https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 02:07:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676455 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:44:50 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 676455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: beautifully said, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676441 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:39:44 +0000 Mrs. Polish 676441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's hard to understand adoption when you're not directly involved. I know firsthand that my son is my child in every sense of the word and I could not love him more. Mr P told me the other day that he would be fine if we could never have biological children. I feel the same, and trust me, that's huge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676430 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:36:20 +0000 Mrs. Polish 676430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I was reading through the responses and wanted to say this same thing to everyone saying they couldn't love the same. </p> <p>I understand it isn't for everyone, but I can't help wanting to try to show people how it really feels. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676423 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:31:27 +0000 Mrs. Train 676423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep.adopting my son was one of the best things I ever did. I hope someday to foster or foster/adopt. So many kids need a mommy it hurts my heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676401 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:21:46 +0000 Beebug 676401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No.</p> <p>Before DH and I had LO we discussed adoption as it was something I wanted so badly to do someday, I always said I wanted to have bio children and then adopt a child (from children's aid) the same age as our oldest. DH was/is on board.</p> <p>Knowing the process of adoption, how long it takes and how pretty impossible it would be it wouldn't be worth the effort/stress, etc (so awful typing that) and we would just have another bio LO. Unless you foster for like 5+ years, adoption isn't really possible without major process, which is crazy, I get it (sort of) but it's crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676390 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:16:09 +0000 ladyfingers 676390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted no only because we have DS so if we couldn't get pregnant again we just would only have 1 child. But if we had had problems getting pregnant with him, I would have preferred to adopt than go through fertility treatments. So it was definitely an option before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676389 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:16:06 +0000 lovehoneybee 676389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: That's pretty much exactly how we feel about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676379 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 22:13:20 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 676379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No.<br /> I could do it but DH already made it clear before we got married that, if we couldn't have kids, he would want us to be happy with what we have in life &amp; not to "force it". I think he says that because he fears he would never feel like dad to that child.<br /> However, we both agree that we would gladly take in a child of a relative's if that child was being abused or left orphaned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676160 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:26:07 +0000 pl0508 676160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been in the camp of wanting to adopt regardless of our ability to conceive. I think I still feel that way. I'm not so sure if DH is on board. He had a lot of uncertainty last time we discussed it. My heart has always been drawn to Africa. I would love to go on a mission trip there at some point. I've always wondered if I feel such a connect because we are meant to adopt from there some day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-676086 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 21:05:33 +0000 Weagle 676086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It's definitely an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674986 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:42:20 +0000 photojane 674986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! We're definitely adopting after our 2nd biological child. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674950 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:37:40 +0000 anonysquire 674950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. It's always been an option for me. I'm so thankful DH has warmed up to the idea and now he's on board. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674947 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:37:26 +0000 heffalump 674947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we have a third we might adopt. I have health issues that get worse when I'm pregnant, so I'm not sure my body could handle so many pregnancies. I'm nervous about just 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674943 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:36:52 +0000 Sweet T 674943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. I truly think we'll stop at two. I also don't think we could ever afford to go through the adoption route. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674906 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:26:01 +0000 PrincessBaby 674906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmmm. I think if we didnt have H, then it would be. I want 3 kids, but if we had secondary IF, I think I would just be grateful for her and call it a day. I just don't feel that hunger or need that I felt for a baby like I did when we were so desperately TTC. I'd love to have more, but she makes my heart swell and would be more than enough if TTC didn't work out for us:). </p> <p>But I remember that ache. That obsession. And if I ever got there again, then we'd talk about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674879 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:21:01 +0000 SweetMamaM 674879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but would prefer at least two bio kids first - if this isn't possible, we'd definitely consider adoption from the get go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674869 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:19:22 +0000 prettylizy 674869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've never even considered it but we didn't have any problems with TTC and pregnancy. If we had IF issues, I'm sure it's something we'd talk about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674849 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 18:13:06 +0000 wheres_c 674849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: same situation here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674775 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:50:45 +0000 MamaMoose 674775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I put undecided. Now that we have successfully had a biological child adoption isn't something I see us actively seeking out. However if there happen to be a child in our lives who came into circumstances where they didn't have a loving home to go to, we would provide that to them to the best of our ability. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674758 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:45:14 +0000 Dandelion 674758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't until our recent loss. It's now on the table, but trying again, I think, will come first. </p> <p>We also are open to be foster parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674750 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:42:08 +0000 stargal 674750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes but realistically I do not think we can afford it unless we do foster to adopt. We def want to foster a child though hopefully in a couple years we will. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674745 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:41:12 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 674745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have adopted and it's one of the coolest things we've ever done. I think fears of loving an adopted child less are completely unfounded. I love that girl with the intensity of 1000 suns!</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: I'm so glad you are getting there. You are so ready to be a mom and I feel like it's time for you to have something tangible to look forward to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674732 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:39:01 +0000 sorrycharlie 674732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up open to it, but DH is not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674630 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:17:05 +0000 immabeetoo 674630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We plan to in the future, via foster to adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674624 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:15:51 +0000 mrsjazz 674624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: Exactly the same issue with my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674623 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:15:49 +0000 mamabolt 674623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this point it's unlikely but I wouldn't say never. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674615 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:14:19 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 674615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674609 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:13:07 +0000 Foodnerd81 674609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If we had fertility issues it would definitely have been an option. At this point it is unlikely that we will go down that road though. </p> <p>@zippylef: Dh has expressed the same fear. I think he would be fine but it's something he is worried about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674608 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:13:02 +0000 3littlebees 674608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we're done with our three, but if I was younger and had more patience, I definitely would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-adoption-an-option#post-674603 Thu, 28 Mar 2013 17:12:12 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 674603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's an option for us. </p>