LO goes to the same daycare who always picked up her LO in work out clothes--and I kind of joked around with him like, "who is this woman who can afford full time daycare for her LO and just be a SAHM and probably spend all day working out"...like totally jealous right?</p> <p>And then my husband pointed out that she probably works at home. And I was like.....oh...duh. After all those months of being envious, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854857 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:29:42 +0000 78h2o 1854857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work 3 long days and have 2 days off...though lots of times I end up working from home for a few hours on those days. I sometimes keep LO home with me, but I usually send her for the morning at least. It's good for her to have the routine and I can get cleaning and shopping done so that I can spend more time with her during evenings/weekends. I sometimes wonder if they are thinking I'm being lazy, but I don't really care if they do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854851 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:28:49 +0000 Adira 1854851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: haha, yeah, you just need to not worry about it! They probably aren't judging you!! A lot of the parents I see at daycare pickup/drop-off are in their yoga pants and tank tops, so a lot of parents don't look like they are going to the office! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854840 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:25:49 +0000 Corduroy 1854840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: DH has every Friday off and he has zero issue taking her in and sitting at home playing video games. I'm just the one with the issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854836 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:23:30 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1854836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: I think not having casual office attire is what makes me not care as much because as much as they see the bummy me on the days I WFH, they also see a dressed up me the days I go into the office - so I at least know that they know I'm actually working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854832 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:22:54 +0000 Adira 1854832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel bad! I have every other Friday off and I still bring Xander to daycare! Usually I'm still in my pjs!!! They don't care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854830 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:22:28 +0000 autumnlove 1854830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: Our center always has sign up sheets for those holidays...I always sign the kids up! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854828 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:21:54 +0000 Corduroy 1854828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The casual office thing is part of the reason my thoughts are SO silly. I wear jeans and T-shirts to the office on occasion, it's usually jeans and blouse, so it's not like they could even really tell the difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854826 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:20:13 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1854826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: Hahah this is exactly both me and DH since we both WFH a few times a week. I'm such a bum and I don't care too much cuz I figure they'll see me 5 min max at dropoff. DH cares more than me and he always makes sure to put gel in his hair so he doesn't look so much like a college student. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854824 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:20:05 +0000 Mamaof2 1854824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister teaches at a DCP and she told me that yes, they all give side eye to the moms that drop off their kids and then go home or the mom who drop off their kids on a holiday.</p> <p>Ummm.... hello.... that's what I am paying you for - to watch my kids!</p> <p>I am guilty of both - dropping off and working from home and dropping off and enjoying my holiday off (hello Columbus day!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854820 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:18:39 +0000 snowjewelz 1854820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha you are too cute! There's really no way for them to judge though... What if sometimes you get ready after you drop off? They can never know! I also wonder if they really even notice as they're probably so busy. I don't have to dress up for work so they can def take it either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854814 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:17:48 +0000 Smurfette 1854814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most parents at LO's day care aren't dressed for office jobs. Or their offices are super casual. I think it it really common for parents to be working from home these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854811 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:17:14 +0000 lawbee11 1854811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL I've thought about this before. I WOH full-time, but our office is super casual so I wear jeans or cotton skirts to work every day and sometimes with sandals. It's crossed my mind that they probably think I am a SAHM but still send my kid to daycare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854810 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:16:45 +0000 autumnlove 1854810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha, I WAH FT and I look like a slob at pickup every day! I put on my contacts, makeup and dressed up once and the teachers didn't recognize me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-but-im-embarrassed-to-drop-offpick-up-lo-when-i-wah#post-1854804 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 12:14:12 +0000 Corduroy 1854804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>-Irrational post alert- I realize this is a non-problem, just wondering if I'm alone in this feeling.</p> <p>I WOH in an office most of the time. Occasionally I work from home. When I do I get embarrassed when I drop LO off at daycare in non-office attire. I feel like the daycare ladies think I'm just chilling at home. I think the feeling is magnified because DH works from home a lot and when I work from home we do drop off &amp; pick up together. I'm tempted to dress up so it looks like I'm working as hard as I am. Stupid mommy guilt. Who even cares if I was chilling at home?? DH thinks these thoughts are HILARIOUS. He has no such qualms. </p> <p>Anybody else feel like this? </p>