https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 17 Aug 2026 18:51:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507673 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 11:55:09 +0000 immabeetoo 507673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh SIDS!! So scary. I also wake up once a night in a cold sweat convinced I've brought him into our bed to nurse and he's trapped under blankets. It's the absolute worst to wake up in a panic! I have no clue why since he's always in his crib and I nurse him in his room :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507524 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 11:14:52 +0000 ladyfingers 507524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellocupcake: WTFFFFFF. No. Just... no.</p> <p>He's not even here yet and I have all sorts of irrational fears! Placental abruption, cord prolapse, suddenly for no reason us going to a weekly appointment and there being no heartbeat. I knew a couple this happened to at 39 weeks so I'm petrified. To the point where... all pregnancy I've been adamant I don't want an induction, but part of me is hoping that for some reason my doctors will tell me today (at my 37 week appointment) that they want to induce me soon. Just so I can get him out and here...</p> <p>Wherrrrrre I can indulge more irrational fears. SIDS and dropping him are high on my list, as is childhood cancer and any host of random and rare diseases. :(</p> <p>@jessiejo17: I have that fear, too!! For no reason, obviously, since he's not here yet... But I'm so worried that they'll think we're doing something wrong! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507362 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 10:10:37 +0000 betsyboop 507362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: This has nothing to do with parent fears but I never realized there was a zoom on the Motorola monitor. Whoa, thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507340 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 10:01:54 +0000 LuLu Mom 507340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SIDS, I had a coworker lose her 3 month old (while he was napping at daycare) to SIDS when I was 9 months pregnant, I check on her at least 3 times a night. </p> <p>And this one is hard to admit: I also have a strange fear that my daycare provider is going to think we neglect or abuse our daughter (even though these things are not even close to being true) and she's the nicest lady. I feel like I over justify every decision I make. A lot of this is due to her acid reflex and the fact that she's a crabby baby sometimes and spits up all the time. I didn't take the daycare lady's advice on formula and took our doctor's instead, and now I think she will judge me! haha ugh why did I admit this :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507252 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 09:17:09 +0000 PrincessBaby 507252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bree72: I used to think that SIDS was so incredibly rare, but unfortunately you are the 3rd person to know someone that lost a baby to SIDS since I gave birth 6 weeks ago. I am really paranoid about this!!! I use the 2x zoom on the Motorola to make sure I can see her chest rising and falling!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507166 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 07:41:51 +0000 BananaPancakes 507166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a good friend whose 3 month old passed away from SIDS while I was pregnant so I have never slept well at night, and I check on my now 9 month old son constantly. I barely slept the first 6 months. It was awful. I constantly thought about it and was so sure he was going to die. Its finally starting to let up some, but my new fear is falling furniture and someone dropping him. And someone giving him peanuts and him having a peanut allergy. He likely doesn't have one, but man, I am paranoid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507158 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 07:00:15 +0000 lomom 507158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm irrationally scared that someone will give LO a bottle of formula. I'm going to be *hopefully* breastfeeding, if I'm able to and I just gave this fear that DH or MIL will give LO a bottle so that I can sleep a bit longer. I've told DH that he can't do that because I'd be engorged and, especially in the beginning, it could hurt my supply. He kind of just nodded like 'I don't know what you're talking about but I'm going to agree before you start crying.' </p> <p>I have nothing against formula, it just stems from my other not-so-irrational fear that I'll have a lot of trouble breastfeeding. So I'm pretty determined to avoid pacifiers and bottles to limit the possibility of nipple confusion and supply issues and engorgement. </p> <p>Ftm, if you couldn't tell lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507151 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 06:29:36 +0000 MrsBeachyBaby 507151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why did I open this? Now I have more irrational fears to add to the list :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507143 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 05:50:22 +0000 gracecat 507143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dropping, breathing,kidnapping,everuthing! Actually I shouldnt read this thread since it could add to my list of fears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507137 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 04:37:03 +0000 loveisstrange 507137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was irrationally afraid that she was just going to stop breathing. </p> <p>@PrincessBaby: @mrskc: Hahaha, as someone who was a nanny, I can tell you.... one of the joys of the job is that you get to give the kids back at the end of the day. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507135 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 04:28:03 +0000 hellobeeboston 507135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellocupcake: oh. My. God. Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507133 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 04:18:50 +0000 hellocupcake 507133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not to add to your fear buuuut, my sister's MIL confessed to once letting her grandson suck on her boob since nothing else would comfort him! Now my sister is horrified that she might do it with her daughter! (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507099 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 02:15:30 +0000 78h2o 507099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: I had to get the Snuza monitor so I wouldnt have to check her all the time. While I was pregnant, one of my neighbors twin babies died in his sleep (I don't know if they found out why) and that freaked me out. I LOVE the Snuza!</p> <p>@highwire: I worry about her crying at a daycare too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507094 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 02:01:07 +0000 lovehoneybee 507094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: This is my fear too. It's okay when he's sleeping with us but when he's in the PnP I constantly check to make sure he's still breathing. I've gotten out of the bath to check, and then gotten back in, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507091 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 01:55:26 +0000 Bao 507091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the beginning I was always afraid someone was going to drop her. Now I have fears (ok I always have) that age will just stop breathing at night. I read too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507088 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 01:52:36 +0000 mrskc 507088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I have that fear too! I keep thinking I'll come home one day to find that the nanny took off with my baby. </p> <p>@hilsy85: Oh gosh I worry about that too. Ever since my DH read me this story on reddit about a babysitter who dropped the baby on the tile and the baby died, I have this irrational fear it's going to happen. And we have a house full of tile! Why did he have to tell me that story! </p> <p>I worry a lot. It's like I can envision all the ways he can get hurt and die and it scares me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-507084 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 01:43:39 +0000 hilsy85 507084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly that someone will drop him or he'll hit his head in some way. I have anxiety when others hold him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-506947 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 22:32:03 +0000 prettylizy 506947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't remember any of my fears from the newborn time (I think the hormones blocked them out!) but now that she is cutting teeth, I worry that they will be crowded, or spaced too far apart and stuff like that. She's getting a top tooth and I keep thinking "What if she has a gap and will need braces when she gets her big girl teeth?" Ridiculous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-506943 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 22:29:18 +0000 travelgirl1 506943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am insanely paranoid about germs. If ANYONE comes near her while we're out, whether she's in her stroller or the ergo, I'm in their face batting them away, lol. Once DH was holding her in Baby Gap and I saw the sales assistant touch her arm and before I could stop myself I was saying "Don't touch her!!!!!" I'm so bothered about it that even when we're Skyping family and all the kids are cooing over her I get all protective of her and want to pick her up - it's a webcam, as if their germs are going to get her, lol. I'm slightly irrational over it : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-506715 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 20:55:55 +0000 DillonLion 506715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: oh gosh! Lol kidnapping. Add that to my list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-506710 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 20:54:14 +0000 PrincessBaby 506710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs Highwire!!!!</p> <p>I have to hire a nanny and I'm scared shitless that she's going to charm them into kidnapping her!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fears-as-a-new-parent#post-506689 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 20:49:19 +0000 DillonLion 506689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are your irrational fears in regards to LO?</p> <p>I am so paranoid that someone else will breastfeed her!! I have no idea why I worry about this, but it is like my worst fear right now.</p> <p>In the less ridiculous arena, I'm also horrified by the idea that I'm going to leave LO at daycare in a few weeks and the staff is just going to let her cry all day and not comfort her, or the only thing that will make her feel better is to nurse and I wont be able to. Ugh it breaks my heart to even think about it.</p> <p>Sorry for the Debbie downer post! </p>