https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 14:07:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464194 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 13:36:48 +0000 littlebug 464194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't even told anyone yet, but our plan is just Hubs and I. We don't even want anyone coming to the hospital (which is 1.5 hours from our family) until AFTER LO is born. Our plan is to call and let them know when we go to the hospital, but tell them not to come until we call them again. Once LO is born, we'll call again and then they can hit the road. That way, we're guaranteed at least a couple hours of it being just the 3 of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464186 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 13:32:13 +0000 sorrycharlie 464186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the ILs are actually causing a huge issue right now (this past week) about exactly this. </p> <p>Before I delivered I told MIL that I wasn't going to be calling anyone before I had the baby (they went into SIL's hospital room the minute after she delivered - their son's wife) and she was mad and said "we wouldn't bother you!" But I stood my ground and thought they understood. </p> <p>Well, 11 weeks later they just blew up at me. Long story short but basically now most of DH's family isn't really talking to us. HAHA. Whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464175 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 13:26:23 +0000 lomom 464175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's my maternal grandmother and she's mad that she's not invited into the delivery room. She thinks I'm lying about my mom not being in the room. My mom is only going to be in there when DH needs to get fresh air or a sandwich or whatever. DH and I just feel like its something that the two of us should experience. I feel strongly that I don't want to be alone, ever, even if DH is just grabbing a cup of coffee, which is why my mom will be hanging around the waiting room as backup. </p> <p>My grandmother seriously thinks that anyone who wants into the delivery room should be allowed in. She has zero respect for the fact that it's about DH, me being comfortable, and most importantly, having a healthy baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464110 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 12:28:38 +0000 Mrs. Pen 464110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: @Bao: never ever ever ever in a million years or for a million dollars would I let my MIL be in the delivery room!!! Aghhhh talk about uncomfortable,</p> <p>I did have my mom though and that was amazing. She was such a support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464091 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 12:10:36 +0000 jedeve 464091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is she upset about her not being there or your mom not being there?</p> <p>My parents are coming in to town a few days before my due date (they live across the country). But they haven't asked about being in the hospital room. I'm okay with them stopping by post epi, pre pushing. But other than that, probably not. My MIL hasn't asked either, although I'm sure she'll drive down to be there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464036 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 11:34:17 +0000 twinmama 464036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Blame it on hospital policy if you need to. Only so many people allowed in the room...aka 1-2 support people in your case. We had a huge room, but it still got crowded fast with doctors, nurses, and equipment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464021 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 11:27:52 +0000 prettylizy 464021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: Is it your maternal Grandma that is upset? If so, I would explain your feelings to your mom, and have her address it with Grandma. Barring that, most nurses are awesome at playing referee in these types of situations. When you get checked in, ask that they not allow anyone other than hubby and Mom in, and they will keep the rest at bay. They can come up with whatever medical reason they want to and you're not the bad guy. </p> <p>FWIW, when I was in labour everyone who wanted to visit me came in and only lasted about 5 minutes each because watching me in labour isn't all that fun after all. I was trying to be polite but after 2 minutes I had to stop and sway through a contraction, they got the hint! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464018 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 11:26:50 +0000 JessiBee 464018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At least they'll be in town already! We don't live in the same city (state, part of the country) as any of our family, so we had to decide when to have them come in. We decided we want a few days on our own first, so we had to break it to the parents that they won't meet their granddaughter until she's 5-6 days old. They're used to the idea now (mostly), but that was not fun news to break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-464009 Mon, 24 Dec 2012 11:22:17 +0000 MusicaV 464009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL wanted to be in the room. I didn't find out until I was in labor and my ILs showed up at the hospital. I had DH tell her no, but I have no idea how she took it or if she is still upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-463152 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:52:22 +0000 Rubies 463152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL was so upset when I had to gently tell her that it would only be DH with me because she assumed she would be allowed. she got over it...I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-463136 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:20:23 +0000 Bao 463136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL was furious, but seriously DH and I wanted it to be just us. We had to keep reminding her we were having no one in there, took her a while but she finally got over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-463133 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:17:42 +0000 wheres_c 463133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was slightly hurt when i told her i only wanted SO in the room. I discussed it with her, and despite the fact she was hurt, she respected my decision. It was other people that seemed more upset that i wasnt planning on including her. I politely told them to mind their own business and that it was my decision.</p> <p>Funnily enough, even after my calling mom when my water broke and her having to take a 3 hour flight to get here, i was still in labor when she arrived. I was exhausted and tired and frustrated when she arrived and I changed my mind about wanting her there. I let her sit in the corner and I was really glad she was tere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-463130 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:15:52 +0000 autumnlove 463130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is still upset because I didn't want her at the hospital when LO was born. I want her there for baby 2 but she made vacation plans around my due date! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/is-anyone-upset-that-they-arent-invited-into-the-delivery-room#post-463112 Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:07:17 +0000 lomom 463112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried that my grandma is going to bring up the delivery room for the third time, at Christmas. The first time she asked, I was just like "Probably DH and me". She dropped it but the second time she got a bit miffed at me. She was basically saying that my mom would be in there and I couldn't stop her and that I should let whoever wants to be there come in. </p> <p>Fwiw, my mom and husband and I have a great plan (and an understanding that childbirth is quite unpredictable) that we are all comfortable with. But I feel like its no one else's business. My mom will be in the room just when DH needs a break (fresh air, sandwich, whatever) but other than that, she will be in the waiting room or at our house letting the dogs out, etc. </p> <p>I'm worried that my grandma is going to bring up the delivery room again and I don't want to have to defend my decision or listen to her try to turn my childbirth into a spectator sport. </p> <p>Did you run into this? How did you handle it? </p>